When you come up with excuses for
why other people are successful
and you're not
That is dangerous.
Like life itself is a process of becoming
a part of man's ongoing historical drive
to manifest his consciousness outside of his mind,
in front of his eyes.
Listen to me if it was easy,
everybody would do it.
There are people right now who are working
who don't want to work.
There people who hate their jobs.
They keep getting up to do it
As a matter of fact,
you always make sure
you take your annual average vaccine
because you never ever ever
want to catch the disease of average.
You gotta be totally committed
You gotta be completely uncertain.
You want a million dollars?
You want $2 million?
You want $5 million?
How much money do you want?
How much success do you want?
How much notoriety do you want?
You want a New York times bestseller?
Why can't you have everything?
I'm 65.
So what?
Colonel Harland Sanders
made all his money after he was 60.
He wasted the first 64 years.
I wish I can tell you, 70% is enough.
But it's not going to happen.
So I need you to understand something.
You can have it if you want it,
but the bigger dream,
the harder to grind
We didn't grow up with the sense that
where we were was where we were gonna be.
You know, we grew up with the sense
that where we were almost didn't
matter because we were becoming,
we were becoming something greater.
Changing is not easy, but changing your
life, changing habits, re-inventing
yourself picking yourself up after
life has knocked you flat on your back.
I've got to say when life knocks you down
and tried flat on your back, because
if you can look up, you could get up.
Well, I think one thing that
discipline definitely does help you
with is it helps you get things done.
And when you get things done,
when you actually do things,
you have more success.
If you have more success.
And sometimes a big part of success is just
not being lazy and just doing it.
Whenever things don't go to plan,
whenever life throws us challenges and hardship,
there's always a hidden
blessing and always a strong lesson.
If
You want life to change?
You got to change.
If you want life to be
better, you've got to get better
But if you're constantly improving who
you are and what you give game over.
So that means you understand that at times
you will feel pain,
at times you will not be comfortable,
at times you will mentally hurt,
at times you will be physically exhausted.
But it's those times
that will catapult you to heights
you never thought you would see.
It's those times
that will propel you to successes
that you never thought you could achieve.
It's those times
that will launch you into a stratosphere
that only few ever reach.
It's those times
that will thrust you into an orbit
that most will deem impossible
What I recognize now is that my choice
is in every way,
in every example, in every experience
to do the right thing.
Success at anything will always come down to this "Focus and Effort".
And we control both.
Remember, this is the grind.
The battle royale between you and your mind, your body, and the
devil on your shoulder is telling you that this is just a game.
This is just a waste of time.
Your opponents are stronger than you.
I tell people all the time, I'm like, don't just come up
with things you want to learn.
Cause that's what we want to learn everything.
By human build, we are curious animals.
We're deathly curious.
I mean, we are literally the curiosity killed the cat, that
sort of society right now.
Everyone wants to learn 50 new things immediately, but
no one ever learns anything.
Why?
Because it's not real for them.
It's a transient desire.
And that's it.
That's the secret.
If you really want to do something in your life, if you really want to be great, if
you want to smash it, if you want to be remembered, the key is to acquire as many
skills as you can, because every thing that you bring into your world gives
you an exponentially greater chance of winning of doing the thing that you want
to do, but you have to be totally focused and committed on gaining those skills.
How much time do you have left?
When you stop thinking about that, we don't know.
Most of us don't use the stuffs that we have brought into the universe.
Stop wasting valuable time.
If you want something, you have got to be relentless.
You have to know what you want of your life before you become a master
learner, until I know what I want my life to be about what I want
to experience on a daily basis.
What do I want my dreams to be?
Who I want to be?
I don't know what to learn.
I'm just going to be curious about things and I'll dabble in them, but
that paths are real true mastery is that part where we say, okay,
What I want my life to be about.
Now, let me develop the knowledge, the skills, the competencies, the
capabilities to build into that life.
You've got to learn how to become resourceful.
You've got to learn how to become creative.
The power, the whole on in spite of everything, the power to endure.
This is the winner's quality, the hunger, the ability to face defeat
again and again, without giving up.
On the other side of endurance on the other side of out lasting
every body else
is the skill set that makes you unstoppable.
We bought into this complete falsehood that at some
point, you're going to have the courage, at some point
you're going to have the confidence,
and it's total bull frankly
Are we allowed to swear on this show?
- Absolutely. - Okay.
It's complete garbage and so there are so many people
in the world and, you know, you may be watching this
right now and you have those incredible ideas,
and what you think is missing is motivation,
and that's not true because the way that our minds are
wired, and the fact that human beings is that we
are not designed to do things that are uncomfortable,
or scary, or difficult.
Our brains are designed to protect us from those things,
because our brains are trying to keep us alive.
And in order to change, in order to build a business,
in order to be the best parent, the best spouse,
to do all those things that you know you want to do with
your life, with your work, with your dreams,
you're going to have to do things that are difficult,
uncertain, or scary.
Which sets up this problem for all of us,
you're never going to feel like it, motivation's garbage.
You only feel motivated to do the things that are easy,
right?
- Why do you think that is?
- Oh, I know exactly why that is because I've studied
this so much because, for me, one of the hardest things
to figure out was why is it so hard to do the little things
that would improve my life.
And what I've come to realize, and what we'll talk a lot
about today, is that the way that our minds are designed
is our minds are designed to stop you at all costs
from doing anything that might hurt you,
and the way that this all happens is it all starts
with something super subtle, that none of us ever catch,
and that is with this habit that all of us have
that nobody's talking about.
We all have a habit of hesitating.
We have an idea, you're sitting in a meeting,
you have this incredible idea, and instead of just,
you know, saying it, you stop and you hesitate.
Now, what none of us realize is that when you hesitate,
just that moment, just that micro moment,
that small hesitation, it sends a stress signal to your
brain, it wakes your brain up and your brain
goes all of a sudden goes oh, wait a minute,
why is he hesitating?
He didn't hesitate when he put on his killer spiky sneakers,
he didn't hesitate with the really cool track pants,
he didn't hesitate with the NASA teacher.
Now he's hesitating to talk, something must be up.
So then your brain goes to work to protect you.
It has a million different ways to protect you,
one of them is called the spotlight effect,
it's a known phenomenon where your brain magnified risk.
Why, to pull you away from something that it perceives
to be a problem.
And so, you can truly trace every single problem,
or complaint, in your life to silence and hesitation.
Those are decisions.
And what I do, and what's changed my life,
is waking up and realizing that motivation's garbage,
I'm never going to feel like doing the things that are tough,
or difficult, or uncertain, or scary, or new,
so I need to stop waiting until I feel like it.
And number two, I am one decision away from a totally
different marriage, a totally different life,
a totally different job, a totally different income,
a totally different relationship with my kids.
Not like one decision, I'm divorcing you,
in the marriage example, but one decision on, you know,
you could be having a conversation with your spouse
and you feel your emotions rise up,
and within a tiny window, those emotions can take over
and can impact how your marriage goes.
Or you can learn how to take control of that micro moment,
and make a decision to act in a way that actually
shifts your marriage.
Your life comes down to your decisions,
and if you change your decisions,
you will change everything.