"Tomboy," I'm really trying to put a positive, you know
meaning behind the word.
If people get called a tomboy, they're like,
"Oh no, I'm not like,"
at least for me, when I was younger,
and I was called a tomboy, I didn't like it.
Cause I'm like, "No, I'm a girl."
I just do boy things.
I just didn't like the word.
I didn't like being called that.
But you know, throughout the years I grew to love it
and love myself.
And I'm like, "Yeah, I am a tomboy
and what?" you know what I mean?
For people that had felt like that, or still feel like that
you know about the word
I really wanted to put a more woman empowerment,
meaning behind it.
The spark that inspired "Tomboy"
actually came from myself.
It was my idea to write a record about, you know
my appearance and who I really am, like as a person.
I was in the studio with The Stereotypes
and Whitney Phillips,
who co-wrote on this record with me.
We were working that whole week,
it was a Friday.
I remember we were working that whole week
making a new song every day.
We really were like, "Man, like, what's a good song?
Like what's a good topic that we haven't written about yet?
What's something we haven't said?"
And I was like, "Well, I guess like we haven't really talked
about like my appearance and me being a tomboy."
Everyone in the room was like,
"That's it, 'Tomboy.'
That should be the name of the song, that's tight."
And I was like, "Okay, like I'm down."
So we already had the, the title of the song
before we even wrote the song.
We went in the booth
and like pretty much freestyled the whole song.
I have girlfriends,
but I could also, you know,
I'm a, I'm a boss in a man's world.
I can be masculine just like you, but even more.
I'm the boss.
I got my first skateboard when I was like four years old,
but I didn't start doing tricks 'til was like, eight.
I started taking it really seriously.
My dad would take me to the skate parks and stuff.
At the time I was the only girl skateboarder
at my skate park in my hometown.
Like that was my local park.
And I was friends with all the dudes.
I was kicking it with all these boys
that were older than me.
They were obviously all better than me too.
So I got to learn off of them.
They, they taught me how to do something,
if I wanted to learn something.
If I was in order to be a basketball player,
I think I would be Stephen Curry
Because I be shooting threes like nothing.
I could shoot a three with my eyes closed, bro.
I think I'm definitely a shooter.
I can definitely like,
like go and lay a lay up real quick
and like do stuff, but
I'm more better on the outside of the court.
Just, just toss me the ball and then boom, I got you.
You know what I mean?
So I would say I would be Stephen Curry,
if I was a basketball player.
When I started making music I was 17 years old
in a group full of older men.
I know I'm not the only one that had felt kind of just like
ah, like where my girls at,
you know what I mean?
Doing no favors for the studio time.
Like no, like I make my bag, you know what I mean?
Like, I'll pay for studio time.
You can charge me however much you want an hour
but I'm not, I'm not going to go sleep with you one night
just to get a free session.
You know what I mean?
I don't roll like that.
And that also just shows like, how strong and independent
that person is.
And in that they, they work for their shit.
You know, they get their bag and they're just like,
yo don't be trying to come up on me right now.
Like, let me like, let me just pay for my shit
and leave me alone. You know what I mean?
That's also kind of relating to, you know, kind of
like the music industry side and just how
sometimes these men and these producers
kind of like walk over the females and, and kind of
look at us like we're the weakest link
when it shouldn't be like that.
What inspired the famous quote,
"My mama said marry rich man
And I was like, 'mama, I am that rich man.'"
It was actually the conversation between Whitney,
the girl that co-wrote the song with me.
And she was like, "Man, have you heard
that Cher quote? She did an interview
like back in the day. She said something about a rich man
and dah, dah, dah."
And I was like, "Nah I haven't seen it."
So she pulls up the video, and the video is the video
of Cher, you know, in the interview telling that quote.
And I was like, "Bro, this is like, amazing.
Like this is so fire, we got to put it."
So I ended up just singing what Cher said.
And I put it in a song for her
and everyone, everyone loves it.
Some people be thinking I stole it.
And like, they're like, "Oh, you stole it."
And I'm like, "Nah, I didn't steal it.
I was just trying to make it become a bigger
you know, a bigger, powerful message and help a sis out."
That's all it was.
I would define a tomboy today as
honestly, a warrior.
Growing up, If you're a tomboy
like me my whole life, you know,
you wear certain things that other girls don't.
People judge you.
And that was something that I had to go through.
I think now, you know, as I'm getting older
I wanted to really just be like,
man, like we went through a lot.
We're strong, we're independent.
I would love to spread the message to every woman
that feels the same and really just empower that
and really make sure that that confidence
sinks in their blood.
If they love themselves without makeup
go and own it, girl.
Like do your thing, like get your bag, sis.
It's like you got this, you know?
So I really just want tomboy's new meaning to just be
an empowering positive thing
and not really you know, have that,
that negative feel to it.
When I found out I am who I am
and I don't really need to, you know
be that hard, to like impress anybody.
I was probably like in high school.
Solo ridin' barely tryin' is obviously talking about
me being independent.
You know, like I can have a good time on my own without
being around a bunch of friends,
but they know to call me when they want
to get it poppin, though.
They know I'm a good time.
I'll pull up and you know, I'm the life of the party.
So they know to call me when they want to get it poppin'.
"Sweet like some honey, but I always go hard"
was inspired from a fricking story
that I have from when I was an elementary school.
Long story short, I was playing basketball with
a bunch of boys and no one wanted to pick me to be
on their team.
But I was like, pretty good at basketball.
I would probably kill all of them on the, on the court.
They weren't picking me.
And I was getting sad because I was being sweet.
You know, like I wasn't being super confident.
Like "Nah, like, trust me, like, like put me on, come on."
You know, I wasn't even trying to be hard like that.
I was like, "Hey, if they pick me,
then they gonna know what's up in a second."
You know, whoever picks me.
So then I was like the last person to get picked.
And then once I had the ball, oh, it was over.
Breaking ankles.
So that was kind of like, inspired sweet,
"sweet like some honey, but I always go hard."
I was being a sweet, you know what I mean?
And then I was like, all right, I'm going hard.
We out, you know what I mean?
I've been through a lot of moments where
I have felt underestimated.
That one moment that I could think of on the top of the dome
was I was younger, I was, I was 13.
I had just started making music.
I was put in the hands of this producer at the time.
That was my first time ever meeting someone professional
in the music industry.
And I kind of knew that this guy would,
would help me out and, you know, take me to the top.
Like I thought he would, he always was just really
just like, "No, you're too young.
You don't have it."
You know, like "You need to grow up."
And like, I understand that at the time.
But like when I'm 13 and I had,
I had dreams of being a superstar, like I was like,
"No, like I want to be famous.
Like I want to be a singer.
I want to have fans that follow me around."
You know, like I wanted that life.
That's just shows that these people are doubting me.
And I never liked that, but obviously it
it boosts my confidence one,
and my motivation to just prove them all wrong.
And so I needed that fire lit under me.
So I was able to be like, all right, "Nah,
I'm not going to listen to these people.
I'm going to just do my thing and work even harder now."
I was just telling stories,
like cracking jokes in the studio
and we were right in the bridge.
And I was like, "Bro, like all of like my like girlfriends
that I had growing up, they all hated me at one point.
You know, like I had, I had some sorta
like beef with them because of jealousy or whatever."
And I think part of that comes with me being a skater.
And, like if they had a boyfriend that skated,
her boyfriend was cool with me.
So like, if I was impressing the boy
because I was doing kickflips and I'm like, "Yeah like
I'm not doing anything wrong.
Like I'm cool with your mans."
You know what I mean?
We're, we're cool.
Like, I don't want him like that.
Like, go ahead.
Like, you know? So girls would always give me
dirty looks at the skate park.
If they came to visit their boyfriend at the skate park.
And I was like kickflipping in front of him.
And like, we were like handshaking or whatever,
like, oh, they hated it, bro.
I could just see their face turning red.
It was just funny.
Cause I was like, yeah, I have that power.
But I'm literally like, not even trying
you know what I mean?
Like I'm just, I'm just doing me.
I'll make an ex want me again, this is fuckin' facts.
I'm cool with all my exes, honestly.
But they do be crawling back to me sometimes.
They do be hittin' me with some texts like,
"Damn we should kick it. I'm coming to LA this weekend."
I'm like, "Aw, nah, you better go."
I kinda thought "Tomboy" was kinda over with.
I'm like, "Okay, onto this new chapter of Destiny. Like what can I do now?"
2021, top of the year, in February,
a singer named Lisa from Blackpink did a dance to my song "Tomboy" she did a film to it.
It still shocking till this day, like I get like choked up and I'm just like,
"Crap I can't believe she did that."
I got to speak to Lisa over a FaceTime call.
She was working and she was busy at the time,
so I was trying to be quick and not take up too much of her time,
but I got to thank her personally and we still stay connected to this day.