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Shereé and I need to talk, and I know
just where I want to take her.
So in terms of the work that we're going to do together,
what are some of the things that on your heart?
Well, first, the first thing is definitely my kids.
I hurt because Bob wasn't doing what
he was supposed to be doing.
Divorce-- what does that mean?
Mhm.
I never had a marriage from day one.
When we returned home, he didn't come home.
What do you mean?
He slept out.
He spent the night out the first night.
It was either the first or second night
when we got home from the Grand Cayman, getting married.
And you came home and he slept out?
So what is it that you as a woman
tell yourself that make it OK for you to stay
with a man who doesn't come home the second day after he
married you?
What did you tell yourself?
I wanted him to be there.
I wanted it to work.
I really loved Bob.
I wanted it to work.
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I brought Shereé here to the famed Chateau
Shereé, a mansion the former reality star
has been building for years.
I believe it represents how many parts of her life
are incomplete.
So as we stand here overlooking Chateau Shereé,
this big, looming edifice--
when you see it, what do you think?
I think it's going to be beautiful when it's done.
I think it's something that I did for my kids, for my family.
That's for your children.
Absolutely. They need a--
Why is that for your children?
They need a house.
They need a home.
But it's incomplete.
So you've got an incomplete home, an incomplete marriage.
No.
I'm divorced.
That's an incompletion because if you were complete with it,
you know, that would be one thing.
I am.
I'm compete with it. - Really?
Yes.
You can't speak to your ex-husband.
Y'all don't get along.
We don't get along because the kids.
Then it's not complete.
Because I don't like how he treats my kids as a--
I don't like what he is as a father.
This has nothing to do with Bob.
Sure, it has something to do with Bob.
No. It has to do with my kids.
It has nothing to do with Bob.
See, it feels to me-- and I don't know this to be true--
like you think these things are isolated,
that you think you being able to co-parent with Bob
is about Bob.
And it's not, beloved.
It's about you.
I don't want to talk about what Bob did.
I want to talk about the hurt and the pain.
As a woman-- as a woman, what were
you looking for from Bob when you
walked into this relationship?
What were you looking for?
A man to love you.
I was looking for love.
And did you have a real concept of what it would
look like to be loved by a man?
I did, but it didn't happen.
OK.
So what did it look like?
The same fairy tale that all the other girls girls--
All the girls have. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
So what did your fairy tale look like?
My fairy tale was the man, the life.
We're open.
I mean, we got the picket fence.
OK.
[CHUCKLES] The house, the dog, the picket fence.
The house, the dog, the picket fence.
Mhm.
When did you realize that Bob was none of those things?
I thought he would change.
You thought he would change.
I thought he would change.
I thought that one day.
Have you ever allowed yourself to feel
the full hurt, and pain, and shame,
and embarrassment of that?
Why not?
Because I didn't have anybody to talk to.
I've always kept it hidden inside of here.
I've never had anybody to talk to.
I always had to pretend for my kids.
I had to keep a smile on my face and going out.
It was a show.
We pretended.
I--
Own it.
I pretended.
What did you pretend?
I pretended that we were happy, that I was happy,
that the marriage was OK.
I did that.
I'm not beating you up, baby.
We just got to go there because until you can
get there and really look at that charade,
you won't understand how that represents your life.