we all know that reading is vital for our growth for our development but we don't really have that
much time in order to read every single book that we see and actually you don't really need to read
that much in order to change your mindset or your behaviors all you need to do is read real books
hi guys it's me duty today i'm back with a very requested video a lot of you guys wanted to read
more but you guys don't know which books to read which books to start and stuff and as i said
at the beginning you don't actually need to read like a bunch of books in order to change yourself
actually all we have to do is doing the things that we learned from the books like
i read a bunch of books but i don't incorporate the things that i learned from the books most
of my most of the time and i should probably do that because i just like consumed a book
but i don't really put it in action which is something that i should work for and probably
most of us don't do it as well we just like read it and think oh this is such a good idea to
do but we don't actually do it i'm gonna talk about how to change that in another video but
today we'll talk about three books that changed my life so the first book is make time this is
like one of my favorite productivity books of all time and this book is not about getting more done
or finishing your to-do list faster and responding to males faster and stuff the thing that this book
focuses is that making things that actually matters to you it can be like starting a
youtube channel maybe learning a new language or maybe spending more time with your family friends
maybe writing a novel maybe painting and the thing that i like is that they give you tips and tactics
that you can start using from right now we live in a very distracted world and the thing that i
really like about this book is that it really separates itself from the other productivity
type of books because in other books they kind of like give the whole idea and mindset that you need
but they don't really give the framework that you're going to be following throughout your
journey in this book they give you exact framework what you should do and what you shouldn't probably
do and the thing that i like about is that they give you like 87 tactics and they say that like
you don't need to do all of them we don't do all of them as well you can just like pick some of the
tactics that works for you and just like do them and try them and kind of like they systemize the
productivity into highlight laser reflect and energize and they walk you through these steps
throughout the book and they explain you what to do i really like a bunch of tactics that i learned
from this book but personally my favorite is picking a daily highlight you pick like a task you
pick like something that you want to do that you will make time for it whatever happens in a day
and in that way you know what the focus and you know what to do and you know what to expect from
that day i used to have like a full to-do list but now i do like a daily highlight and i know
exactly what to concentrate on that day so that i don't feel like overwhelmed and they
also kind of like explain you how to do to how to make to-do lists in the right way
and yeah so basically i would highly recommend this book for anybody else that is struggling
with productivity or for those who are good at productivity but want to explore more even like if
you don't read regularly that much the book itself is very illustrated and it's really easy to read
so like you can literally read in like a couple of hours so i would highly highly recommend it
okay so the second book is the courage to be disliked this is actually originally a japanese
book but they translated in like so many languages so you can read probably in your own language as
well this book is about allerian psychology if you're interested in psychology you probably know
the young and freud and adla youngs and freud's like psychology and theories dominated for a long
long time in psychology but these days people are like more shifting into larian psychology in order
to find happiness this book is not for everybody else but personally i really love this book and
i really relate to the adlerian psychology i know there are like a lot of critics going around that
lyrian psychology but this book goes around a young man who is struggling with life who cannot
find happiness and who is feeling inferior compared to other people
and who cannot really love themselves and around philosopher who supports adlerian psychology
and teaches them to people in order to make them happy and do like counsels and stuff i
would recommend this book for anybody else who is struggling with self-confidence happiness
and self-love and also for those who are blaming their environment or past or their personality
for the things that they cannot accomplish in a book it says no experience is in itself a cause
of our success or failure we do not suffer from the shock of our experiences the so-called trauma
but instead we make out of them whatever suits our purposes we're not determined by experiences
but the meaning we give them is self-determining so basically it says that your past doesn't define
anything it doesn't mean that it doesn't have like any effect in your life but you are the
one who is giving a meaning to it like if if past determines something then every single people who
have the same experience will have the exactly same result but even though there are like a lot
of people who have the same experience they have a different outcome why because they give different
meanings to you the things that happen to them i don't know if it says in this book it might be
another book but but i've read something like this people say we cannot change the past but actually
we can change the past if we wouldn't able to change the past then all of the history books
would tell you the exactly same thing however even though the same things happened in the history
we gave them different meanings from our respects for our from our beliefs from our i don't
know culture and the history changes from their respect so you can definitely change your past by
giving different meanings to them like my mom is very good at this my mom is a super positive woman
and whatever happens to her and like there are a lot of bad things happen to us and to our family
but because of her because of her like positive thinking and because of her like giving positive
meanings to the things i actually never thought that something bad happened to me you guys like
think that my life is like so good and i don't have any problems and stuff but the reality is
i had so many family issues economical issues and social issues in my life that i don't really
want to talk but my life is not about like rainbows and stuff i had like a serious issues
in my life i dealt with so many things but because of my mom because of the meanings that she gave
i actually become more stronger and stronger and i am actually really grateful for the things that
happened bad to me because they made me much more stronger so another another quote that i really
like from this book is that no matter how much you want to be why you cannot be reborn as him
you are not a why it's okay for you to be you and however i'm not saying it's fine to be
just as you are if you're unable to really feel happy then it's clear that things aren't right
just as they are you have got to put one foot in front of another and not stop i think there's like
some sort of a way of thinking in social media that you're just like fine just be who you are
and stuff yes it is fine to be who you are but if you're not feeling happy at the moment in your
life then probably something is not working and working towards it and making it better
is a much much much better way to make yourself happy than accepting the situation and just saying
like okay i'm this i'm not growing this is who i am and stuff i just like don't understand the
way of the thinking like i'm just who i am i'm not gonna change no if you're happy it's totally fine
but if you're not happy at this moment then there is something is not working right and you have to
change it in order to be happy another another my favorite thing is what you should do now is
make a decision to stop your current lifestyle for instance earlier you said if only i could
be someone like y i would be happy as long as you live that way in the realm of the possibility of
if only such and such were the case you will never be able to change because saying if only i could
be like why is an excuse to yourself for not changing this is like so true there are like so
many times in my life i said like if i only were like blah blah person i would achieve that but the
reality is i could never be that person and that's just like an excuse that i make myself because i
can never be the person why so that's a very good excuse to make for myself in order to not try and
not change because when we try to change there is a possibility of failure and because we're like so
scared of the failure we make a very good excuses for ourselves to not to actually start and not not
to actually try it because we humans are actually so scared of failure and it really explains very
good in this code i have a young friend who dreams of becoming a novelist but he never
seems to be able to complete his work according to him his job keeps him too busy and he can never
find enough time to write novels and that's why he can complete work and enter it for writing awards
but is that real reason no it's actually that he wants to leave the possibility of i can do it if
i try it open by not committing to anything he doesn't want to expose his work to criticism and
he certainly doesn't want to face the reality that he might produce an inferior piece of writing and
face rejection he wants to live inside the realm of possibilities where he can say that he could
do it if he only had time or that he could write if he just had a proper environment and that he
really does have the talent for it another 5 or 10 years he will probably start using another excuse
like i'm not young anymore or i've got family to think about now this is like so true when i like
started my youtube channel i i of course i told about the failure and rejection but i felt like
yes i might not be like successful like for five years ten years whatever but i'll try
i'll try whatever it will take and i will be successful on youtube and that's kind of like a
mindset that i had towards my youtube channel and towards anything that i do in my life just because
i i cannot like success in like the first time it doesn't mean that i'm i'm not gonna try it i used
to do it with like a lot of things as well like i said like okay i don't have blah blah this thing
this thing so i cannot do it but it's just like like an excuse that we make ourselves and yeah
what is your excuse and like another another last quote from this book is that if you're not living
your life for yourself then who is going to live it for you you are living only your own life when
it comes to who you are living for of course it's you and then if you're not living your life for
yourself who could there be to live it instead of you ultimately we live think about i there is
no reason that we must not think that way so if you're struggling with self-love self-acceptance
and if you're struggling to put yourself first in your life then i would highly recommend this book
this book is not for everyone i understand it but i personally really love it since this book
is some sort of like a conversation between a young man who is struggling with life
and with a philosopher i would highly recommend you to listen it in audible because it's like so
easier to pick up the things because of like the voice actors that they mimic the conversation and
i listened it in japanese and the voice actors in japan are top-notch you guys know it if you
if you have ever watched anime i don't know the english or other language versions of the audible
but i would highly recommend you to listen it on audible for better experience so the our third
book is the atomic habits i actually have a whole video whole dedicated video about this book which
you can check from right here if you're struggling with building a good habits and eliminating
the bad habits such as like maybe like for good habits maybe reading studying exercising literally
eating healthy or i don't know whatever is a good habit to you for bad habits like quitting smoking
or maybe alcohol or maybe overeating emotional eating and stuff i would highly highly recommend
you to read this book so since i made like a whole dedicated video about this book i just
like want to give you guys some quotes that i took from this book and kind of so that you guys
can understand the main idea of this book another like a method that i really like from this book is
that the boiling water example for example you heat the water and comes like to the 90 degree
but it's still not boiling right because it has to hit the 100 degrees in order to boil
but it doesn't mean that the heat that you gave from the zero degrees to 90 degrees was just like
useless you just like didn't hit the place so it's exactly same with the success sometimes we repeat
our actions and do the things but we can't really see the results and not because our things were
useless it's just because we just didn't hit the place yet and that's kind of like a method that
i really like and another like a kind of a mindset in this book that i like is that the evidence grew
and it becomes your identification so more you make evidences more you become that person and
each habit is a suggestion and if you go to the gym perhaps you're type of a person who likes to
work out the more you go to the gym more you have evidence and more it becomes part of you and at
the same time more you procrastinate and make excuses for yourself not to go to the gym more
you have evidence of you not enjoying workouts it says that like that building habits are exactly
same with the voting so one vote or like two words it doesn't really change that much of thing
the thing that changed in the voting system is the majority so let's say you just like voted
for bad habits for three times but if you voted for good habits for five times then the majority
vince and you are in the right way so this is kind of like a mindset that i really like because
sometimes like when i procrastinate i used to feel like so guilty about a bit but now i just
feel like okay i procrastinate so i'm gonna do something productive now in order to make
the majority productive and in this book another mindset that really changed my life is that rather
than goals ask yourself what type of person you want to become you want to become a helpful person
you want to become a productive person you want to become an accomplished person you want to become a
disciplined person or whatever every single time before doing an action you ask yourself what type
of person do i want to become and so that like you don't say i want to lose weight or i want to get
six-pack abs or something but think what type of person have six-pack abs probably an active person
with a healthy eating style then perform the acts of this person it's also like recommends you to
change your identification if you're trying to quit smoking then you shouldn't say i'm trying
to quit smoking but you should say instead i'm not a smoker tie the goal identity to yourself
so that you can make connection and act upon it you basically ask for every action that you do
and you ask for yourself yeah so your identity shapes your habits and you should constantly
give yourself feedbacks in order to feed that loop and in order to be the person that you want
to become i think like i'll probably read the make time and atomic happens for over and over again
because rather than like i don't treat them like kind of a book they're just like a guidance for me
in my life personally so whenever i feel like stuck i just like open a random page from those
books and i read that part and it really helps and also you can just like look for the parts that you
need and read that part you don't obviously need to read like every single page of a book and like
a lot of people ask me what is it like a good way to read books actually there is like a certain way
to read books effectively which i can make a video about it and also a lot of people ask me which
device should i read on my books are like physical books or like a kindle oasis or kindle paperwhite
or ipad is a good solution i can make a video about a bit like comparing the devices
because i i like i experimented with them quite a lot and yeah i think i have a lot of things to
share with you guys when it comes to the devices and the ways of reading and how to read more and
stuff so if you're interested in those type of things let me know in the comments down below
and if you're interested in atomic habits i have a full dedicated video which you can watch
probably from like around here yeah if you guys enjoyed this video let me know in the comments
down below and i hope you guys found value from this video let me see in my next video bye bye
you