Taking control of your life creates a ripple effect
where every aspect from your relationships
and career to your personal growth
and mental health drastically improves.
And you only have to
control one thing for all of this to happen.
Your brain.
Now your brain is kind of lazy, right?
It wants the path that uses
the least amount of energy to survive.
And if that means doing the bare minimum,
then so be it.
When you take the steering
wheel away from that lazy brain,
you'll see how far those ripple effects can go.
So today, to help motivate you,
we're going to tell you the 15 things that happen
once you take control of your life.
first step.
You'll have better relationships
and more genuine friendships to the
through thick and thin mentality of relationships
have left us feeling that everyone owes us friendship
no matter what we're going through.
Even people we've just met.
Reality Check.
No, they don't.
While it's great to have friends
who stick with you through tough times.
People have their own lives, their own
tough times,
and it's not fair to expect
other people to deal with us
when we don't have
control of our lives and we can't
even deal with ourselves.
Once you start gaining control of your life,
people will feel safe
and comfortable around you.
Control also allows you to feel safe and comfortable
opening up yourself to new people.
It allows you to give the people in your life
the time and attention
they deserve.
Next step,
you'll gain confidence.
People always want to know,
how can I be more confident?
And things like looking good, to feel good,
hyping yourself up in the mirror
and setting and achieving goals.
All of those are great, But
do you know where they come from?
They come from you taking control of your life.
That's where they come from.
You sitting
at the steering wheel and driving to the places
you want to go.
You're not on autopilot anymore.
When you're in control, you know that you're safe
and that you can depend on yourself.
So you naturally feel okay
doing things out of your comfort zone.
You feel okay speaking up in a group,
or you'll walk into a room
with a smile because you know
you can rely on yourself to either not mess up
or to mess up and bounce back.
You'll have more freedom
and independence.
Now, we don't often
associate these things with control, right?
But freedom is the power
and right to think and act
how you want to.
Independence is being free
from outside control.
When you don't have control of your life,
you feel confined to a box.
You feel like every action or word
has life changing consequences.
And so you're scared to do anything.
But you can do the things you want.
Like go on holiday, have a fun weekend,
or propose to your partner because you know that
future you has your back
just like present you does.
The feeling of freedom and independence
gives you this chance to be fearless
when you need to take the scary risks.
It's a complete overhaul of your life,
and although it can be scary,
we've made sure there is a way for us
to be there for you every step of the way
through our Reinvent Mastery course.
It's our most concise and detailed course
on how you can completely change your life.
Moving countries, changing jobs, improving
relationships, changing the way the world sees you.
All of these things work in tandem with your freedom
and independence, and it's all in our course.
Your life is going to drastically
change in the next six months,
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So you've got this.
It's time to make a change.
More money
for control gives you more money.
This might be one of the
most noticeable ways to see the effect
of having control of your life.
It's also a really good way to see
how much control you're lacking.
When you don't have control,
you spend frivolously.
You buy more.
Take out because you don't want to cook.
Because the idea of cooking has your brain
telling you to, Hey, chill out
in front of the TV all night.
You're more impulsive.
So you walk into the store for socks and you walk out
with a new wardrobe charge to your credit card.
But when you're in control,
before you do something,
that little voice in your head
pipes up and says,
Do you really need this?
Like, really? Really.
That is you pushing back and you can walk out there
with just what you came in there for every time.
Just think about how much more money
you would have in your bank account
if you were in control of your life.
Less stress and anxiety.
Now, a big part
of being in control of your life is your ability
to control your reaction to situations.
The more you practice this,
the better you'll become.
When something happens, we often react immediately
and our immediate reaction
is very emotional.
But when we learn to
control this, if something happens,
the little voice will pipe up again and say,
Take a deep breath.
Calm down first.
That breather allows you to craft
a more logical, reasonable response.
Instead of an emotional reaction,
the ripple effect of this is that when stress
and anxiety hit, which they inevitably will,
you will have the tools
to step back from them.
You are more safe and secure
when you have
control over your life.
You perform well.
You generally have a good balance
of the amount of work, effort and time
you put into the things you do.
It could be projects at work, arranging quality
time with friends and family, eating well
and exercising whatever is a priority to you.
And doing these things consistently
also puts you in tune
with how you feel.
If you're slacking at one point, you're more likely
to notice and direct some attention there.
This vigilance helps you
to feel good about the work you're producing
and the relationships you're nurturing
so you feel safe within those areas of life.
You know that you're doing your best
to protect those parts
of your life.
More recognition
and acknowledgment.
Now, this one might seem kind of superficial,
but it is important.
As you gain control of your life,
you'll also get more recognition
and acknowledgment.
People can see when you're doing well
and when you have good people in your life,
they'll compliment you because of it.
And knowing the changes you've made
and the things you've achieved
are noticed by other people.
It gives you confidence.
It increases your motivation
because you want to continue improving.
It's this positive reinforcement
that drives the future
effort and commitment.
It also gives a sense of belonging
because it shows that you're
a valuable part of the group
instead of feeling isolated or insignificant.
You feel like you really matter.
Better Health.
The road to better health is pretty simple.
When you're in control of your life,
you're in control of what you do.
You don't give in to impulses,
so you don't have those
sleepless, alcohol
filled benders that inhibit your sleep
and destroy your immune system.
And if you do get sick,
hey, which does happen, You can pick up on it
and act upon it easily
because you're in tune with your body
and you've developed an action oriented mindset.
And all of this leads to better
overall health.
People
can to upset you as much.
It's the most annoying thing
when you're innocently going about your day,
having a great time and someone
somehow ruins it.
Whether it's intentional or not.
People will do things that drive you crazy
if you give them that power,
they can easily affect your entire day.
But when you have control
over your life and your emotions,
you can just brush it off easily,
even laugh about it.
How much will their actions affect your life
a week from now?
Probably not very much.
Right.
So it is not worth
your time and energy.
More free time.
We think of control
as having only constraints.
And when we're chained to something,
we don't imagine having free time.
We think our day is filled with structure,
so there's no room for flexibility.
But really,
when you've got structure, you tend to do things
faster and more efficiently.
You can take out things that aren't a priority
and slot in more free time if you need to.
Not having structure usually means you spend
much longer on each task
because there isn't a clear time
pushing you to finish
something that could have taken 2
hours has now taken you for
and it's eaten into your free time.
You stop feeling
so exhausted.
Exhaustion happens from a combination
of too little sleep.
Sleep that's not restful or too
many things going on without any downtime.
And luck laying there
stressing about stuff does not count as downtime.
Okay.
Your control over your life
puts a stop to all of this.
You gain the power to tell yourself, No,
we're not going to delay sleeping.
It's time for bed.
You dedicate a certain amount of time
to the things you need to do
and then you switch off and take a proper break.
When you've got control,
you can also see everything you need to do.
And you know yourself well enough to realize
when you've got too much on your plate
and then you can delegate it.
You'll feel
less irritated with the world.
This follows having more energy
and not feeling tired all the time.
Bad sleep is the easiest route to a bad mood.
So when you're in control
of your bedtime for the night,
your mood the next day
automatically improves.
You also have more control
over that spike of annoyance
and you can talk yourself down from it
instead of ruminating
and getting more worked up.
Sometimes the smallest things
can set us off and make us believe
the world is out there to get us.
And everything that goes wrong
confirms this.
But with control, you can remind yourself
that bad things happen all the time
and you're just paying attention to it
now because you've decided that's
what your day is going to be like.
You become more accepting
and open minded,
accepting the world and people for who
and what they are comes from a place
of security, confidence and control.
It's a part of realizing
that the way people are or the way the world works
is not a direct threat
to you or your survival.
You'll be fine.
You're in control here.
But when you lose that control,
it can feel like the world is working against you.
It's easier to blame other people for you
not performing well than it is to face the truth,
which is that your life
is your responsibility.
More productive and
action oriented?
Gaining control of your life
takes a lot of movement.
It's not just about inner reflection,
which, because we can't see
sometimes doesn't feel like we're doing anything.
Control is focused on the tangible,
so you see results quickly,
which encourages you to keep going.
And because you've seen the progress,
it's become second nature
for you to take that productive mindset
and use it in all areas of your life.
Your brain learns the effectiveness of going
step by step and following through on your plans,
so it becomes excited
to do exactly that.
Last on our list
are bigger and better ideas,
and actually it's our favorite one
because you don't often expect it, right?
How does having more control lead
to getting bigger and better ideas?
Doesn't control box us in
and limit the brainstorming?
Well, absolutely not, my friend,
because you've reined in all those other
important aspects of your life.
Your mind has the space to run free
and be its most creative,
fulfilled self.
It opens up the space for your imagination to run
wild with everything else in control.
You feel lighter and coherent.
It's like you can hear yourself really think
creatively for
maybe the first time ever.
You're not just overthinking,
you're being creative.
Taking control
isn't some kind of wishy
washy take it day by day.
Everything always works out kind of situation.
No, it's a change in perspective.
It's consistent, solution
oriented action.
That's why the effects are felt
and seen so clearly.
So we want to know, out of the 15 things
we spoke about here today, what would you find
the most valuable for your life?
Let us know in the comments, my friend.
We'll see you back here tomorrow.
Take care.