- [Narrator] Have you ever wondered
if someone's attracted to you and you don't even realize it?
It can sometimes be hard to tell
unless someone is obvious about their interest
because attraction typically appears first
on the micro level.
It's important to first decipher if the person
might simply be a highly effective communicator
with a high social IQ
who is adept at making people feel seen and heard
with their attentiveness.
On the contrary,
people who are attracted to you might send mixed signals,
especially if someone is anxious
around someone they're attracted to.
So for all these signs,
please use your intuition to decipher the clues.
Disclaimer: this video is for educational purposes
and is based on personal opinions.
This video is not a substitute for professional advice
but for a general guidance.
We advise you to always listen to your intuition
and always do what is right for you.
Let's begin.
Number one, mirroring behavior.
According to clinical psychologist Holly Schiff,
mirroring is when someone subconsciously attempts
to bond with you through matching your behavior.
If you notice someone
is making the similar facial expressions as you,
placing their body in a similar posture,
or even matching your energy levels,
they may find your presence attractive enough
to express their interests
through this nonverbal affirmation.
Note that most people aren't likely
to consciously catch themselves doing so.
But if you start to notice your date
is matching your standing posture and speech mannerisms,
it's a great sign of attraction.
It's also why couples tend to start looking
and acting similar after some time.
Number two, physical flirtation.
People who have physical touch as their love language
might throw in some physical flirtation
to show their interest in you
such as a lingering hug, a pat on your arm or shoulder,
accidentally grazing your hand,
touching the mid to lower part of your back.
Take notice of whether they seem communicative with everyone
with their physical touch,
or if it's only you that they are extra attentive to
in this form.
Some people may use physical touch as a bonding technique
to help themselves and others feel more comfortable
in their presence.
So it could be that they'd be nervous about acting that way
towards someone they're attracted to.
Number three, belly button alignment.
Margaret Stone, a licensed therapist and dating coach,
states that aligning one's belly button with another
is a sign of attraction, trust, and security,
something which is also done subconsciously.
Couples who tend to face each other,
even one in large groups,
are doing so to feel socially safe on a subconscious level.
Similarly, when someone is attracted to you,
their body will give clues
that they'd like to become closer to you
physically or emotionally
by pointing themselves directly to you.
Or when someone is engaging in conversation,
their feet may point
towards the person they're speaking with
that they're interested in.
Number four, open body language.
In a 2016 study on the importance and impact
of body language on speed dating,
researchers found that participants
who displayed open non-verbal behavior were deemed
as dominant and attractive
versus those who demonstrated contractive cues.
While it's now considered scientifically proven
that open body language like uncrossing your arms,
taking up space, and standing with a straight posture
can make you seem more attractive,
it's also true that those who are attracted to you
will appear more open in their body language as well.
If they're keeping their bodies vulnerable
and in a welcoming stance,
they feel comfortable and safe around you.
On the other hand,
if they seem to be closed off with their body,
it might be their way of nonverbally asking for some space.
Number five, eyebrow flash.
This one might be hard to notice, but if you do catch it,
take it as a good sign.
An eyebrow flash or an eyebrow raise
is considered a micro expression,
which means it only appears on a person's face
for a split second.
Micro expressions are the most telling signs
of someone's true emotions,
even when their words or conscious actions say otherwise.
A quick raising of the eyebrows,
especially when someone first sees you walking towards them,
for example, could be expressing their genuine excitement
that you've arrived.
Contrast that with eyes that narrow
with downward turning eyebrows
when someone is unhappy to see you.
Strangers who find you attractive while walking past you
might quickly flash their eyebrows as a subtle sign
of surprise or delight in what they're seeing.
But note that an eyebrow raise that remains raised
might be less attraction and more surprise or shock.
Number six, voice changes.
Ever notice your best friend's voice
becoming suddenly higher or deeper
while in the company of they're crush?
Well, don't judge them for it.
Because it's quite likely that you unconsciously do the same
in the presence of someone you are attracted to as well.
A study conducted in 2014 found
that people speaking to someone they find attractive
tend to change the tone, strength,
and pitch of their voice when doing so.
According to the study,
it's even possible for those listening in on conversations
between two people who are attracted to each other
to tell there's chemistry happening.
Take note of how someone sounds
when speaking to a family member or a friend
versus when they're speaking with you.
They might seem more attentive in their speech style
and desire to highlight their best qualities
through their voice.
For example, if they'd like for you
to believe they're masculine,
they might deepen their voice.
And if they want you to think they're sweet,
they might soften their voice.
Number seven, inward leaning.
Jack Schaffer PhD states that as rapport increases
between two people, inward leaning may increase as well.
This happens gradually and will often include signs
of belly button alignment and open body language.
This might be easier to tell
when involved in a one-on-one conversation than in a group.
The best plan of action is to first notice
if someone is making frequent eye contact with you.
And if you reciprocate,
they begin to turn their body towards you
and inevitably lean in,
especially if they're seated.
Take this as a positive sign that they are interested in
or attracted to you.
On the other hand,
those who aren't interested in the topic at hand
or seem confusingly indifferent
to your impossibly good looks and charm
might lean back and keep themselves at a distance instead.
And number eight, distracted behavior.
Maybe you're noticing your crush seems more distracted
in one-on-one study sessions with you
than when in a group setting.
Or perhaps you notice that an acquaintance you just met
seems completely unaware of their surroundings
while in conversation with you.
It's even possible that strangers
who walk past you are distracted
and do a double-take as you walk by.
Someone's attraction to you, whether platonic or romantic,
might be obvious
in their subconsciously focused attention on you
while seeming distracted
from their previous focus of attention.
So as long as you're not out there causing traffic jams
or having people trip from rubbernecking
to get another look at you,
keep being your enticingly attractive self.
Have you noticed any of these signs?
Let us know in the comments below
and share this video with others who might like it.
As always, the references and studies used
are listed in the description below.
Be sure to check out our Psych2Go YouTube channel
for more videos like the one below
on ways to become more attractive,
link to 10 surprising habits that make you more attractive.
Until next time, Psych2Goers.
Take care and thanks for watching.