Hey there, I'm Adam LoDolce from sexyconfidence.com, where I help the 21st Century woman create
a love life that she absolutely freaking loves.
In this video right now, we're talking about how to make a man desire you.
Yes, you.
You sexy single lady.
Keep watching.
Have you ever started seeing a guy, you're into him, but you don't feel like there's
this intense draw where he really desires you on a very animalistic level?
Maybe you like each other, it's going well, you've got some things in common, and that's
all well and good, but you're dangerously close to the dreaded friend zone.
He only wants to hang out with you in groups, never alone.
He starts calling you by your last name, not your first.
He talks to you about the other hot girls that he likes.
No one wants the friend zone.
Here's the thing, when you first start seeing a guy, there's this time between when you
first start dating and when you first have sex together where you can easily get caught
in the friend zone unless you have this one very important thing in a relationship, sexual
tension.
This is a phenomenon that occurs when two people interact with one another and both
feel sexual desire towards one another, but the consummation is postponed.
Sexual tension is what keeps the possibility of a relationship alive.
Think of sexual tension as this rope right here.
This is you.
This is him.
Now, there are three scenarios.
The first one is that you sleep with him on a first date.
If you jump the gun too soon, what happens?
Then suddenly, you're hooking up and then what happens?
You wake up the next morning and you realize you don't even know that person and then you
both do the fadeout.
Scenario B on the other hand is if you have no sexual tension.
What happens?
It just sags and sags and sags.
You get to know each other.
You talk, talk, talk, then before you know you realize that you're just friends and then
nothing's there at all.
Sexual tension gone, now you're just friends.
You could literally have everything in the world in common, but if there's no sexual
tension there, then he's not going to desire you and chances are you're not going to desire
him.
You guys are just friends.
Then, of course, there's the third scenario.
The scenario where you're actually getting to know each other slowly but surely, slowly.
Tension is still there, but before you know it, slowly get to know each other, sexual
tension, you held on, then that's when you first hook up.
Boom goes the dynamite.
Of course, we all want scenario C. The question is how do you do it?
How do you keep sexual tension in a relationship before you have sex?
For starters, allow for slow sexual progression.
Without forward progression, he's going to give up.
With too much forward progression, such as having sex on the first date, you're risking
the fadeout.
Be sensual without being too sexual.
Maybe on the first date, you guys have a kiss.
Maybe on the second date, it goes a little bit further.
Maybe a third date, it goes a little bit further there.
Progression is great, but you don't want to jump the gun too quickly.
Forward progression, good.
Don't jump the gun.
Secondly, talk dirty but do it very subtly.
Here's an example of talking way too dirty.
Way too forward.
Here's an example of subtle dirty talk, much better.
This allows him to use his imagination a little bit.
If he's using his imagination, you're winning.
Finally, make him miss you.
If he's constantly drawing you back in, then you know what, you're building more tension
in the relationship.
If he's constantly pushing you back and pushing you away, then you are at risk of losing him.
Make him wonder if he's going to have you and if he's wondering, then he's going to
really desire you.
Some women out there, I understand they want to wear their heart on their sleeve and just
when they meet a guy that they really like, they want to just go for it, let them know
everything and just dive right in.
At the end of the day, it can really hurt you with your early on relationships because
that's not how attraction works.
Sexual tension really works when the guy is still wondering, where there's still a little
bit of mystery in the relationship.
He's not really sure where it's going and that's going to really push him forward to
want to get to know you further and of course maybe turn it into a relationship.
There you have it.
I want to ask you have you ever been friend zoned?
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