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Why do most bad situations you face take a turn
for the worse?
What do you do when you're overcome by a powerful emotion?
Do you still end up acting out on them
despite knowing better?
Especially in the heat of the moment,
it's easy to get carried away and end up doing
or saying things that you later regret.
Yikes! And with whom does the blame lie?
Emotions. Your emotions are vital.
They tell you a lot about your surroundings
and how to best move forward.
But how to tell when they begin to control you altogether,
here are five signs that you might be acting out of emotion
and that it might be beneficial for you to take a step back
and process your emotions prior to moving forward.
One, you focus on getting back at them.
Are you often trying to create in them the same feeling
that they instilled in you back then?
The saying "Two wrongs don't make a right"
really holds true here.
In a burst of emotion, you sort of retaliate.
As a result, you fail to realize
that this kind of response really doesn't help
the situation at all.
It continues to foster ill will
and does not allow for the situation to cool
or a solution to present itself.
Two, you here rather than listen.
Are you in the habit of allowing others to speak
just so you can deliver a response?
When you hear them out just so you can formulate an answer,
you're not really listening.
You're enabled to truly grasp and understand
where the other person's coming from.
You may be using that information that they give you as ammo
to strengthen your points and shoot it right back at them.
It might be something to keep an eye out for
as listening without understanding
causes one to jump to conclusions.
You may fail to see the bigger picture
and end up acting rashly.
Three, you play the blame game.
Are you quick to believe that everyone else has wronged you
and that you've done everything perfectly?
When emotions run high, you become insistent
upon proving the other wrong.
This can cloud your judgment of who's at fault.
It makes it difficult for you to introspect
and own up to your mistakes.
As a result, you grasp another shoulder
to shift the burden onto.
Thinking, "Maybe I did something wrong here"
can help prevent things from blowing out of proportion.
Four, you're set on mulling over the details.
Are you replaying that situation over
and over again in your head?
Do you find it hard to forgive and forget?
If the solution seems out of focus
that's because you're more focused on what happened
and how it made you feel.
And this isn't to say that you're not allowed
to express your emotions, you definitely are.
But if you're constantly focusing on the negative
and not striving to come to a resolution
or a better way to move forward,
that might be a sign that you're running away
with your emotions at that point.
Five, there is no pause between intense emotion and action.
So, think of the last time you experienced
a really intense emotion.
Did you act on it immediately?
Chances are you did not pause to ponder.
Oftentimes when you're acting from a very emotional mind,
it lacks logic.
Even though emotions tell you how to best respond
to a situation, if it's a really intense one,
sometimes that reaction or emotional response
will elicit something in you,
even you yourself don't recognize.
And so you act in a way that is so not you, in retrospect.
As the saying goes, "Think before you act".
This shows taking a step back to really think
about what just happened and how you should respond,
helps ground you in the present
rather than letting emotions fly high.
So, should suppressing your emotions be it out of fear,
out of embarrassment or out of shame,
be your preferred response?
Rather it is prudent to best utilize your emotions
in an effective way.
By learning to recognize process
and express these feelings, you can stay true to yourself.
Even in the face of extreme emotion staying connected
with rational thought helps you reach a state
where you're a bit calmer and can respond
with a more level head.
Such an approach benefits not only you, your mental health,
and also the people around you
and the relationships that you have.
Do any of these describe your experience,
or are there any signs that aren't included in this list?
Leave a comment down below and please feel free to share
any thoughts you have as well.
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