alright guys in this video we're going to be going over 10 habits of successful
relationships now these are things that you can model yourself these are things
that successful relationships have in common that you can look at and go wow
if I do that I will have a higher likelihood of having a successful
relationship now this can be anything from dating boyfriend/girlfriend
marriage all the way down to just your friends just your co-workers even your
neighbors this is a broad spectrum of things it's just having a great
relationship and number one is communication a lot of problems are
caused simply because people do not know how to communicate how they feel how
they think and what is causing the problem and if you get communication
down it's the foundation for a great relationship I know a lot of people who
are friends but don't feel comfortable telling each other how they feel and
because of that they have a very rocky relationship and there's not much
content there's not much meat in the friendship it's just you know if one of
them got in a car accident they would show up to the hospital bed and they'd
say there's anything I can do I'll do it for you but they won't actually mean it
like they wouldn't actually like scrub their feet that was a weird analogy but
you know what I mean it's not like a deep meaningful relationship to me
number two is forgiveness and this is something that I've noticed in my life
that you can find there's a lot of people who struggle with forgiving
someone and something I actually I wouldn't suggest this but you can do it
if you want to is actually to make a mistake on purpose and then ask someone
else for your forgiveness and in turn how they forgive you can determine the
quality of the relationship so it's completely ambiguous I wouldn't do
anything major but as long as you understand that your friend your spouse
your girlfriend your boyfriend whoever you're living with can forgive you
that's going to be a quality of a great relationship and you in turn can do that
yourself you can forgive people for what they have done and it's actual
forgiveness not just saying that you apologized but forgiveness like I
actually forgive you I'm not going to do it again I am sorry I feel bad that
comes a lot with tip number 3 which is understanding when you understand the
person and how they feel it comes a lot easier to forgive them now understanding
is really difficult and you kind of have to have I don't want to be real cheesy
about it but you have to have a big heart
have to have the openness to want to understand someone else in their
situation and the empathy and the sympathy to know how someone else feels
and understanding their situation that they may not have had the out to get you
kind of thinking but something bad happens and that understanding will lead
to forgiveness and over time understanding them they will be more
likely to be open to understanding you tip number four is to understand the
five love languages and when if you've ever read the book the five love
languages you will start to understand that's loving someone but having a
loving relationship isn't something you can do passively you know I talk about
income all the time you can make passive income to where it just trickles into
your bank account you don't even have to think about it but a great relationship
if you understand the five love languages you start to understand that
they're not passive they're active so you have to go out and it's kind of
breaks down a habit a little bit but actively loving someone understanding
that this friend will feel more loved if I give them a gift every week and this
friend on the other hand won't feel the same way but they will feel loved even
more if I spend 30 minutes with them every day and the five love languages
you can read that book their words of affirmation service gifts quality time
and physical touch and everyone's different you might have a mix of those
one of those I'd be super important to you you just have to understand yourself
and you also have to understand the person that you're with the
relationships that you have built in your life when you start deconstructing
them and finding out what their love languages or what their priorities are
then you can start to have a better relationship in terms of how you form
your habits tip number five is respect now this is a big one and I've actually
had some struggle with this among some of my friends because they'll go out and
do things and it's hard for me to respect them through their actions but I
can tell you what the friends that I do respect I have a great relationship with
you know I look up to them it's like wow that's a great quality that I think you
have and I would like to have that just respecting them understanding that
they're not below you that are with you and sometimes when you start to look at
people below you you start to not respect them as much because you feel
like they're undervalued but and I don't want to talk about this as much because
I don't know much about it but I do know it is a habit of great relationships
respect tip number six is to she ate each other now appreciation can
go anything all the way back to the five love languages to say I appreciate you
let's spend 30 minutes together watching the sunset - I appreciate you I wrote
you a little note when I thought of you or here's a small gift when I was on
vacation just appreciating them and sometimes you can even vocally tell
someone hey I appreciate that you're in my life
and that helps out a lot tip number seven is to look at situations not that
it's me versus you it's not me versus you I'm gonna say that one more time
it's not me versus you what it is is us versus the problem so when you come at
something and there are people coming they start just butting heads and it's
like where it's like a war they're starting to attack each other and attack
each other's personal qualities and that's that's the problem in the first
place isn't that they're not joining together to solve the problem and the
thing is if they would just join together and go you know what it's not
your fault it's not my fault it's both of our faults what can we do to solve
this problem that will solve so many relationship problems just coming at it
together as a team whether that's a marriage team or a boyfriend/girlfriend
team or even you and your friend if you guys just start looking at problems and
bickers that you guys bickering as something that you guys can solve
together you'll have a lot more success in that relationship the next tip is
that honesty comes first now there's a lot of times in my life I can look back
and go man it was really easy to lie there but when it comes down to it
friendships and great relationships are for the long term so if you want a short
term relationship yeah go ahead and lie but if you be honest even if you be
honest first without going through a bunch of loopholes that friend will
start to respect you more they will understand you more you will start to
have better communication with them it's just a another great foundational habit
of a great relationship is to be honest first and if you don't feel comfortable
being honest to a person there might be some psychological abuse or something
else going on that is making that relationship unsteady and you ma you
probably want to get away from that the next tip is to make time for each other
now this is something I struggle with and I think a lot of entrepreneurs might
struggle with in relationships specifically because they love to work
I'm almost like a workaholic I love working something about me specifically
is that I don't want to spend my time doing
meaningless so I look at things and I value my time really high and sometimes
if I'm just out with my girlfriend and we're not having a great time I almost
start to look down upon that because I was like I could be making five or ten
thousand more dollars a month if I spent that time on the business but I also
look at the relationship view of it and I'm like you know this relationship is a
great thing in my life if I didn't have it I might not want to work as hard so
that's something that you've got a balance and you've got to be self-aware
to understand what percent of your life do you want to work and what percent of
your life do you want to be actually part of your life and the entrepreneur
part of that is where can you mesh those the last tip is of course to laugh a lot
now there are a ton of psychological benefits to laughing a lot and if you
can build a habit up to where when you spend time with someone and you just
when you're around them you're charismatic sometimes some people that
I'm around I literally just feel more charismatic
and it's not even me that has changed it's them it's the people that I'm
around they make me feel more charismatic they make me feel like it's
okay to laugh it's okay to be myself and if you can surround yourself with people
like that that's another great habit to form in a great relationship so I'm
gonna go back through and review these ten habits that you can come up with
that you can model the masters to have a great relationship
number one is communication the next one's forgiveness number three is
understanding number four is to understand and actively pursue the five
love languages number five is respect each other number
six is to appreciate each other number seven is to look at things that it's us
versus the problem not me versus you number eight is to be always honest
first tip number nine is to make time for each other and said number ten is to
laugh a lot hope you guys enjoy this video learn something and if you have
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