Heya playa, have you ever liked someone that actually had a crush on someone else?
Should you just leave them alone and give up?
Are your chances slim to none?
I would say no.
In fact, I think there's something you can do about it and I'll explain what that is
right after this.
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In a lot of cases where you might have a crush on someone, the hardest part about doing something
is doing something.
Most of the time people are shy around their crush, they either don't know how to start
a conversation with them or if you guys are already friends they don't know how to take
it to the next level.
And while lots of people believe you should direct your energy into sabotaging what your
crush and their crush have together, I don't agree with that.
I believe the key is to stop liking them from a distance and form a solid relationship with
them that's built on a connection.
And if that means simply getting on the first level with them by just saying hi within the
first three seconds of seeing them, then you gotta do it.
Allowing fear to drive your actions is only going to allow space for their crush to step
in and fill the gap that you're not filling.
Non-action leads to non-results.
So if you feel like right now isn't the right time to pursue them, well then you're ending
the race before someone has said go.
You might also see your crush's crush as your competition here like you two are competing
for your crush's attention.
But what I've learned over the years is that it's simply not true.
Your biggest competition here is yourself.
Even though your crush currently likes someone else, that doesn't mean you can't talk to
them, get to know them, win them over with your personality and eventually ask them out.
Do you see how that works though?
Talking to them, winning them over and asking them out has nothing to do with their crush,
it's all about you and your crush.
In fact, I would even go as far as to say that you have a higher likelihood of winning
over your crush more than they do simply by putting your confidence on display.
You see, you like them and they like someone else and if that other person isn't doing
anything to win over your crush, then you're the only one competing there.
Just because they like someone else right now doesn't mean they also can't also start
to like you and eventually start crushing on you over that other person.
The simple truth is, the longer you wait to act, the more time you give your crush's crush
to step in and do something.
And the only time I would say not to interfere is when your crush and that person are already
dating.
In a case like that, I think it's worth respecting what they have.
One thing you can do once you start developing a friendship with your crush is get to know
what they like about their crush a little bit more.
What is it that your crush finds so attractive about them?
Is it their looks?
Their personality?
Do they tell jokes?
Try to gain a deeper understanding of the things that your crush likes, now I wouldn't
recommend changing your personality to be like their crush but learn how to manifest
those qualities in your own way.
Remember, you're not trying to be a replacement of this person in your crush's eyes, you want
them to see you for you and to like you for being your best self.
And for you that can mean telling more jokes, displaying more confidence or finding more
commonalities that the two of your guys share.
From my own personal experience being courageous, being easy going and just being interested
in learning more about them is the best way to switch their attention and focus from their
crush to you.
But if you're just gonna sit around and wait to see what happens with them, well then your
crush's crush is going to watch this video and take all of my advice and do it.
What do you think though, are you holding yourself back from asking out your crush because
they like someone else?
Leave your comment below and we'll talk about it.
And one last thing, don't allow yourself to fall into the friend zone just so you can
learn about your crush's crush.
As tempting as it may seem to want to sit there and hear everything they have to say
about this person, all you're really doing is reinforcing how much they like them in
their own mind.
Be your own person, showcase your feelings and don't be so concerned with making them
like you, instead give them a reason to like you.
As always guys, love and peace.
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Even though your crush likes someone else that doesn't mean you can't do all that you
can do to talk to them to win them over with your personality and to eventually ask them
out.