I know, I know... it is so silly to think of falling in love with yourself, but trust me,
it is one of the best things you can do in your personal development journey. i would even argue
that it might be a great first step in your personal growth journey. you might be thinking,
all this self-love talk just feels narcissistic and self-absorbed. let me tell you, it is not
narcissistic. loving myself makes me a better wife, a better mother, a better sister, daughter
and friend. you can only love others to the degree you love yourself. and to love yourself, you have
to heal yourself psychologically. hurt people hurt people, healed people heal people. i have to heal
myself and love myself first. only then i can fully love others and heal others. self-love is
not selfish. and guess what the beautiful side effect of self-love is? when you fill yourself
with praise, self-love, self-care, good thoughts and good beliefs about yourself, you lose interest
in filling yourself with junk. like junk food, alcohol, drugs, mindless social media scrolling,
and other ways of numbing yourself, which also includes shopping and retail therapy. you fix what
is inside and then you don't need these external things to numb you from feeling inadequate. my
dependence on external things or on other people to make me feel good is gradually going down
as i work on my healing and my self-love. before i go into the five ways of loving yourself,
make sure to watch this video till the end because i have a very special announcement
that i'm super excited to share with you! so here are the five ways to fall in love with yourself.
pick one or two or all of them - whichever ones you resonate the most with, and then commit
to practicing that method daily. even if it feels uncomfortable. you cannot grow if you stay in your
comfort zone. number one: write i am enough on your mirror. look at it and read it out loud
every day. even if you don't believe it, keep repeating it because you can rewire your mind
through repetition. i learned this technique from marissa peer. number two: buy a self-love guided
journal. there are lots of choices on amazon if you search for "self-love journal". these journals
have specific journaling prompts to help you build self-love. number three: each time you get
a little victory, a little accomplishment, like you exercised - even if it was for two minutes,
or you made a healthy choice in food, or on some days it could be something as small as,
you pushed yourself and got out of bed - each time you do something good for yourself - high
five yourself in the mirror. make eye contact with yourself in the mirror and high five yourself,
even if it feels silly or useless. it is not useless, i promise. i do it. watch my high five
habit book review video to learn more about why and how to do the high five habit. number four:
when you make a mistake, don't criticize yourself. we are our own worst critics.
the inner voice that tells you "you suck, you're a loser, you can never do anything properly" - that
inner voice is your biggest enemy. would you say such harsh words to your best friend if
they made the same mistake as you? heck no! you would encourage them by saying something like
"it's okay, you tried your best. now forget the past and move on and let's figure out how we can
improve". use the same encouraging words for yourself. show yourself the same compassion
that you would show to your child, if you had a child. when a child is learning to walk
and they fall, does the parent scold them or encourage them? and number five:
re-parent yourself. become the parent that you wish you had, to your own self. often the reason
we don't feel enough is that we were raised by our parents in a way that caused us to believe
we're not good enough. but now that you're a grown up, you can shatter that belief. it is
not true! you needed your parents' approval when you were a child but now you don't. be your own
parent. say things to yourself that you wish your parents had said to you. i have done this.
i am my own parent now. i am my own best friend and i am my own cheerleader. before i share my
exciting announcement, tell me in the comments below which method did you most resonate with?
and remember to do that method daily, if you want to see any results. change happens only
when you take action. i am so passionate about helping people build and increase their self-love
that i have decided to write a book about it! yes, i'm writing my very first book!
at this point i'm thinking it'll be a short e-book or audiobook or both,
in which i will share some more self-love methods, my own personal stories about building self-love
and i will also try to answer any questions or difficulties that you may have with applying
the five tips that i just shared. so make sure to ask those questions in the comments below because
i will answer them. i will do the research, i'll do whatever it takes to make this easy for you.
i will also include in my book some of your success stories with applying these tips,
so please share those with me too. if you want to stay in the loop about when my book will come out,
sign up for my email newsletter. i also intend to host some zoom workshops where we can
interact live and discuss your self-love journey, your questions and your victories!
the link to sign up for my private email list is in the description below. so come and join
my community! see you soon, love yourself, you're worth it! i am enough on your mirror...
why can't i seem to say mirror properly... properly... watch my hi-fi video book
okay okay okay okay okay okay watch my high five habit