Slide to the left, swipe to the right, crisscross- well,
apparently there's no criss-crossing anymore! You know, like criss-cross the political line?
"A dating app for all of us conservatives!" Apparently, politics have become SO partisan,
that people won't even date someone with different beliefs... about human rights!
"You'll start off by building your perfect profile- NO pronouns necessary!"
Isn't that bonkers? This is a totally new thing! In a study published in 2017 by
Stanford University, it concluded that people sought out like-minded people on dating apps.
It appears as if, in the contemporary period, political orientations directly affect the social
relationships people seek to form, which results in increased political homogeneity in formed
relationships... This has the potential to amplify polarization through the creation of
homogenous social networks and households. Yeah, no shit, dude! Bloody academics,
just say the thing! You guys are so verbose and annoying, that people are now coming to us
YouTubers for their information! Don't listen to me, by the way; I'm a compulsive
liar. Except when it comes to the Cow. Speaking of, my name is Tara Mooney,
and this is the only channel on Youtube where all videos are written and produced by a
cow. She couldn't be in the video today, because she's actually at a rally where
Bernie Sanders is speaking! How cool is that? Bernie: "...And I want to convey to you my belief
that millions of working people throughout this country are proud of what you are
doing; They're proud of the fight you're doing & they want to stand with you! Thank you!"
I'm so jealous, but if you like and subscribe, she might appear in the next video. So yeah,
it's not exactly a revelation that people don't want to date their political opposite;
You want a relationship with someone whose values align with yours. It's common sense,
right? It would be like you were speaking a different
language. You know when you're sat in a cafe in Paris, and you're reading Susan Sontag's
'Notes on Camp', and then you spot the most gorgeous woman you've ever seen in your life-
and she's French! You then invite her over to your table to strike up some conversation, but alas...
"Hello darling, fancy a cuppa?" Because you're a Brit-bong, you can only speak
English! She then gets the hint and runs off. Argh, I've dropped a clanger- what a cock-up!
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opposites shouldn't date, because I've already done so on my podcast,
Grazing Hell, with my friend, Jordan Teresa. In this episode, we break it down issue by issue,
on whether we'd date people with different views on human rights, the importance of voting,
climate change, covert responses, and many more. We also settled the issue on whether
we'd hate-f*ck a conservative if they were hot. Jordan: "So we say it at the same time? Okay."
Together: "Three, two, one, NO!" A conservative? Inside of me? In this economy?
'Does being a tory mean I'm not woke enough for love?'
'How could I date a boy who treated my right-wing persuasion as if it was chlamydia?'
They were wrong to do that, Charlotte; Chlamydia is much easier to get rid of!
Some may say that's petty and cry about it, but here's some advice from auntie Tara: be as picky
and petty on dating apps as you like! If someone being a Potter-head is a litmus test for you,
I support you. If seeing 'entrepreneur' in someone's bio makes you go "Ick!", I support you.
If a guy's whole profile is photos of him doing stand up, and that gives you the 'Ick',
I support you. And if you exclaim loud and proud, "never kissed a tory", I support you. I
extra support you because seeing the coping in response is very entertaining!
'The left love to boast that they've 'never kissed a tory'; there's just one small problem,
conservatives aren't offended by the claim on Lucy Powell's T-shirt. They're
merely wondering how she knows it's true.' Oh, sweet little Michael Deacon, didn't you know?
We can tell! Rather than discussing how political opposites won't date,
I'm more intrigued by the responses to people who identify as 'moderate' or 'apolitical' on
dating apps. For some people, these labels are an issue; and by some people, I mean myself
and the small circle of people I hang out with... *Text-to-speech voice: 'Come into my echo chamber,
here there's lots of little gay people who love you. I was inspired to investigate
this when a friend of mine highlighted the frustration of having to identify as a liberal
on Bumble, when you're actually a leftist; At least at the time. Bumble now has a left option.
So I did something called a 'data science' and I asked my Twitter peers, 'which was a
bigger turn-off on dating apps: 'apolitical' or 'moderate'?' And here were the results: apolitical
won the majority with 56.2%, and moderate with 43.8%- and there are more than 4 000 votes;
So that's my study, call me Professor Mooknee. What intrigued me about the replies was that
there wasn't a super clear consensus on what apolitical and moderate mean. Firstly,
let's dissect the term 'apolitical'; Its definition states 'a disinterest in politics',
a detachment shall we say, which could lead one to a few conclusions. Firstly, a charitable
interpretation would be that a person is apolitical because they don't engage with politics
enough to actively speak on it. Secondly, they might have a sense of apathy and hopelessness,
so they choose to disengage with politics, which is somewhat understandable, but an awfully
smug and superior attitude towards something that is unequivocally important. Thirdly,
they don't care about politics because it doesn't affect them. A rejection of curiosity, perhaps?
And this is a problem for people looking to date. In 2020, more than 500,000 OK Cupid users said
that they wouldn't date someone who didn't vote. This is considerably more important to women than
it is to men, which, when you think about it for more than five seconds, isn't at all surprising.
The common conclusion from this is that women are just more directly impacted by the outcome
of elections. Take, for example, how women of color are over-represented in minimum
wage jobs. The personal is political. So, if you are a politically engaged woman who dates men,
seeing them identify as apolitical is a real punch in the gut. I think it's extra
frustrating when you're on dating apps and you see educated men who, you know, are bankers,
doctors, lawyers, well-traveled, identifying as apolitical. I just
think it takes a lot of hubris really. It's kind of like they're saying, "look at me,
I'm earning so much money and living such a great life that I don't need to think about all that-
the poors!" But even in casual dating politics does matter! I want to know a person's opinion
on abortion and contraception and slut-shaming. "A quick rant about- Honestly, the fact that Roe
vs Wade got overturned, kind of makes me feel like we went back in time 50 years and women just lost
their rights, so kind of fucked-up, honestly." *Auto-speech bot: "To make it worse, his profile
states he has a moderate political view." Now, what about moderates? What even is a
moderate? Well, it depends who you ask and where they live. Typically, it means someone who rejects
extreme political views on either side. About one-third of Bumble users who display their
political affiliations identify as moderate. To some, moderate means, 'I think about it,
but I'm under-informed'; Or it's a way-station for people who grew up in conservative households, on
their way to becoming more liberal. Though, many responded saying that they thought moderates were
conservatives in disguise, which would make sense. Although I was goofing on those conservatives
earlier on, being openly conservative on a dating app, especially in a city like London,
does hurt your chances of getting a date. The social consequences of admitting
you're a conservative. "Very foolishly put 'One
Nation Conservative' on my Tinder profile. There was this girl that I super liked,
she responded to it saying, genuinely, 'Why do you hate poor people? Why do you hate poor people?'"
"Tories to the right, 309; The 'No's to the left, 323!" *Low-energy cheering*
"We were welcomed by someone who posed as a receptionist, who then
watched us in the waiting room for 20 minutes, and then introduced herself as actually, she
was the assessor, and she'd been assessing us." "Despite her disabilities, Arabella was turned
down, and it took taking the case to tribunal to overturn the decision. ITV News can exclusively
reveal how much the government spends fighting appeals like Arabella's: 443 million pounds
since 2013. Research by the charity scope suggests 200 million of that was when PIP or employment
support allowance had been wrongly denied." Those who identify as right-wing are 2.5 times
more likely to hide their political leanings than those who lean left. When a dating website called
MaiTai was first built, they built a function where members could select three deal breakers
to rule out potential partners. A person who voted tori was chosen by 60%- and this is on a dating
app for corporate professionals! Oh NO! So perhaps someone might hide their more right-wing leanings
and opt for the moderate label instead. With all this in mind, as a person navigating
dating apps, whose politics are brain broken, I'm not surprised when I find that an apolitical or
moderate person and I don't match in our values. But what about people who identify as one thing,
like men who identify as liberal or leftist, but then turn out to be something else,
and it's a total sham! That stings a lot more and it's harder to avoid.
The term 'woke-fishing' was coined by Serena Smith in the 2020 Vice article 'Have You Been
'Wokefished' While Dating? Here's How to Tell'. Basically, it's when someone cosplays as caring
about the same progressive values that you care about in order to reel you in.
"Oh, yeah-yeah, no it's weird, a lot of macho guys say that they don't like women to have leg hair,
but you know what- I- heck, I'm okay with it! Um, what would I prefer? Shaved, yeah,
yeah-yeah; I don't read white men anymore and neither should you- well, apart from my texts..."
This relates to the whole 'Pick Me' boy, 'soft boy', and nice guy phenomena. Say hypothetically,
you're a girl and you're talking to a guy and he seems to agree with you on all things political.
It almost seems too good to be true! Then, as you spend more time together, you start to spot
some discrepancies. He says he's a feminist and despises rape culture, but then when he's with his
friends and one of them makes a rape joke, he laughs along. He exclaims how men are trash and
he hates men who lie and cheat, but then he turns out to be a liar and a cheater himself! Oof! So,
to go back to the Twitter poll... It's a tough call, but I'm gonna say that apolitical is
worse? Or maybe moderate- oh, I don't know!! Anyways, thank you for watching the video,
it means a lot to me and if you enjoyed the video, make sure to give it a 'Like',
because one like equals one more conservative dating app being created for us to goof on!
"We're sorry that you've had to endure years of bad dates and wasted time with people that don't
see the world our way. The great way." I will see you in the next one. Bye-bye
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