I'm going to tell you in this video.
Hey there, I'm Rebecca Zung and I'm an attorney.
I'm also a narcissist negotiation expert
and I have devoted all of my time
now to helping you break free from narcissists.
I have helped thousands of people in cases,
break free from narcissists
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Okay, so I know what it's like to be
dealing with them.
I've helped people over the course of the last 20 years
and I know that it feels so toxic and like it is the worst.
Absolutely the worst because what happens with narcissists is
they get you into their web,
they get you into their lair with
their love bombing and their charisma
and they come on so strong and so powerful,
and so quickly, like they're so perfect.
And then, there you are stuck in that
and you don't know how the heck to get out of it.
Sometimes, you're not even sure that you do,
because when it's good, it's great.
But then, when it's bad, it's horrible.
You're in this cycle of toxic stew,
and sometimes they love you
and sometimes they hate you,
and you don't even know why,
and I have a whole video on that.
You want to know why that is?
You can definitely check that out
and you're trying to figure out, uh,
what do I do about it?
And you feel like, if I do try to
get out of it, what do I do?
And so you spend a whole lot of time
spinning your wheels, right?
Do you know what, the worst part of it is?
What is the worst part of it?
What do you spend the most amount of time doing
in your head?
The biggest amount of time. Well, there's two things
that are the biggest waste of time
and I'm going to tell you right now what they are
because I've been there.
I've been there dealing with them myself
on a personal level
and that's why I'm on this crusade to save you all
from yourselves worrying and complaining.
I'm going to tell you how to stop it right now.
Worrying is like, the biggest lie of them all,
because somehow, you feel like
when you're laying there in bed at night.
That you're doing something.
You know somehow this thing called “worry”
sucks you in.
It draws you into this lure of making you feel
like you're getting somewhere.
You're not getting anywhere with the worry thing.
It's this whole “What if” game that you play with yourself
as if it accomplishes something for you
and it doesn't accomplish anything for you.
It just brings you to the darkest places.
It doesn't actually get you anywhere because you got
to look at what is actually happening.
You got to stick with the what are the facts and reality?
What evidence do you have in reality of what's
actually happening?
And you gotta deal with the “what is in front of you” situation
and complaining is the same kind of thing.
And I'm going to tell you that as a lawyer,
especially when you're dealing with narcissists in a
negotiation setting.
A lot of you guys who are following me,
who are watching me on this channel,
you are dealing with a situation.
Maybe it's a toxic ex or soon to be ex.
Maybe it's a toxic business partner.
Maybe it's a toxic boss. Maybe it's a father
or mother of your child, something like that.
And want to just sit there
and go and complain to everybody about how the
system is screwed or skewed in some way,
how it's not fair, and that everything is against you,
that things are biased and you want to go tell
all your friends about it,
and I'm telling you right now that
even if you everybody in the whole world to say
“You’re right. It’s terrible”
and you get into whole pity party about it.,
and everybody is in agreement about it.
You're right. Where does that get you?
Does that help you? Does that get you
to see your kid more?
Does that get you the resolution that you want
I’m telling you right now
I want you to focus on what is it that you want.
Where is it that you want to go?
What vision do you want to create for yourself?
What is the idealized version of your life
that you want to create for yourself?
Focus on that. Feel what that feels like
for yourself and focus on that and stay
focused on that and say to yourself,
“I'm creating the life I want.”
and I want you to write that in the comments right now.
and I want you to say that to yourself every single day,
every moment of every day because that
is what is actually going to help you.
And slaying will actually help you
creating a strategy, creating leverage,
creating— anticipating with the narcissists.
It is going to be doing, being two steps ahead of them,
focusing on you, your case, your vision.
That is actually going to help you.
Two biggest waste of time in life are
worrying and complaining.
That will not help you saying it help you with the narcissists
and in fact, I know for a fact that it's a law of physics
that like attracts like
and if you continue to think those thoughts,
speak those thoughts, talk about those things
you are going to draw more of that into your life.
And so, if you don't like those things
don't be thinking about them.
Don't be talking about them.
Don't be worried about them.
Don't be complaining about them
because you're going to have more and more,
and more of that showing up in your life.
So start thinking about talking about,
and be focusing on the things that you want
more of in your life,
and you'll start seeing more of that showing up.
So start creating what it is that you want
focusing on what you do want,
and you'll start to see more of that showing up in your life.
That's my message for you for today.
And I know that you guys got this,
and I know that you can slay this
because I got your back
promise you that and please don't do this alone.
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And remember that today's a great day
to start negotiating your best life
and I will definitely see you in the next video.