Hey there, Adam LoDolce from SexyConfidence.com where I help the 21st century woman create
a love life that she absolutely loves, and in this video right now I'm going to be talking
about how it is that you can actually love yourself, truly love yourself, and be happy.
Keep watching.
Now over the past 10 years I've been to a lot of self-help seminars.
Some are really great, but some are quite frankly, really dumb.
At some of these conferences you'll hear ridiculous things like, "If you love yourself then just
hug yourself.
Now if you're hugging yourself, tell yourself that you love yourself."
"I love me."
Whoa, whoa, whoa.
This is (beep)ing stupid.
Now you can hug yourself all day, but it's not going to make you feel any better.
I am sick of fluffy advice out there, so in this video I'm going to give you the real
deal dating advice on how to actually love and care for yourself, and the best part is,
if you can learn how to love yourself, you'll be so much more likely to attract someone
who truly loves you.
The first way to love yourself is to protect yourself from emotional harm.
Now if you had a friend who's spending time with a guy who's just treating her like total
garbage, who's treating her like shit, what would you do?
Well, you'd probably fight for her.
You'd talk to her and you'd really want her to have the power and the courage to be able
to get out of that relationship and you'd really work with her to do that.
However, people who don't love themselves, when they're in that situation, they don't
fight for themselves.
They'll fight for their friends and they'll work for themselves and be that protector
in other people's lives, but they don't do it for themselves.
When you find yourself in a bad situation, be willing to walk away.
Be aware of how other people are affecting your emotions and be willing to fight for
yourself sometimes and be able to leave situations that aren't good.
Number two is people who love themselves will actively continue to try to improve themselves,
to be a better person, but at the same time, they realize that they themselves, right now,
are worthy of love.
Now I'm in the self-help industry and I think it's a really great place for people to look
at themselves and say, "Hey, look.
Where can I improve?"
but at the same time I think a lot of people who are drawn to self-help think that they
themselves right now are not okay, that there's something inherently wrong with them, and
that's the problem with this industry.
It's all about making you feel like there's something wrong with you and you need to be
improved in some way.
My message to you right now is yes, if there are things in your life that you want to work
on, such as your dating life, such as your health, such as your professional life, great!
That's fantastic, but also realize across that journey that you right now are okay and
you right now are the type of person that can love yourself with all of your energy
right now.
Number three is people who love themselves are open to seeking advice from the right
people.
When you love yourself you'll want to surround yourself with people who support you and guide
you toward success.
Now if you don't have that right now I definitely recommend having a therapist if that's something
you need or we also have rolled out a Platinum Coaching Program that helps you get one-on-one
coaching that you might need to get the success you want out of life, so people who love themselves
are willing and open to that change and they're willing to get advice from the right type
of people in their lives.
However, on the other side of the spectrum when you don't love yourself, you're going
to surround yourself with people who put you down, because secretly you think that's what
you deserve.
Number four is people who love themselves really try to avoid perfectionism.
Here's the thing.
You are going to make ridiculously huge (beep)ing mistakes in your life.
You are going to have regrets in life.
You are going to make mistakes.
You are going to get rejected, and the worst thing is, if you go along with your life hoping
to be perfect, then you are forever, forever going to suffer with anxiety because no one
can be perfect.
If you live your life trying to be perfect you're only going to resent yourself because
you'll never live up to your own set of expectations.
Right now I want you to realize that you are a beautifully flawed individual and so long
as you actively are working on improving those things in your life that are really important,
that really matter, then you're going to be okay.
Finally, people who truly love themselves are willing to give back to people in need
with no expectations of receiving anything back in return.
Now this might sound a little morbid, but I'll tell you this.
The easiest way to die with regret in life is to look back on your life and realize that
you did nothing but serve yourself and the easiest way to really make an impact in life
and truly love yourself and be able to spread incredible positive energy around the world
is to be able to give back, and you have no idea how much power and how much influence
you really have.
It can even be those small ways of giving back.
Maybe you have a friend who's really struggling in life.
You know what?
Pick up the phone and try to help that person.
Maybe there's some type of volunteering that is going on in your town.
You know what?
Take an hour out of your week to just go over there an help out.
If your nephew is struggling in school then you know what?
Be his mentor.
It's these little things in life that allow you to give back and by giving back you are
forever going to start loving yourself even more by just doing great things.
The sense of joy and happiness you'll receive from giving is ultimately what will allow
you to truly love yourself.
Let me ask you, what is the most important thing that you need to work on to start loving
yourself?
I'd love to hear from you in the comments right there below.
Also, if you want more advice like this that's going to help you not only love yourself but
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Thank you so much for watching.
I'll speak to you next Thursday.
Bye bye