I believe that she is a victim of narcissistic abuse, and
as a lawyer and a narcissist negotiation expert.
I'm going to be breaking it all down in this video,
so stay tuned.
Hey, I'm Rebecca Zung.
Yesterday, there was a key win for Britney Spears
in that she was able to switch lawyers and
this has been going on with her for…
Gosh! It seems like forever but it's been like,
a couple of decades almost,
starting with back in the day,
when she shaved her head, and
those of us who are old enough to remember,
remember the whole thing where she was,
this huge massive star, right? and
she had been in the Mickey Mouse Club,
she dated Justin Timberlake, she came of age,
she had all these huge hits and then,
she has this meltdown in public.
She shaves her head and her dad comes in
White Knight saves the day, gets this conservatorship and
he basically gets to take over her life.
It's not just a guardian,
like he doesn't get to just kind of take care of her,
this means he gets to take over her finances,
he gets to make decisions for her.
This has been coming out recently in court,
that he's not only been able to
make decisions about her finances,
he's had such control over her,
that she has an IUD in place.
She can't even have children.
She can't decide to have a baby
if she wants to.
I mean, he has had full control over her life.
She is now nearly 40 years old and
she is under his complete rain, and boy,
does he love it.
She broke down in tears,
there is now been this whole groundswell
over the last several years,
the whole free Britney,
there's been a whole documentary on it, and
because of the documentary, this goes to show you
how when people start to get vocal,
how when the press gets involved, and
people start to shine a light on what's going on,
how things can actually start to change, and
it also starts to help empower people,
but the reason why I want to shine a light on this,
is because the word narcissist is not being used here in court,
but it doesn't necessarily need to be, and
I think that is what is really, really important here.
Because a lot of times people will say,
people don't get a fair shake,
you can't use the word “Narcissist” in court and
that means that you can't get anything done,
but that's not necessarily true,
because things are happening.
She asked for a new lawyer. She is getting a new lawyer.
There's movement, so she scored a key victory in court,
she breaks down in court,
she tells the judge named Brenda Penny this
“She's extremely scared of her father, Jamie Spears”
she accused him of conservatorship abuse.
So, there are some key things that she said that
are giving away that she is a victim of narcissistic abuse,
but she's not using the words narcissistic abuse.
So listen up, but first the facts.
She says to the judge that she wants
a new attorney and the judge says, okay,
you can have the new attorney that you want and
she hasn't even been allowed to have
the attorney that she wanted, by the way,
since this thing started in 2008, 13 years ago, and
so that's why this ruling is a big deal, by the way.
So, here's what Britney said, and
I want you to listen carefully to the words that she used,
because this is a really tell tale sign of something,
She's not willing to be evaluated
in order to remove him, and you can hear the control
this little man who's done nothing basically,
he's like trying to build himself up
by having control over this person
who's famous, who's the person who actually has talent,
the person who's actually made money, okay?
But then, what does she say next?
What does that sound like people?
Stay with me. Yep. Gaslighting.
Yes, that is the very definition of gaslighting.
That's what it is.
The goal is to make you feel like you're crazy
when you're not and if you want more
on key gaslighting phrases,
you can definitely check out my video on
“8 key narcissistic gaslighting phrases”.
But anyway, she called it a F*** cruelty,
She said, if this is not abuse, I don't even know what is.
I feel like he's trying to kill me.
This is what narcissistic abuse is,
don't even have to use the word, right?
So the fact that she is moving forward,
she's getting somewhere,
she's actually making progress,
they called her testimony
clear, lucid, powerful, compelling, they're saying she's courageous.
So here's the thing that I want you two to know also
what’s happening here with Britney is
that she's starting to feel stronger,
she's starting to feel more powerful,
she's starting to realize that it's not her, and
part of the reason why she is realizing this and,
apparently she did cartwheels, and she's like feeling like
so much better about this whole thing,
part of the reason why she's feeling so much more powerful and
her fear is starting to disappear, is because
she's starting to realize what's happening,
she's starting to get educated on this and
she's starting to have the support that she needs
because what happens with narcissists
in the negotiation process, and in the control process
is they want to get their victims isolated
so that they don't realize what's going on,
especially in the negotiation process by the way,
they try to get them away from anybody else
that might actually let them see what's actually going on.
I mean, that's why a lot of times,
as the lawyer, I will see my clients,
they'll come into the office and they'll say,
“Oh, my soon-to-be ex or whoever they'll say,
they said that we don't need lawyers,
that we can settle this ourselves,
that it's going to be expensive, and we can work this out”.
What's crazy to me is that they'll say to me
that they've been a pathological liar,
that their total manipulators,
they give me 50,000 examples of how
horrible they've been, how abusive they’ve been
but yet, in this process
when they have absolutely everything to lose,
nothing to gain by giving this person anything,
suddenly, they're going to be able to work it out.
Now, let's think about this rationally here people.
Of course they're not.
They just want to get between anybody else
that might actually have control.
So yeah, there they are, going along, because
they don't want anyone else to have control over the situation.
So, they'll do whatever they can.
So, what's happening here with Britney is
she starting to realize that there's been this
groundswell of support, because she's realizing that,
“Wait a minute. This is not okay”.
She's starting to wake up,
because she has all of this support,
because she's getting educated now
as she's realizing this is not okay,
she's realizing she has a voice and
that's why it's so important to have support,
that's why it's so important to make sure
that you put yourself in a a position to
get yourself educated and have support,
both of those two things are so so important.
So, I want you to say it with me in the comments,
I have a voice and
don't allow yourself to be manipulated.
You can be the one who's ethically
manipulating the manipulator.
Don't ever think that it's all the way over,
that you can never win,
that there's nothing else that you can do,
that you might as well give up,
that you can never negotiate with a narcissist,
that they're always going to win,
that the other person will always have the upper hand.
Those are their words speaking to you,
you do realize that, right?
Because they've imprinted you,
they've programmed you to believe that,
they want you to think that.
The way you can start to deprogram yourself
from their thinking is to also start to get away from that.
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Also, good for Britney right?
Finally getting out from this narcissist control.
Good for her, love to see this.
I’m so glad you're here, stick around, join us.
Remember that you definitely do have a voice.
I'm so glad you're here.
Remember today is a great day to start negotiating your best life.
I will see you in the next video!