With intention and understanding at the root of most INFJ experiences, there's no wonder
why this old soul personality type is known for being rather mentally resilient. Yet,
with the paradoxical reputation of being sensitive to stimuli, caught up in perfectionism,
and self criticisms, how does the INFJ use this mental resilience to their advantage?
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Number 1: They genuinely want to see others succeed
This first reason behind the INFJ’s mental resilient nature is one that a lot of people
can learn from. With stereotypical self-critical habits, you’d think they look to others as a form
of competition. In reality, that’s far from the truth. Because in reality, there’s nobody
the INFJ intentionally competes with other than their past selves. With an unwavering empathetic
viewpoint and understanding of the people they meet, INFJs don’t see the value in thinking less
of others for any reason. Their compassion allows them the mental resistance against
allowing bitterness and jealousy into these judgments. While they’re no stranger to envy,
the INFJ uses these personal acknowledgments to make changes to their own life. They use other
people’s successes as well as their failures as inspiration and as a blueprint to later apply
the necessary steps to achieve their own form of similar success. This also allows them the
freedom to use other people’s strengths and abilities to their own advantage and to the
advantage of others without feeling the need to prove that they’re not as talented as they are.
Number 2: Stagnancy causes them stress
After a hard hit, some may question the INFJ’s rather aloof recuperation period. While it’s
nearly impossible for them to avoid taking time out to analyze the situation after the fact,
this period of reflection doesn’t last long. Whether it’s an unexpected change or an outcome
that goes against their initial hopes, the INFJ will only ruminate for as long as necessary.
They won’t prolong the process because as soon as this normally-organized type begins to lose
grip of their everyday responsibilities, it’ll only add more stress to the situation. In fact,
in most instances, they actually prefer navigating through a series of stressful situations over
living a more stagnant life. It’s as if without some sort of struggle, challenge or distraction,
the INFJ feels as if they aren’t evolving at a steady pace. In other words, the INFJ
can’t help but to be mentally-resilient if they want to avoid further self-inflicted pressure.
Number 3: They always look for the lessons in negative experiences
The INFJ personality type analyzes the most intricate of details when it comes to both
positive and negative experiences in life. They need to know not only how certain experiences
came about but also what they ‘mean’ on a grander scale. Not only are these deeper understandings
important for their own repertoire of knowledge, but this counselor-type prefers using personal
examples of real life experiences to get their point across. In fact, they’re also known to
analyze other people’s lives when they feel they can learn certain lessons they wouldn’t experience
themselves. In the end, these lesson-finding opportunities become a lot less scary,
not only allowing them to recognize the emotions that are expected with certain life obstacles,
but to also remain optimistic in their own life circumstances, and when giving advice to others.
Number 4: Their stereotypical sensitivity gives them the necessary preparation
When it comes to INFJ stereotypes, the one thing that (quote on quote),
‘holds them back’ from being considered mostly mentally resilient is their innate sensitivity.
With a combination of introverted intuition and extraverted feeling as their two most dominant
functions, the INFJ can easily become overwhelmed by excessive or prolonged environmental stimuli.
This includes too many details, sensory overload in the form of light, sound, smells, and people,
and even a sensitivity to certain strong energies and emotions being experienced by others nearby.
While this can get quite overwhelming at times, this special gift gives the already
extremely observant INFJ the ability to predict possible outcomes; in turn, allowing them to
adapt to change and uncertainty before things play out. Which leads us to our next point..
Number 5: They’re probably more informed than expected
No matter how daring, difficult or confusing a personal decision may be for the INFJ personality
type, they always seem to keep cool, calm and collected in times that others would seem
panicked. Whether it’s picking up on the subtle cues through their sensitive and observant nature,
or it’s seeking out the evidential research, INFJs are usually more prepared and informed than they
may seem. Now, is this because they don’t trust that everything will fall into place? In some ways
yes. However, from an outer perspective, it may seem as if they’re more irrational or unable to
take life seriously than they really are. When in reality, the INFJ is able to remain calm because
they can trust their own judgment due to this highly analytical and perfectionistic attitude.
For example, if this ambitious type set out to do a cross-country solo road-trip, some may roll
their eyes and think “They won’t get past the neighboring city”. Or they may be doubtfully
asked something like “have you ever budgeted for a trip?” when in reality the INFJ has mapped out,
priced out, pre-planned, and pre-booked each stop and destination. Not only that,
but they will also have an extensive mental guide-book of things that could go wrong
according to other people’s experiences as well as a deeper reasoning behind their journey.
Number 6: They’re never narrow-minded
The definition of psychological resiliency is the ability to cope mentally or emotionally
with a crisis or to return to pre-crisis status quickly. And with psychological resiliency comes
the need to remain open-minded and objective.. 2 strengths that INFJs naturally possess.
Since the INFJ is notably open-minded, they tend to be excellent at understanding other people’s
viewpoints, opinions, and actions. Not only does this give them the natural ability to empathize by
putting themselves in other’s shoes, but it also holds them back from auto-pilot judgments that
may not be true. This gives them a different type of mental and emotional resilience that makes it
nearly impossible to throw this personality type off by a behavior or action. In fact,
sometimes the subtle lack of automatic grandiose reaction can give people the sense of peace they
crave in a hectic situation, especially when someone feels as if they’ve made a mistake.
Number 7: They rarely feel sorry for themselves
While it may be considered a less-ideal approach to self-regulation, the self-critical INFJ almost
never feels sorry for themselves. Whether they’re experiencing something that is beyond their
personal control or something they’ve inevitably caused, the INFJ always resorts to questioning and
gratitude-giving. Questioning how they could’ve avoided the situation at hand, questioning what
lessons are present for future scenarios, and then adding a more philosophical set of lenses
to the mix by questioning if it was ‘supposed’ to happen or not. In addition to questioning, their
appreciation for life becomes much more apparent as they consciously take count of the things in
life that are going right. Between all of this analyzing, detail-downloading, and intuitive
questioning, rarely does the INFJ stop to think that maybe it’s life who just has it out for them.
With the deeper understanding that most lessons in life are self-fulfilled,
they rather not waste their time sulking in what could’ve been. Ultimately giving them the strength
to pick themselves up, dust themselves off and move forward. Which brings us to our next point..
Number 8: They harmonize self-development with self-acceptance
Sure, every INFJ is one their own never-ending path of self-improvement,
but that doesn’t mean they don’t accept themselves as they are. For most people,
self-development and self-improvement come in waves and are usually triggered
by a negative self-opinion. In these circumstances, self-improvement becomes
more difficult as there’s an underlying notion of unwantedness fueling the desire.
For the INFJ, self improvement tends to come a little more naturally. While they may criticize
themselves for their idea of perfection, deep down, the INFJ knows just how capable they are.
They’re able to easily recognize which areas of life they need to focus on without the degrading
undertone that stops people from taking action. This gives the INFJ the one-up when it comes
to actually confirming their intentions before then combining them with their high standards.
Well PSYCH-Os, that’s it for today.. So, would you consider yourself a considerably mentally
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