- What are the 16 personalities like at their best?
You know, when we talk about the 16 personalities,
we usually fall back on their baseline.
So by that I mean not unhealthy versions of the types,
but also not extremely developed versions of them either.
Stereotypical, basically, ESTJs are telling you what to do.
ISFPs are artistic.
INTPs wear glasses.
You get the point.
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ESTPs at their absolute best are gonna be
action first thinkers,
but not so much that their impulsiveness
gets them into trouble.
Now one of the benefits of being a thinking type
is that as they develop
they tend to learn to look before they leap
when it comes to new or difficult situations.
Less developed ESTPs might jump head first
into any problem that arises,
but a more developed one will take just a moment,
even if it's not too long of a moment,
to consider the logical impacts of their decision.
Developed ESTPs also tend to temper their thinking
in relation to how harsh it can come off to others.
Essentially they tone down the harshness
of their logical words
in favor of giving honest but constructive criticism.
All right, now ESFPs are still gonna be
impulsive individuals who live in the moment
when they're at their best.
What changes though is that they develop
their sense of values and identity
as they become more mature,
which allows them to make better spontaneous decisions
that are in line with what they value.
So less developed ESFPs will try to live
by what feels right to them.
But the problem is that they haven't really taken the time
to think through their value system.
So the problem with this is that it could often end up
with a less developed ESFP getting into trouble
or doing something that ultimately goes against
what they think is the right thing to do.
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And this is the difficult path that many ESFPS take
in order to reach their best.
They get into a few tough situations,
and then they make some questionable decisions
that result in them feeling bad,
which makes them stop and reflect.
And this causes them to change their future actions
to reflect what they learned.
ISTJs are organized but not hyper rigid
when they're at their best.
Less developed ISTJs won't allow anyone to change anything
if it goes against the way they think things should be done.
Don't mess with it.
We got it going, we got things working right,
let's just not, don't touch it.
Developed ISTJs learned
that it can be okay to deviate
from the plan or the schedule.
And in fact, sometimes,
taking a different route
can be the most productive direction.
At the same time though,
a developed ISTJ is gonna know
when it is appropriate to ensure that protocol is followed.
Because you probably don't want someone who is
open to new ideas or options as like your lawyer.
Instead, you want someone who knows the rules
and how the system works well enough
to maximize your outcome within the system's constraints,
but isn't just blindly following protocol.
ISFJs spend a lot of time reflecting
on their life experiences,
and when they learn to share
what they have learned from those experiences,
they can really make an impact on others' lives.
Many less developed ISFJs prefer
to blend into the background,
like they don't want to make a fuss or start an argument.
What the developed ISFJ brings to the table
is confidence in their own knowledge and experiences,
so that they can share that knowledge
without being worried about pushback from others
who may disagree.
ISFJs at their best know that sometimes it's okay
or even necessary to make ripples, or even waves,
in the social environment
to achieve a better outcome for everyone in the long run.
ESTJs at their best
have a commanding presence that is
almost impossible to ignore.
A sharp tongue and a serious demeanor.
Now what less developed ESTJs struggle with
is not knowing when to limit this commanding attitude.
So they end up treating friends, family,
employees, the dog walker,
they treat everyone like their chefs
on Hell's Kitchen who forgot the lamb sauce.
So ESTJs progress towards
becoming the best version of themselves,
they learn when it's appropriate to go all in
and when it might be better to be a little more low-key.
Maybe I should not explode
over the lamb sauce this time.
A less developed ESTJ feels confident
that they can navigate a situation
by verbally slapping around another person.
The ESTJ at their best, however,
realizes that in some situations
you can catch more flies with honey than vinegar,
as the old saying goes.
Now ENTJs are pretty similar to ESTJs
in that their attitude can take over a room.
The difference is that for ENTJs,
they tend to be far more critical of others' mistakes.
Few things frustrate an ENTJ
more than someone else making a mistake
that the ENTJ sees as having a simple fix.
More than any other type,
ENTJs can't stand people making more work for themselves
than is necessary.
Less developed ENTJs will have a very short fuse
when it comes to these situations.
The ENTJ at their best is one
who really learns the value of giving
constructive criticism in a way that doesn't come off
as a harsh critique, or even worse as bullying.
While they might not be the most gentle in giving advice,
ENTJs have the intuitive thinking skills
to identify the overall principles
that will guide others to find success.
So the ENTJ at their best
is one who can patiently explain to others
a better way forward.
ESFJs at their best are leaders of a community.
Whether that community is large like a city,
or small like a family.
The ESFJ's goal is to ensure the wellbeing
of those they care about.
ESFJs also tend to have the people skills
that make them great at navigating social situations
that involve many different personalities.
One major thing that separates ESFJs
at their best from the less developed ones
is that they know when to stop and take care of themselves.
If the oxygen masks dropped on an airplane,
the less developed ESFJ is gonna be the guy who goes,
"Oh my gosh, let me help you get yours on."
And 10 seconds later they're going,
"I don't feel so good."
Because they didn't put on their own mask.
They got hypoxia, man.
The ESFJ at their best, though,
knows that it's important to get their life in order
and tend to their own needs
before they move on to help others.
Just like the ESFJ, the ENFJ usually struggles
with not helping themselves before helping others.
That said, ENFJs tend to have more general goals
when it comes to helping those around them.
So basically this means the ESFJ,
who we just talked about, is much more practical.
They're like, I can help you by cleaning your house for you.
ENFJs are more generally focused like,
here, I can help you by sharing the principles
of finding inner peace and happiness,
cleaning your inner spiritual house.
Most ENFJs can spot the flaws
in the social spheres they are invested in,
whether that's a large group or just one other person.
And the ENFJs knows how to address those flaws.
In fact, many ENFJs will feel bad
if they can't fix a problem that is plaguing
those they care about.
What separates less developed ENFJs
from an ENFJ at their best
is that an ENFJ at their best knows
it's not their sole responsibility to fix the world
or fix the deep problems in the lives
of their friends and family.
It's that they learn that doing their best
is what truly matters.
That a step in the right direction
is better than no step at all.
And if the problem can't be fixed,
or someone doesn't wanna take their advice,
it isn't the ENFJ's fault.
There's no type more than the ISTP
who can answer the question
does this realistically make sense?
A problem many less developed is ISTPs face
is rigidness in their thinking.
They might immediately brush off
less than realistic ideas as nonsense,
that it's not worth any time or investment.
Sometimes they'll even brush off realistic ideas
just because they didn't think up the idea themselves.
That's because ISTPs are also
one of the most independent types.
The ISTP at their best is one who knows
when it's okay to open things up a little bit,
to think just a little bit outside the box,
and also to know when to swallow their pride
and give someone else's ideas a chance.
INTPs at their best are logical, creative,
and maybe just a bit goofy.
These are the types who usually make discoveries
or advancements in our understanding of the universe
that impact humanity for decades to come.
No pressure INTPs.
They don't start out like that though,
and many less developed INTPs struggle
to portray their ideas to others
in a way where everyone else can see the value
of the INTP's ideas.
A less developed INTP might even waste years
working on an idea that they never even bothered to check,
is anyone ever gonna care about this?
Less developed INTPs are the people who go
on a show like Shark Tank and are like,
"I have the most amazing invention ever.
"It's a robotic finger that helps you pick your nose
"and flick it."
And the sharks are like,
"Oh why did you bring this to us?
"This is terrible."
So ISTPs at their best know
how to effectively communicate with others.
And not only that,
but they're able to understand and appreciate
what kind of ideas others are most likely to care about.
When they're at their best,
ISFPs are fully individualistic people
who live moment to moment
by their personal morals and ethics,
while also respecting other people
living by their own morals as well.
As they experience more and more throughout their lives,
ISFPs tend to latch onto a few beliefs or values
that are really important to them.
And overtime, those become core aspects
of their personalities.
But it can be a problem when other people
disagree with those values,
and less developed ISFPs will find themselves
losing friends or getting into heated arguments
with others because of this.
As the ISFP moves closer to becoming their best, though,
they appreciate that everyone has their own path in life
and that others don't need to agree
with their own personal beliefs.
In other words, they learn that if we have
different views of life,
even if they're fundamentally different,
it's not an attack on the ISFP's identity.
The ISFP at their best wants personal freedom for everyone,
as long as that personal freedom isn't hurting anyone else.
INFPs at their best are empathetic to others,
while also maintaining a strong sense of personal identity.
To the INFP, living in alignment
with their morals is extremely important.
The problem they face though is that,
because their morals are often abstract,
it's hard for them to find other people
who resonate with that exact set of morals.
This can cause less developed INFPs
to come into conflict with others a lot,
and could also lead them to feel very alone.
As though they are the only person on earth
who has this particular set of values.
This can cause very undeveloped INFPs
to become bitter and disengaged with others.
At their best though, INFPs recognize
that others can't see their point of view so easily,
but that doesn't mean that it needs to be
a source of conflict or even that others disagree with them.
It could just mean that many people
don't center all of their decisions
around the things that they value.
An INFP at their best is patient with those
who have differing opinions while also realizing
that it might just be best to remove themselves
from a situation involving conflicting values,
instead of butting heads with others.
ENFPs have a quality at their best
that you might not expect from such an unpredictable type,
and that is mentorship.
ENFPs are a type that love to live by their values,
but they also like to encourage those around them
to let loose and follow their own hearts.
If a friend or someone they care about is struggling,
the ENFP could offer a wide variety
of both creative and practical solutions.
The ENFP at their best is also gonna know
when it is important to not jump ship
to the new and exciting thing
just because it's new and exciting.
While change can be good,
hastily throwing away a good opportunity
for something else can often be unwise.
And less developed ENFPs will often find themselves
doing just that.
So the ENFP at their best is one who is able to determine
which opportunities are worth chasing,
while also being able to inspire those around them
to chase their dreams as well.
ENTPs at their best are gonna be a type
that comes up with novel and new ways
to think about whatever interests them.
In fact, one of the key differences between an ENTP
at their best and one who isn't
is recognizing when it is important
to try to initiate a change.
Less developed ENTPs will often try to change things
just because, like, why not?
I'm bored.
Let's just do something different.
A lot of times systems are put into place
because they work.
And while such systems might be annoying to an ENTP,
it isn't always the best idea to change them.
More developed ENTPs will be more strategic
about proposing ideas that will require
a large shift in the current environment.
Another aspect of ENTPs at their best
is that they could be
surprisingly charming and approachable.
ENTPs at their best tend to be less critical
than other thinking types,
and recognize when it is important to reel
in the logic for the sake of social cohesion.
That's right.
The debater type, he knows what he shouldn't be debating.
INTJs at their best are calm, collected and focused.
Working with dedication towards a vision
for their life that is full of meaning.
INTJs are pretty good at finding
the most efficient way to accomplish something,
and this can set them up to just rock it through life.
They set up a goal, boom,
they figure out a way to blow it outta the water.
The less developed INTJ
can spend several years doing this,
being outwardly very successful,
but ultimately incurring a lot of risk for two reasons.
One, because they get so focused on the next thing
that they don't bother paying attention
to what is happening right now.
And that can lead to very practical problems
like financial or even health issues.
And the second risk is that their heart
isn't fully invested in what they're doing.
No, I know.
INTJs are like, what does that matter?
Well, it matters because that makes it sustainable.
That prevents burnout.
An INTJ at their best isn't just speed running
through their goals like a video game.
They are finding a true purpose in their actions
and enjoying the present moment.
Many underdeveloped INTJs might say they have a true purpose
but what they're really thinking of
is that hit of dopamine that they get
generally just from hitting a goal.
Might be monetary, might be the muscle size,
might be subscribers on YouTube.
They don't really care about the actual goals themselves,
just that it is a goal that is accomplished.
The INTJ at their best is like
my heart is in the content I'm creating for YouTube,
for example.
Sure, they still might have a goal,
like I wanna reach 10 million subscribers.
But their personal investment
in the day to day actions,
and their enjoyment of the process
and not just the end goal,
sets them up to be the most successful of all the INTJs.
Most known for their reserved nature and empathy,
the INFJ at their best is the type of person who
puts a lot of energy into achieving,
not only their own vision for the future,
but also helping those they care about
achieve theirs as well.
INFJs can usually take a problem a friend is facing
and guide them through the steps on how to solve it,
while also being careful and considerate of their feelings.
Less developed INFJs often lack the confidence
or assertiveness to bring their own vision to life,
if it is in conflict with others though.
So you'll see a lot of INFJs
who can give you advice all day long about, you know,
like going after what you want in life.
But then they have 10 reasons
for why they feel like they're not allowed
to go after what they want in life.
And usually those reasons are something like,
well, I don't want to upset this other person,
or I don't wanna leave behind my friends,
or, and this is the most common,
I don't wanna have to change my life
that much to go after that vision.
More developed INFJs, though,
you might say that INFJs at their best,
'cause that's the title of this video,
they practice what they preach, man.
Not only can they give you good advice,
but they can give themselves good advice.
And then make the necessary and often uncomfortable changes
in their lives to follow through.
It's interesting to me because INFJs
usually don't need to experience something firsthand
to be able to give you advice about it.
This is an advantage for the INFJs,
because when they're at their best,
they're getting all this great advice from themselves
about situations they've never even experienced before.
They're gaming the system.
At their best.
Thanks for watching.
Until next time, stay cool and attractive.
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