what would it be like if you had more control over your emotional state I'm
Damon Cart and this is Peter Schwartz and this is life mastery gym and I teach
people just like you cutting-edge processes and techniques so that you can
take charge of your destiny and create the life that you want to live Peter
started out as a client of mine and he changed his life almost overnight
because he was doing all the things that I was coaching him to do and teaching
him to do so much so that I decided to give him a job and now he's going to be
doing a video for this channel once a month welcome Peter
thank you let's do this if you had more control over your emotional stage what
would it be like if you had the ability to instantly step out of your suffering
states minimize the stress minimize all those negative emotions that you have in
your life and then begin to cultivate the positive emotions that you want for
yourself and even develop a way for you to trigger those positive emotions in
your life at the touch of your fingertips you're gonna learn away today
that you can really begin to develop that mastery over your emotions and
start to with practice feel the way you want to feel when you want to feel that
way make sure you stay tuned to the end of this video because I'm gonna share
with you how you can take all of this to another level by signing up for a free
training
so I have Tamara here with me and I'm gonna be guiding her through this
anchoring process and as I do that I would like the folks at home to watch
and follow along so in a moment I'm gonna go over and I'm gonna ask Tamra
what is an emotional state that she would like to have more of in her life
and that could be Julie that could be peace that could be excitement that
could be love our resource is anything an emotion a mental state like flow or
focus or concentrate whatever it is that you want to be able to have more of in
your life as you think about what it is that you want you can watch this Tamra
goes into the state and then I'm gonna show you how to trigger it or set a
trigger so that you can get it back when you want to I would like to feel more
joy we like to feel more joy yes okay now have you ever felt joyful before
yeah probably a couple times right interesting
so what's it like for you when you start to feel joyful it's like a mixture of
like peace and excitement but more exciting
so you go to make sure peace and excitement but more excitement yeah okay
so when was the last time that you felt that feeling joy
when I was at the beach today so what I want you to do is I want you to close
your eyes them and I want you to float back to that time when you're at the
beach right when you started to feel about intense state of joy and I want
you to see what you saw the time here what you heard
smell the smells that environment you really feel those feelings that's right
come on back good so as Tamara started to access the state
you'll notice that she started to breathe differently you'll notice that
the muscles of her face started to pull upwards into a swan and now she's
giggling a little bit which is gonna be like that too so we'll hold on to that
okay so close your eyes and I want you to go back to that moment again right
when you felt that intense feeling of joy and float down into your body that's
what you saw at the time you know what your just allow those good things come
all the way back to me and what would it feel like good if you could take those
feelings and just great so how did that feel yeah feels good yeah now on a scale
of one to ten how joyful read the first or second understand yeah um it was like
seven and then I felt like almost like a 10 I love it towards you mm-hmm yeah
okay so we're gonna do that one more time and then we're gonna test our
anchor we're gonna find out whether or not we've established that association
in a way where we can use it in the future
all right so close your eyes again and this time when you go back then you
float down into your body see what you saw make the colors brighter more vivid
start to really pay attention to them seeing what you saw allow the colors to
come back good hearing that you heard turn the volume up so you can hear the
sound richer that's right and then tune into the feelings and just notice how
you can take those feelings and really amplify those all the way up to attend
that's it
so let's test our work here and I'm gonna reach over and I'm gonna touch
Tamra at the exact place that I heard her and we're gonna see just notice what
happens stammering that's weak with me you just allow your body to ship
most phobias are learned because somebody experienced intense fear in the
presence of a situation so we want to use the natural mechanism here to our
advantage right so if you want to feel happy you want to feel confident if you
want to be determined whatever it is make sure that you go
into an intense state you want to go into a peace state in the way that you
do that is simply by reliving the memory again and again making it more vivid
turn the sounds up make it brighter more vivid in your mind until you feel the
feelings really intensely and the more you do that the the more your brain will
give you those feelings the second thing about anchoring effectively is purity of
the state access you have to have a very pure state so whatever you set your
anchor to is going to be what gets anchored so I know a lot of people who
want to anchor confidence for example and they'll go to anchor confidence but
they'll be asking themselves if they're doing the technique right so there's
curiosity or confusion mixed in with the state what you want to do is you want to
make sure that as you put yourself back in that situation just allow yourself to
be there and as you feel the feelings increasing set your anchor so it helps
to have a plan ahead of time this is the anchor that I'm going to use this is and
I'll know to use it when and welcome to the third rule of anchoring when that
stage starts to peak so when you can see the state it's rising up into that peak
you want to set your anchor as the state increases because we want to associate
your anchor with the feeling of that state increasing the fourth rule of
anchoring the Commandant if you will is uniqueness of anchor and the reason this
is important if I go to anchor something on stammer Scanlon we do a handshake a
thousand people are gonna do that so there's there's no real strong
association there right I want to do an association that's complete
unique and her unconscious mind has to go this is kind of weird right and that
pairs with the state right so I chose a spot right here on her shoulder where
nobody else is gonna be pushing or touching and if they did they certainly
wouldn't be doing it in the way that I was doing it right you want to have a
unique anchor a lot of neuro-linguistic program will use their finger and thumb
as an anchor the problem with this at least for me is that I will play with my
fingertips if I'm Borg right so I will end up Dease desensitizing the anchor
entirely so for me I'd rather anchor somewhere where I know it's gonna be
more difficult for me to touch right I might anchor on the back of the knuckle
I might anchor here on the inside there there go as soon as I find that anchor
my state changes so you know pick an anchor that will allow you that that is
unique and you won't set it off by accident the fifth law of anchoring is
accuracy of duplication right so when you're learning this it's important to
in trainings they'll have you practice on knuckles because there are not a lot
of nerve endings in knuckles right so you you have a lot of forgiveness you
can press here here here all over the knuckle and you'll grab the nerves but
let's say for example when I went in to anchor Tamara where did I what did I do
it where was it right here he was at it is that the one yeah um you want to make
sure that you find the anchor precisely so one way to practice this is to go
ahead and put chalk on your fingers when you're practicing with people and then
just firing it off the more accurate you are when you replicate it the more that
person is going to go into the state so now that you know how to do this write
in the comments below what state are you gonna access an anchor for yourself so
that you can have access to that state much more often put it in the comments
below let us know how you got on with the exercise make sure you click the
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next time how do I say this when I normally say this I'm Damon card and
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