So you have a new podcast, and it is called Armchair Expert,
right?
Yes, it comes out today.
And you know, it is me talking to friends of mine
that I've accumulated over the years.
And mostly focusing on the moments,
maybe, that they fell down.
Not like the victory lap or on the podium,
but you know the times that were hardest when we fail.
How we get back up.
That interests me a lot.
And that's pretty much what this is about.
Yeah, it's a great idea.
All right.
And it comes out today.
And it's Armchair Expert.
The Armchair Expert.
So we are going to take questions,
because this is-- you are really, really good at it.
Which we call it Ask Dr. Dax.
So are people going to start--
Almost wore this outfit today.
Because Valentine's Day.
Next time.
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So do have questions here?
Do I have--
Oh, Steve Flanders?
Yes?
My question is, I'm curious if manscaping is still a thing
women like?
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You know, I guess I have a couple of follow-up questions.
You know, what are we talking about, Steve?
What--
What's happening down there?
I mean, all of the above, I guess.
You know, like are we talking like hairless from here
to there?
Or what are we talking about?
I have to assume-- and luckily, we're
joined by a lovely lady here that can help us.
But I have to imagine it's at the buyer's discretion.
You know, whatever lady you are with.
Because I assume that Tom Selleck
had a lot of happy lovers in his day.
So surely there is a butt for that seat.
I just think you need to inquire as to what their preference is.
There's a butt for that seat.
Meet me backstage, though, and we'll compare.
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Wow.
Thank you, guys.
Set a baseline.
Wow.
Have you even-- have you--
I have a follow-up question to Steve.
You don't have to come back out, just real quick.
Have you attempted to do any of that yet?
Or are you just waiting to see?
Well-- Yeah.
Steve's friend is so excited.
Yeah, but my daughter--
Oh, your daughters.
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Oh, my God.
You're the one who asked the question, Steve.
I love--
I didn't realize what was coming next.
I love-- all right.
Well--
Thanks, guys.
Good luck on that ride home.
James Gomez, where are you?
I'm here.
Hi, James.
Hi, Ellen.
Hi, what is your question for Dr. Dax?
My question is, do you have any tricks or secrets
to get your significant other, or Kristen, in the mood?
The mood for coitus?
Right, Jim?
Is that what we're talking about?
Yes.
Because I can get her in the mood to go to the store
by just waking up, you know.
I think, in my experience, your lady
wants to know that you're still very interested in her
as a human being.
I think guys are a little different.
I just want to know if she thinks I'm hot.
Which I doubt she does, but she's great at fooling me.
You know, I think they want to feel like you are still
very interested in them.
And that there are still questions you haven't asked.
And you need to go to dinner and actually
be interested in follow-up questions.
And spend the time, as if you just met this person at a bar.
That's what's exciting, I think.
OK.
For your lady, having never met her.
Thank you.
Can I--
Please, yeah.
I'm going to give you some advice too.
OK.
It's not just when you are in the mood
that you are all of a sudden are affectionate and want
to touch her and in any way.
It's every single day, just holding her hand,
or just being affectionate.
And just putting your hand on her.
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I'm glad you brought that up because I
grabbed your hand like 10 times already, since I've been out
here.
And we're not even sleeping together yet.
Not yet.
Thank you.
No, but it's true.
It's like some people just like, you know, all of a sudden you
want to have-- as he loves to say that word, coitus.
But it really is just about like just
being affectionate all the time.
Just when you're sitting around or walking.
Or just having contact.
Yes, because there's nothing worse than if your lady's like,
oh, here it comes.
Buckle up.
Jim's horny.
If you've got a nice consistent level of intimacy,
she's not going to have her guard up
when Jim starts getting grabby.
Right.
All right, Julia Boyle.
Where is Julia Boyle?
Oh, hi.
Front row.
Hi, Julia Boyle.
Great seats.
What are you-- what is your question?
Hi, oh, sorry.
I've been dating my boyfriend for five years
now, which I think is a pretty long time.
And I was wondering your advice on getting
him to pop the question sooner rather than later.
Wow.
I'm going to lose every male friend I have right now.
You've been together five years?
Can I ask how old you are?
Is that OK?
I'm 25, and he's 27.
OK.
And do you want to have children?
Yes, we both do.
You both want to have children.
Yes, we talk about it.
OK, so for me on the outside, just saying,
you guys already seem to have similar objectives, which
is great.
I think that's probably the most important element,
is you see yourself as creating this kind of life for yourself.
Yeah.
I do think--
Me personally, I did not believe in marriage.
I'm not religious.
I didn't understand going and proving
to the state of California I loved Kristin.
It was something I would have never done.
But she knew I very much wanted to have kids with her.
I was willing to make the ultimate commitment in my mind.
And then at a certain point, I was able to recognize,
this is important to her.
This is going to make her feel safe.
And I'm willing to do that, which scares me,
but if I can make my partner feel safe, I want to do that.
But I will just say, safety is an illusion.
We all want safety.
We want economic security.
We want intimate security.
We want all these securities.
But in reality, it's just a concept.
And you've got to somehow come together
around what thing will make you both feel safe.
I agree.
And then keeping in mind that it is a little bit of an illusion,
right?
As long as you guys are on the same path
and working towards the same goal,
I think that's the most important.
Thank you, that's good advice.
That's good advice.
I like it.
All right, be sure and check out Dax's new podcast
called The Armchair Expert.
It is available starting today.
Go to our website for more information about the podcast.