What's going on guys? Welcome back to the channel. My name is Mossab Alsadig. I am a dating coach
answering the question today of how to ask a woman out on a date?
Now this is very important because you need to know how to set things up in order to ask her
out to have things go smoothly and get her to show up and have a good time. So with that, let's jump in.
So, there's actually a couple things that go into asking a woman out on a date and it goes first
from before you even ask her out. So, I'm going to cover what to do to set up the date properly
so you know what to ask her out to, then we're going to go over what to actually say and do to
ask her out in the moment and I'm going to cover what to actually do in the time between when you
ask her out and when the date happens. So that span in between, we're gonna talk about how to actually
move things forward going into the date. Now let's start with how to set up the date properly
in order to have the best time on it. So, how do you set things up and what should you
ask her out to? Now, I cover this more in another video but I'm going to recap it here because it's
important to know as you're going to ask her out. So first things first, you should set up a actual
date structure. Now, I talk about this a lot on this channel but you need to have a structure in your
dating life, a structure in your interactions when you go up. You might think of this as
a script in the same way that a sales person has a script to make sure things go smoothly.
So when you're interacting, a script might just be or a structure might be the simple
structure of courtship. I always talk about attraction, comfort, seduction. Same thing in dates.
So the best way to set up a date is to have three different activities to do. So, you might do
a bar and then stop at for example a 7-eleven for a quick thing and then maybe head over to
the beach nearby or whatever other activity that you have in your vicinity or
maybe just sitting on a hill somewhere observing the skyline. So, these three things, you should have
three things because it makes the time seem like it was a lot more than it actually was. So, you
could do three different venues even if it's three different bars back to back in two to three hours
but it'll feel like a whole day's past. So, the more things you can pack on to a date like this,
the better. Now if you met somebody on online dating, you really should just do a 20 minute short
coffee date to see that they're a real person, to see they're not a catfish before you invest a
whole two, three hours with them on the very first interaction in person. So, set up a date structure
where it's three different things and you want to practice the same day over and over because
in the same way that a sales person practices the same script over and over to get really good at it,
you want to practice the date over and over to one, build up the social proof in the venues that you
go to. So say you pick three different bars near each other. When you go to these bars repeatedly,
you become a regular. I talk about this in other videos and you build up the social proof so that
the bartenders know you, you build up more status in that venue, you become a regular there, people
actually look forward to seeing you there. They say hey, Mossab. What's going on good to see you again
and when you bring women there, they are treated better because you're treated well and that shows
them that that increases the attractiveness of you in their eyes. So become a regular by practicing
the same date going to the same spots over and over again and so that when you meet the woman
that you want to bring to your life permanently to make your girlfriend, you have a smooth date
interaction. It'll make things seem a lot more spontaneous and a lot better. So instead of picking
random different things to do on different dates with different women, you should really pick the
same structure for one and really iron it out and get it down to where it feels very smooth
and very organic and something else I always say is to make it something that's not a coffee date
and not a dinner date it. You can include coffee if it's one of the three but don't do just
one big dinner date. Break it down into something small fun and different activities. So as long as
you do that, then you can ask her out to that thing, which brings me to what you actually want to say
when you go to ask her out. Before I get to that though, I encourage you to hit the like
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life that much better. Now, say you have that three date structure that you're ready to go into,
how do you actually get her out on that date? So when you're talking to her, first of all you want
to seed the idea of the date, which means that you bring it up in conversation. Say there's a mutual
interest that you both have that you can invite her out to or if it's just something as simple
as drink. You say while you're interacting with her in person, maybe you just met her at the light
and you're talking to her briefly, you exchange numbers and you say hey, yeah, I like this bar
down the street. I don't know if you've checked it out but we should totally do that sometime and she
says yeah, sure. Now when you go to text herm you say hey let's check out that bar that I talked to you
about. So you want to see this beforehand so that you're just not bringing it up out of the blue.
So she already knows to expect it it's something that's a lot more fluid rather than just
abruptly bringing it up. And then you shouldn't be telling her about all three of the activities. You
shouldn't say we're gonna do this, this and then this. Okay so you just say we're going to xyz bar
and then when you get there, you hang out for a few, maybe have a few drinks, chill out there for
however long 30 minutes to an hour and you say hey, let's go check out somewhere else. Let's move
around and then you take her to the next activity and this one helps you lead. This shows that you're
a leader, shows that you have things planned, that you're fun, that you're spontaneous and it should
feel like that each time you move to a different place. It'll feel like it's taking a longer time
than it actually is. It feels like you've been with each other for longer than the actual time that
you've been together. But back to when you actually ask her out, you should make it very, very casual.
So first of all, you want to focus on getting the attraction necessary to ask her out otherwise she
won't want to see you again. She doesn't think of you as anybody who's like what she actually
wants to see because if you know a homeless person asks her out, obviously she's not going to
see him again. So, you want to have more attraction than just a random nobody. You want to have
a reason for her to see you again. Once you do though, it's very, very easy to say hey, I
was thinking about checking out this place, you should come with me. You don't want to ask a
question, you want to assume leadership and simply state that you're going to do something whether
she's with you or not and she should join you, that's the invitation. You don't want to say
hey, what do you want to do or hey, do you want to come with me on this day. The question sounds
a lot more less assured, it sounds a lot less of a leader which is an attractive quality that
you want to display. So hey I'm checking out this bar, you should come. Very simple and direct
into the point and then she'll say yes or no or if she's busy, you can schedule for another date
but you just want to remember that you can ask her with a question as long as it's very direct
and shows that you're leading. But if you're not comfortable with that, just simply state it as a
statement. Don't ask it as a question, just say hey, I'm checking out this place. Come with me.
You should come or join me. So, something like that that is direct and to the point and gets her out
on the date with you. Now, next thing is say you got the attraction, you set up the date, the three
date structure properly and then you asked her out, she said yes. What do you actually do in between
the time you asked her out and the date when it actually happened and it's actually pretty simple.
All you need to do is text about once a day just to keep the date top of mind and to keep you
top of mind. So, you simply text her, go back and forth once every day just to keep that
interaction going. So text something funny, maybe send a meme, something lighthearted, a simple
joke would would be fine. If you're on Instagram, send a relevant post that you talked about that
she likes that's a part of her interest and when you send that, you can go back and forth for a
little bit and you can keep the loop open. You don't have to end every single
conversation. In fact the more open loops as they're called, the more you just kind of let a
topic linger, you don't have to necessarily respond, the more intrigued she's going to be and the more
you can close that loop when you're actually out on the date. So, open loops also help in in person
when you're actually talking to somebody, you don't necessarily need to finish a story. You can
just trail off or switch topics to something else entirely and if they tell you, hey what
about that other story you were telling earlier then you can go back to that. This makes you more
mysterious, it makes them want to get to know you more because it leaves more
threads open for them to pull on depending on what they're actually interested in. So the
more you can do that, it helps and you can do that in text too. So you go back and forth about a meme
that you sent or whatever the case may be and you can just leave the thread open after three or four
texts back and forth. You don't necessarily need to be talking all day to keep her to keep yourself
top of mind. You just need to um inject yourself a little bit into her day. If she's still responding,
that's a good sign that the date is actually gonna happen. If she doesn't respond then that's
a good sign also that she's probably either gonna flake or just ghost or not respond to you.
So, it's a good way to gauge how interested she is up until the date. It doesn't have to be too much
interaction just a little bit every day to keep yourself top of mind and then on the day of, you
simply say hey, are we still on for later and you can either say that or if you feel that that's too
needy, it depends on how the vibe is with the with the girl, you simply say something like oh by the
way when you get here, parking is going to be on the street. Just let me know if you need anything
and if she doesn't respond to that again, she's probably going to flake but if she does, you know
that she's going to be there. She says okay cool, yeah I'll let you know, that's a good sign. So it
does the same thing of getting a reconfirmation but without doing the needy thing of asking hey,
are we still good like I'm just worried. So that's one way to go about that is to simply say you know
give some direction of some sort if you say hey when you get to my place, just hit the you know a
certain code on the gate and that'll let you in and then just see what she responds to
that and that'll give you an indication of whether she's going to show up and how excited she is
et cetera for the date. And then when she actually gets there, you'll take her on the three dates, the
the three spots rather in the same date and you'll have a good time because the spontaneity and the
leadership of it. So if that helps, let me know and if you want more help like this, go ahead and check
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