Heya playas.
if you've ever been in the friend zone I'm pretty sure that you've done this before.
The thing is, most of the time you don't even know why you're in the friend zone.
You were kind, you were caring and you we're always there for her when she needed it.
Exactly.
This is The Josh Speaks.
You're watching The Josh Speaks.
I don't want to waste any time, so let's get right into it.
All guys that are in the friend zone spend time talking about what they would do if they
were with the girl.
What I mean by that is when you strike up a conversation with her you might say things
like "you such a good person, you deserve a guy that's gonna treat you well".
Do you see the problem with that statement?
No.
The girl does deserve someone good but what you're telling her is that guy is out there,
not right here.
Granted you shouldn't have to explain to her why you're a good guy, you should just be
one and act like one by default.
And because of that, one thing you need to remember is that being a good guy doesn't
make you ahead of anyone else.
It just makes you the standard.
But when can being a good guy backfire on you?
Well, I would say that it's whenever you spend more time thinking about what you want to
do with a girl rather than doing it with her.
No, I don't mean doing it with her.
Get your mind out of the gutter.
If you're sitting there thinking about how she is the perfect girl for you and you would
be the very best boyfriend that she could ever choose, then there's a problem.
Instead of physically being there, you might say things like "if you ever need me, I'll
be there for you" which means that if she comes a calling, you'll come a running.
And the reason why that approach is so unsuccessful is because you're not taking the initiative
to show her, hey, you like her and hey, you want to go out with her.
Now, I'm not saying it's easy.
But at some point you have to catch yourself in your tracks and realize that your approach
is backfiring.
Waiting for her to give you the approval is a bad move to make.
You have to be persistent and persistence is exactly what I talk about in this video
right here, you need to check it out.
What the girl is hoping for is that the guy who likes her and the guy who gives her a
reason to like him back will step forward and confidently make that point know.
However, when you spend all your time logically and rationally trying to prove to her that
you would be a good boyfriend, think about what you're doing in this moment to show that
you are.
Is she happy and excited to be around you?
Can she share things and trust in you?
And, is she attracted to you?
The third point there is so crucial, because if you aren't building attraction, some other
guy will.
He's gonna attracted her, distract her and then take her away.
I've mentioned this point before and I even put it on a t-shirt, don't talk about it,
be about it.
Don't wait for her to give you a sign or a signal that shows that she might like you
back.
Create that attraction by actually delivering on the things you want to do with her.
What do you think, are you someone who gets nervous about moving from a friendship with
a girl to something more?
Leave a comment below and we'll talk about it.
Sometimes, you may dig a hole too deep and get buried in the friend zone but it doesn't
have to end there if you don't want it to.
Check out my video right here where I explain exactly how to escape the friend zone.
Don't fall prey to the idea that just because you spend more time around her, your chances
of getting with her are better.
You need to seize the opportunity, create the attraction by asking her out and then
persistently go after until you know how she truly feels.
As always guys, love and peace.
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It's gonna be all about how to not be the nice guy.
It fits in with the whole friend zone thing so you might want to check that one out too.