You know what I don't want you to do?
I don't want you to do these things because I see ladies who really work on
their elegance image and then they do these mistakes that just ruins everything.
Ladies, please don't do it,
but I'm going to tell you all about it in this video. My dear elegant ladies,
welcome to the beautiful and sunny Bodrum in Turkey.
I am here at this beautiful resort, Mandarin Oriental. And a look,
what a nice view we have today.
Now, ladies apologies in advance for the fact that I'm wearing sunglasses.
Unfortunately it's too sunny and I'm unable to actually
record this video unless
I'm wearing sunglasses.
So please bear with me as I will be walking you through these
seven things that I really want you to be aware of whenever you are working on
your personal presence of your elegant persona.
There are things that we'll give away that you might not be as elegant
as you think you are. These are of course, not things that will define you,
but they will help you if you want to have a more sophisticated image.
Let's therefore start with point number one.
Because one of the things I really want you to be aware of that if you really
want to be generally elegant,
then you have to develop your taste buds to be more refined.
And what do I mean by that? Well,
you can easily see who is educated and who is elegant with the choices
of their food. Are they eating healthy or are they eating junk?
And what I want to tell you is that what gives away that you are truly not
elegant is if you eat regularly in fast food places.
If KFC,
McDonald's etc your favorite spots or the places that you
regularly go to, I would think again,
that's not going to serve you in your image,
and that's not also going to serve your health.
People who are truly sophisticated,
they really pay attention to the quality of their food.
And that's why they wouldn't eat at fast food joints,
unless it's once in a blue moon or let's say hang over day.
But to put that kind of food in your system on a regular basis,
that's when it starts becoming questionable.
So think about this. Number two,
it does show that you might not be the most elegant lady
if your body language screams masculine. Now, why am I saying that?
Well, first of all,
I've been seeing a lot that elegance and femininity goes kind of hand in hand
with each other.
And I'm not saying that every woman out there in this world has to be feminine,
otherwise she's a bad woman. Not at all.
You can be a masculine woman, if that's what you want. But on this channel,
I teach her elegance and I teach her femininity. So of course,
it's so much more than having good posture if you want to appear elegant.
You actually really have to add that little touch of femininity to
your body language and gestures if you want to have the
true elegance essence of you.
The other day, I was sitting in a restaurant and I saw this couple,
the lady was beautiful, stunning woman, perfect body,
clothes not too bad either,
but she had the most masculine body language I've seen in a very long time.
I looked at her and I told myself, wow,
if only she would tweak that little thing,
instead of sitting broad with her legs, spreading them out,
instead of hunching like this, instead of grabbing things like that,
what a big difference it would be. And it's such a small thing,
but I know that it would make the whole impression of her to become
something that will be just wow. In my eyes, she wasn't wow.
But then again, I do have preference for elegance and femininity.
Not saying this is the norm, but for us who are here, that's what we prefer.
Number three. And this is not the first time and not the last time,
either that you will be hearing me talk about this. But the question is,
why are still people not doing this? And I keep saying this every time.
It's such a small, small thing,
and it doesn't even require a big change for you or a lot of
investments in terms of monetary investments.
All it's bound to is just attention to detail.
What I'm talking about is having unkept grooming. As an example,
makeup that is a little bit smudgy, or wasn't properly applied,
maybe the wrong shade of foundation.
Maybe your foundation is too yellow for your skin tone.
And that kind of gives away the small little detail in your grooming that just
does not serve you. Or maybe you have chipped nail polish,
or let's say you have details in your clothing,
let's say you have a thread poking out or you have a little stain or a little hole.
Things like that that you think nobody's going to pay attention to because
nobody's going to see. It is so small, who cares? But ladies, this is a thing,
it's not about me caring. It's about,
it's the small details that make the whole thing.
Why do refined ladies look better than everybody else?
Because they just make more effort than everybody else. Think about it.
They are very attentive to details. They put their details in order,
they don't cheat. They're not lazy.
And it's just about making that little extra of looking a little bit better
than everybody else. So sometimes,
I feel that women believe this myth that they have to go and do this
whole big thing with their appearance in order to look elegant,
when actually they can start with a small things that will probably leave the
biggest impact in their entire presentation. And by the way,
I do have a cheat sheet called classy cheat sheet that will
actually guide you
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Number four,
what gives away if a woman has elegance is of course,
if she has substance.
But what does a woman need to qualify as if she has substance?
She needs to have a life. She needs to have interests.
She needs to have hobbies and passions perhaps,
but she really needs to occupy herself with things in life.
It's not so much about what those things are.
It's more about just do something.
Don't just waste your life by existing.
Be somebody who tries things in life.
Somebody who gains experience in life, somebody who just has life experience.
I don't see how anybody who has zero experience
or doesn't seek out experiences
will ever have any success in life, especially with networking. I mean,
who wants to talk to empty shell at networking events or parties?
You need to actually gather experiences to have things to talk to people about.
This is so important. Yet, not many prioritize this.
See every travel as your way of investing in yourself,
that you are going out there, exploring cultures,
having things to talk about with other people and so on. Or let's say,
whenever you invest in a hobby, you're not doing it just for show.
You're actually doing it because you're generally interested in it.
This is your passion.
This is something that you generally could share with other people.
And that would also show that you have things that you truly,
truly passionate about. Number five,
don't be the one who comes all elegantly yet has to have a
photo-shoot in every corner of every elegant or five star
place that she visits.
So I was on a trip recently and there was this couple that I saw very elegant
couple, picture perfect. They could have been from the cover of Vogue,
that type of level. However,
their whole elegant persona just went away when I saw
them in multiple places. So this wasn't just a one-time occurrence,
but everywhere they went, all I could see was them having a photo shoot.
The man was having the photo shoots of himself. And of course,
he was taking picture of his woman. The woman was having her photo shoot.
The couple was having a photo shoot together. It was all about the pictures.
Okay, that's fine. If this is your profession like me, myself,
whenever I go somewhere, of course I have to always take out my phone,
my camera. I always need to document everything that I do, but that's my job.
However, I still think there is limits, even if it's your job.
But this couple as an example,
they were really doing it to the point that I would say that probably even do it
like 10 times worse than I do it. Maybe it was their job.
Maybe it wasn't who knows.
But all I'm trying to say is that the elegance just disappears.
When you look like this camera thirsty person, the elegance just goes away.
So don't do that. Be mindful with your picture taking.
It's okay to take pictures, just don't overdo it. And number six,
speaking loudly in public and about controversial or sensitive subjects.
Now I have a really good example from the other day.
We were sitting in the restaurant and there was this table next to us with these
really loud women,
we could hear every single detail about the conversation and about their
intimate life, which was already kind of disturbing. I get it.
You're there gathered with your girlfriends. You have a lot to chat about,
but you kind of need to lower the volume and not let everybody know about your
personal business. That's one. It was really funny by the way,
is that these people, they moved away to the other side of the restaurant.
We could still hear them. Number one volume,
please be mindful of your volume. But number two,
about this point is that you really have to think about what it is that you talk about.
Not everything is appropriate to say in public.
And especially when you shout it out loud, I have a good example of this.
At some point they started talking about cancer, but really loudly.
And it was just so inappropriate to do,
especially when it's a very sensitive subject.
And a lot of people have been maybe affected by it or have,
or know of somebody who had been affected by it.
So how do you think your surroundings will feel when you are shouting about
something about cancer and discussing it and just doing it openly,
not thinking about the other people around you?
Elegance is about being mindful about other people. Surely,
we're not just some dormant or people's pleasers.
There is a boundary that we can set,
but I do think that understanding that there are certain subjects that should be
kept behind closed doors.
Do not talk about this when you are sitting in a public place,
when there are all these people around you having lunch or dinner.
It is just not appropriate. Now ladies, the last point,
number seven. I don't want you, my dear elegant ladies,
to be curious investigative ladies who are not discreet and just
in everybody's business. No, no, no, no, no.
One of the things that I cover in my signature program,
Secrets Of The Elite Woman is the art of discretion.
Why do I do that?
Because this is an important ingredient every lady must have,
if she wants to have success with the upper-class,
but also if she wants to come across as elegant.
You can see that a woman who maybe is dressed elegantly,
but then if she meets somebody for the first time is really intrusive with the
questions that she asked. Ask too much about personal life,
maybe ask too many questions in general and maybe just seems too
eager to find out answers that she has a desire to know answers too.
Make space for people to open up with time.
There's no need to pressure. There's no need to get everything on day one.
Have faith that people will open up to you if they like you.
And if you are somebody who they find decent,
this is why the masterclass in Secrets Of The Elite Women
of the arts of discretion, it is so important and crucial.
I don't want people to say that you are nosy behind your back
because that's not nice.
And that's something that is hard once you get that label,
it's really hard to wash that label off.
And it's going to sabotage you for your success socially if that's what people
think when they interact with you.
So hold your questions back and you will be sure that you will
come across more elegant.
Now, ladies, if you enjoy this video,
you must watch my next video called,
Five Signs That Tell That You're Not From High Society.
This video will talk more in depth about what I've just mentioned.
So make sure you watch that video because I will see you there.