hi guys hope you're having an awesome
day today I want to talk about something
that has been on my mind my heart for
years it's not just me who has
experience I literally get so many
comments and especially private messages
direct messages emails that are about
this topic that you guys have
specifically asked me to help solve I
want to talk about something that's kind
of a great unspoken which is petites
generally look younger than they
actually are
if you're in your 20s and 30s you know
those pivotal moments in your career
that really matter or it doesn't even
have to be career-wise it could be maybe
you're buying or selling a car or a
house moments where you have to be taken
seriously that usually involve a
handshake with mutual respect and then
somebody says oh I thought that you were
fill in the blank on what age but it's
significantly younger than you were and
it's sort of in my opinion discounts
whatever credibility that I had walking
into that situation it's insanely
frustrating because it feels sort of
helpless like I can't change the way
that I look it can even cost you
financially when you didn't get that job
that someone didn't think you were
credible enough for or you didn't nail
that sale that you were going for it or
whatever else it is and at the end of
the day it's not like we have full
control over other people's perceptions
of us all we can do is try to walk into
those situations feeling confident and
ready to take on that environment and I
think that that has a lot to do in my
experience with how I dress and how I
portrayed myself and sort of how I took
the reins on that situation so that's
what I want to talk about today I have
five tips that can really help with
those moments in life where I've felt
like I need to be taken more seriously
and so let's just get started with the
first one I am all for trying things
like edgy hairstyles and something that
would involve sort of headbands and
clips but anything that is too adorable
or cute or edgy are things to do with
your hair that
might age you younger so examples of
this headbands clips anything that has
sort of ribbons in it anything that
either a young teenager might try or
else somebody who's you know a little
girl might put in their hair even if
it's a little bit more upscale it could
age me younger you guys know I I've even
tried the clips trend and it was really
fun but I wouldn't walk into an
interview with that so be mindful of
that how something might age you young
in your hair one note about haircuts
though if I want to look more mature I
might try something like a shorter
haircut I say this as I'm currently
growing my hair out but if you have long
hair and you love it and it works for
you one thing that you could do is pull
it back into something that looks a
little bit neater and then that could
work really well for those moments as
for hair color the same could be true
about if you went some with a hair color
that's more natural versus something
that is a little bit more loud or
unnatural so if you had sort of like the
Pink's greens purple hair colors those
my age you younger and of course this is
all with the umbrella of where whatever
hair color you want but if you're trying
to fight the frustration of those
moments where you need to be taken more
seriously just evaluate that for
yourself tip number two has to do with
wardrobe purchases so by this I mean
when I was a lot younger I would have
several of the same items but it was
more of like a throwaway type of thing
like I would didn't invest properly in
the item to begin with so I would have
multiples and a lot of that has to do
with like bargains too right so if I'm
shopping really affordably and I can buy
ten of the same shirt what is the deal
there is it that it was so cheaply made
that it's not going to stand the test of
time or is it so trendy that it's just
not gonna last in your closet anyways so
the deal is more with the trend and not
necessarily thinking timeless and
long-term so if I was in a career where
I had to be taking more seriously I
might opt for more sensible timeless
options like instead of a very
very trendy heeled I might opt for
something like a kitten heel that is a
little bit more sensible a little bit
less distracting and more appropriate
for the environment the goal here is to
have clean lines and more structure to
my outfit and more sensibility in the
pieces that I'm trying to wear next is
the idea of quality so what I want to
talk about here today is the idea of
perception and what one or two quality
pieces could really do with your outfit
it doesn't mean head-to-toe you're
dressed in Chanel instead it could mean
maybe you have like a good watch I love
wearing this watch and it can really
dress up the most basic outfit so how I
would tackle quality is how I honestly
did it from the start three years ago
there's still pieces today that I own
that I started with back then and this
takes time it's a process that needs a
lot of patience but overall if I can
have one or two pieces that aren't going
to break down on me that's going to help
me in the long run with my whole
wardrobe with things being timeless and
that will stand the test of time next
let's do with color choice when I'm
thinking about that timeless piece
colors like pastels and also bold colors
will age me younger and so for me it's
been a conscious choice to choose
neutral and muted tones in my outfits
that will then look more mature and more
elegant if you feel like neutrals might
be a little bit boring the way that you
want to dress that up is through
accessories so that's my tip I might
wear something that is more muted or
basic as the base of my outfit but if I
could imagine the perfect outfit for me
that would mean something that I could
wear mix-and-match and be very versatile
but then adding jewelry or outerwear to
that that would dress up an outfit
that's my goal for my outfits because
it'll look more mature and more put
together I can wear it at any age if I
could imagine myself from 15 to 90 I
could wear that outfit like it's
timeless you can't guess my age or put
me in a box as to how old you think I am
this next topic is really interesting to
me the more I thought of it which is
dress
down for comfort and what that does a
lot of people ask me for outfit ideas
involving sweatpants and pajamas and
that type of thing and I'm all about
some sweatpants but in those moments
when I need to look more mature to be
taken more seriously even to go to the
grocery store you won't see me in
sweatpants that's been a conscious
choice because any time that I've
dressed down I get that same line about
how old they thought I was to you
Petit's out there I know that you feel
me at that because I've gotten again so
many people saying how completely
obnoxious it is to hear those words you
know discouraging to and so when I go to
the grocery store for instance or if I'm
running errands I just simply make the
choice to wear usually something like
jeans and it might be a tea but I'll
dress it up with a bag and a belt and a
good pair of shoes but the interesting
thing about this to me is that if you
think of someone who is dressed down
like in virtually pajamas in a store
let's just go with that or in an airport
then someone who naturally looks younger
than they are will look even younger or
someone who looks naturally older than
they are will age them older and this
middle ground of you know this euphoric
age that we all want to be it won't
exist in sweat pants so that is just
kind of an interesting observation in my
opinion next is a bonus tip for you guys
finally I want to talk about the idea of
confidence exuding confidence is the one
way to make you age appropriately I
think it's just being ready for
whatever's next in life right so let's
say that you're in high school what are
you looking forward to is it college
then dress for someone who is in college
already or maybe you're in college maybe
dress for grad school maybe you're in
grad school or you're ready to go into
your career you totally didn't go to
college and that's awesome and you're
ready to go in your career and you want
to look like you're ready for that job
think about those things what kind of
confidence do they have how would they
dress maybe you're already into your
career what does your next step look
like those are things to dress for those
are things to exude confidence in the
main way to do that before you even say
your name is through a handshake and a
lot of times when I shake their hand I
will go in for something that is like a
firm handshake but not like gripping too
tight but definitely not like a con
you know that's one way to exude
confidence is all through body language
also if I felt uncomfortable in a
situation I would in the past not be
mindful about how my voice sounded so I
would do something that's even more
high-pitched than I already was or I
would kind of like close off my chest
and like kind of clutch or be closed off
in general that is not how you exude
confidence in those moments that matter
if you think of the oldest version of
yourself that you possibly could think
of how confident would you be a lot of
older people that I know they are so
ready to tell you their opinion because
they've had years of well-earned wisdom
they also know who they are and so
that's kind of who I want to be like at
the end of the day that's who I want to
impress I want to impress my
five-year-old self I want to impress my
85 year old self and those are the only
people that really matter so when you
walk into maybe a scary job interview
you want to walk in with those moments
feeling confident body language is
everything so do some extra research on
proper body language and what you're
telling the world through what your eyes
are saying about you or how closed off
you might be or in my case how
high-pitched I would put my voice and so
now I'm more mindful about those things
and in the end it makes me look or sound
older and that's it so if you like this
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I'll see you guys next time
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