- Heya playa, if you're crushed like someone else,
and not you, and you want to do something about it,
I'm gonna tell you exactly how to approach
that situation, so stay tuned.
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In a situation like this, there's only two paths
that you could walk down.
You need to figure out which one works for you.
Your crush knows that you like them, or they don't.
If your crush knows that you like them, but they still
like someone else, what does that mean?
Well, it doesn't mean that they don't like you,
because people can have multiple crushes at at time.
Just because you know that they like someone else
doesn't mean that you should give up.
Doesn't mean that you don't have a fighting chance.
There is definitely gonna be a little bit more pressure
on you if your crush already knows that you like them,
because the clock is ticking.
You only have a certain window of time to
actually act on it before your crush decides
this person is just a friend.
Or, this person is never gonna approach me.
So, don't waste that time.
You need to start moving now.
Especially if your crush likes someone else,
because who knows when that other person
is gonna ask them out.
The last thing you want to happen is that your crush
gets with someone else, not because they didn't like you,
or it didn't work out between the two of you,
but because someone else took the opportunity from you.
There's always gonna be this built in fear that because
they know you like them, your cover is blown.
It's not a secret anymore, and now that it's not
a secret, because you two haven't started going out,
you've already failed.
But that's simply not the case.
It's totally possible that your crush might be in
a situation where multiple people like them,
but they're just kind of waiting for the right person
to step up to be confident to ask them out.
Don't allow other people to take your opportunity.
If you really like your crush, if you really want to
be with them, then you have to seize the moment.
You have to start acting.
You need to start taking those small steps by
talking to them, getting to know them better,
and asking them to hang out.
So what if your crush doesn't know that you like them?
Ah ha, the element of surprise.
Well, that doesn't really change much here,
because you still need to act.
If your crush doesn't know you like them,
then they're not even gonna start considering
you as someone to date.
And what you want to be is be the person on
the back of their mind.
The person that they're constantly thinking about
saying when is this person gonna ask me out?
I can't wait to spend time with them
But if they like someone else right now, and you're not
even part of that mental equation, well, then you're
only making things tougher for yourself.
Because they're going to invest more and more of their
mental energy on this single person that they like.
What you really want is for them to split that and
partially send it over to you.
I'm gonna put up a poll right here, so that you guys
can let me know which situation you're in.
Your crush likes someone else, but they already know you
like them, versus they don't know you like them.
And regardless of which of those situations you're in,
you're still gonna run into some of the common obstacles
that are just there when your crush likes someone else.
Such as, they're better friends, they see each other
more often, they flirt more, they have a better opportunity
to connect than you do with your crush.
And I think the most common problem here that anyone in
this situation runs into is that they assume defeat.
They give up too early.
They think that just because their crush is getting along
with that person and things are going well,
that you just have no chance.
It's not even worth you trying, and nothing could
be further from the truth.
Remember, the person that your crush likes
isn't your competition.
Your biggest competition here is yourself.
Your crush isn't sitting there thinking, well which of
these two people is gonna win me over.
Your crush is individual relationships.
One with you and one with them.
And it's important for you to focus on your connection
with your crush, no on the other person's.
If you carry yourself like a likable person,
if you're fun and flirty and you ask them about
their hobbies and their interests.
If you ask them out and you spend time with them
one on one, well then yeah you can definitely beat out
the other person that they like.
Because your crush is gonna start to shift their
focus over to you, because you're the one being
confident and acting on it.
Simply liking someone doesn't mean anything is gonna
manifest, so your crush can have crushes for days,
but that doesn't mean any of the people that they like
is actively working to be with them.
That's what's gonna separate you from eveyrone else.
What I want you to do now, is hit the thumbs up button,
if you haven't already, and leave a comment down below
letting me know what's your situation like.
Does your crush like someone else?
And what's holding you back from talking to them?
Also, check out the video over there listed on the side
to learn how to be a likable person.
On that note guys, I'll catch ya tomorrow.
As always, love and peace.