Today I am so excited because I will bring you along
and show you how Orthodox Jews party as well as five things you will need to make a successful
Orthodox Jewish party if you have been here for a while first and foremost thank you for coming
back to spend some time with me it's so nice to be together again and if you're new hi my name is
Sara Malka and on my channel I share all facets of my Orthodox Sephardic Jewish Life as a full-time
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when there is a Jewish party in the Orthodox Community it is usually associated to a major
life event like a wedding and engagement a Jewish holiday a bar mitzvah a bat mitzvah
a birth and so many other reasons the main goal of this celebration or party is always
to get closer to G.od and to create and or reinforce the sense of Ardut in Hebrew or
unity in English within the Jewish Community whether the party is on a smaller scale like
at home or a bigger scale like today this is usually why a party is such a special event
today you're going to see inside a classic Orthodox Jewish party this one is part of
our Purim celebration which is one of the minor Jewish holidays in our calendar it is
a holiday where we listen to the Book of Esther twice we also give a set amount of money to the
poor what we call matanot LaEvyonim we offer gifts with food called Mishloach manot and we
partake to conclude the Purim celebration with a Purim party where we will enjoy the
Mishté also called Purim seuda or Purim meal if a party is done for the community like this one
the first thing we need is a large party room or Hall but not all Halls are created equal
the first thing you will notice in a good Orthodox Jewish Hall is that you will have kippah or
yarmulkah at the entrance in case a man does not have it for an Orthodox Jewish party we need a
room that will be spacious enough not only to seat all the people but that room need to seat men and
women separately as men and women in any Orthodox Jewish Gathering will be separated when they are
not from the same family the separate seating start at 13 years old when a boy turns Bar Mitzvah
and at 12 years old four girl when she turns Bat Mitzvah before these ages they are all considered
as children and they can go on both sides to separate the women's side from the men's side
we will use the first thing you will need to make a successful Orthodox Jewish party and that is
a Mechitzah or separation here it is a series of racks draped with elegant Fabric and we found the
same kind of separation for the Sephardic Orthodox wedding that you saw in our Jewish wedding video
the Mechitzah does not need to be fancy a simple separator that is thick enough for men and women
not to see each other is absolutely perfect in the video I made about the Orthodox Sephardic Jewish
wedding many of you asked me why do we separate men and women I will answer this question with
pleasure a little later on in the video when we are going to look into the fourth thing that
you will need to have a successful Orthodox Jewish party usually in an Orthodox Jewish party you will
find or one large table with many side tables like on the men's side or like on the women's
side where you will only have round tables usually every round table will be seating about 10 people
traditionally the tables have a gorgeous centerpiece and beautiful Cutlery glassware
and dishware because like I mentioned to you in the Jewish kitchenware tour we love beautifying
our Shabbat and holiday tables as well as our tables for any celebration with elegant plates
glasses bowls and everything else to create magical moments and Elevate our celebration
another item you will need to make a successful Orthodox Jewish party is bread and that is because
bread plays a big role in our Orthodox Jewish life especially for Shabbat and most Jewish holidays
bside YOm Kippur of course! as well as in many life cycle events such as a bar or bat mitzvah
wedding and so much more you may ask yourself why bread is so important to Orthodox Jews well it is
because the Torah says that we should eat feel satisfied and bless G.od for the food that we've
just eaten this commandment from the Torah is made specifically for bread that we've eaten during our
meal so eating bread really constitutes a meal that satisfies us physically and spiritually
through the after blessing called Birkat Hamazon or Grace after meal which is one of the positive
Mitzvah or commandment directly from the Torah therefore as we previously mentioned one of the
main goals of any Orthodox Jewish celebration or party is to grow closer to G.od so when we
eat bread we will connect the physical world with the spiritual World in our celebration
through eating bread and reciting Birkat Hamazon or Grace after meal and I will show
you in more details the rituals Associated to Birkat Hamazon once we're done eating
before we eat bread we will wash our hands and this is where the second thing you will need
to make a successful Orthodox Jewish party will make its appearance and that is washing basins
outside of bathrooms here the basins are in the corridor next to the reception hall usually in
this basins you will only have cold water faucets as we can only use cold water to wash our hands
ritualistically we will use a Netilat Yadayim or Negel Vasser for Ashkenazi Brothers which is a
double handle washing cup and we will fill up the Netilat Yadayim cup with water all the way to the
top and make the water overflow as a good omen that our life shall be overflowing with blessings
we will pour the water three times on each hand and then we will reside the blessing of Netilat
Yadayim
we dry our hands and without talking nor making any Interruption between
our hand washing and eating we will go to the table and we will enjoy our bread
making the blessing on the bread and dipping it in Salt before enjoying it
usually when we are ready to eat our bread there is already salads on the table because what you're
seeing is an orthodox Sephardic party there will be chukchuka eggplant plant salad babaganoush
and hot peppers as salads that are going to be served and of course if you want these amazing
recipes as well as the best tips and tricks to make these Sephardic salads I will have the link
to the video above and in the description box below so you can watch that video after this one
another thing that is particular to an Orthodox Jewish party is that children are always included
in the party and they are rarely left at home sometimes they will have babysitters at the
party to keep them busy or like at this party they could 100% participate in a nutshell we
want to include the children in our celebrations as much as possible for them to learn by example
to see what is a true Jewish celebration for them to experience how much fun it is as well as for
them to look forward to the next one whether as a child or as an adult the third thing you
will need to make a successful Orthodox Jewish party is a kosher caterer it is so important to
have a kosher caterer because not only do the cooks need to know what we can and cannot eat
as Orthodox Jews but they also need to know what we can and cannot make mix together like we do
not mix meat and milk we do not mix Meat and Fish and for us Orthodox Sephardic Jews we do not mix
fish and milk together furthermore the Caterers also have to know how to verify our food to make
sure it is bug free as Orthodox Jews we follow the Commandment in the Torah who forbids us for us to
eat to any bugs on this side note another reason why it is so important to have a kosher caterer
at an orthodox church celebration or party when it is made on a bigger scale like today it is because
the servers have to be trained about certain kosher laws as well as to know that they need to
remove all utensils and plates between a fish dish and a meat dish for example like during this meal
the fourth thing you will need to make a successful Orthodox Jewish party is some
space to dance with good Orthodox Jewish music so people can dance because believe me who says
Orthodox Jewish party implies dancing but here the dances are a bit different than
the regular non-jewish party where people are dancing by themselves or in small groups facing
each other in an Orthodox Jewish party people will dance with each other holding hands doing
the Hora or dancing in circle together like we did during the Sephardic Orthodox Jewish
wedding we dance that way once again to create a sense of community a sense of Ardut or Unity
this way of dancing creates beautiful bonds and memories and also this way of dancing makes that
nobody feels left out or feel awkward because they do not know how to dance if you can walk
you can dance at the Jewish Orthodox party again our goal is we are all together dancing as one
to go back to the previous question why men and women are separated in Jewish Orthodox Gatherings
when they are not from the same family while one of the most common reason is to protect our
modesty and avoid mingling between men and women you might be asking yourself how do I personally
feel about being separated from Men In Orthodox Jewish events and my answer is very simple I love
it these parties are like a major girls night out we connect with other women we have fun we talk
about everything it is really a girl power Time it energizes my week and it helps me connect more
deeply with my friends to my community and it even helps me connect with my husband because after the
party we will be able to describe to each other what we saw at the party from our different
perspectives on our way home and I absolutely love it on the side note many synagogues have
Jewish party halls in the same building and where we had this party was no exception we can see the
men's side in the front the women's side in the back behind the Mechitzah the Aron where the
Torah Scrolls are kept in the front of the room as well as so many other items that are unique
to an Orthodox Jewish synagogue and if you want for me to do a full tour of an Orthodox Jewish
synagogue please let me know in the comments below and I will do this video for you with pleasure
a runner-up that almost made it to the five things you will need to make a successful
Orthodox Jewish party are Kosher and often large bathrooms because usually there are large seating
areas with mirrors the children go there when they want to talk and as women we always Chit Chat when
we're changing our babies diapers so as you can see the bathrooms at an Orthodox Jewish event is
like a multi-purpose room one of the particularity with a bathroom in an orthodox party room is that
they do not use regular rolls of toilet paper but they use detached toilet paper as we cannot rip
on Shabbat and the holidays so we use Kleenex or special pre-cut toilet paper like this one
after using the bathroom of course we will be washing our hands with soap and water we dry them
with pre-cut papers as well for the same reason we will also wash our hands after going to the
bathroom ritualistically at the conclusion of the meal in which we ate bread we say Birkat Hamazon
or Grace after meal thanking G.od for giving us sustenance before reciting Birkat Hamazon the
grace after meal we rinse our fingertips this washing is called Mayim Acharonim The Final Waters
after washing Mayim Acharonim I refrain from talking until I do Birkat Hamazon and once
Birkat Hamazon (Grace after meal) is completed we will be served the dessert but before I show
you all the wonderful desserts that were served to us on that night let me share with you the
fifth thing you will need and in my opinion the most important one you will need to have
a successful Orthodox Jewish party and that is simcha could be translated in English by Joy but
this principle goes way beyond that seem high as the spiritual Joy of being blessed to be able to
participate in the Mitzvah or commandment we are gathered for whether a wedding a bar mitzvah or
in this case a purim party and our only role when we are there at these celebration or party is for
us to bring simcha so in a wedding for example our sole goal will be to Rejoice the bride and
groom that includes dancing but on the show as well as sometimes wearing a dinosaur costume at
a wedding to bring simcha to the bride and groom to make them happy and increase their physical
and spiritual joy to be able to accomplish this commandment or Mitzvah at hand therefore this is
why in my opinion even with the best hall the best catered food the best music the best decor and
Mechitzah without this fifth item called simcha everything will fall flat and this is why it
is the most important thing for every guest that come to any Jewish party to be prepared to create
moments of simcha for everyone to feel comfortable to feel welcome and there therefore increase our
closeness to each other and ultimately increasing our closeness to G.od I would love to know what
was your favorite part of an Orthodox Jewish party please let me know in the comments below
thank you so much for being here it means the world to me and know that in my book by you
being you makes this world and especially my world a better place to live in if you're here
until the end please write in the comments I LOVE JEWISH PARTY so I know I was not alone
and if nobody told you today know that YOU ARE LOVED AND YOU ARE ENOUGH Just the Way You Are
until next time stay safe stay blessed and don't forget to FRUM IT UP (ELEVATE YOUR MUNDANE)