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- Hey.
- We're like twins.
- We're gonna, you're gonna need to...
- These are cool.
- Scoot over a little bit.
- Ah.
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- Yeah I wonder when we did this.
- You're nasty.
- This is awkward.
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- [Woman] How we met.
- [Man] Okay.
- How we met?
Let's see.
- You wanna go?
- Who are you (laughs)?
- We met in class, right?
- In college.
- Lot of mutual experiences, and mutual friends.
- Tole and I don't actually remember how we met (laughs).
- Yeah, that's, that's true, I don't know.
- Started hanging out and then we moved to Los Angeles.
- Hey.
- Hey how's it going? - Hello.
- So I'm Chris.
- Hi, nice to meet you.
- Caesar right?
Caesar, hi Caesar.
- Amanda.
- Amanda, pleasure to meet you.
To be honest with you, this isn't the only reason
we've asked you here to share the story
of how you know each other.
I'm a body language expert.
All truth be told, I was analyzing your body language.
- Really?
- Yeah (laughs).
- That's whack.
- So we can speak a little bit about
some of what I watched, what I noticed.
Awesome, is that cool?
- I love that, that's great. - Awesome.
- You alright with that?
Alright.
First of all, I just want to point out to both
of you Stephanies that you're both
in what's called kind of a closed circle here.
Your kind of both crossed your legs over to the inside.
- [Stephanie] Yeah.
- So you're creating this kind of bond between you
just simply to the visual image that we're seeing.
This, this sitting posture, look even how like you sit,
and then you had your arm over and around.
This is a gesture of kind of like support and strength.
So what you're sitting right now Caesar,
this is called the figure four sitting posture.
It's a power, intelligence, taking up space.
This is like your area.
- Yeah.
- It's literally a commandeered this area,
this is your area, and you're protecting Amanda here
with your arm around her.
We have three power zones.
Neck dimple, belly button, and our naughty bits.
I don't know what else to to call the last.
- Fair enough.
- But bottom-line is, the more open we are with those,
the more powerful we come across.
When we're doing this, or we're doing this,
or we're doing this.
If I do this, then I'm, I'm you know I'm
diminishing my own power.
Amanda, you're doing something very cool like,
when he was talking you've turned toward him.
You've literally have faced your
belly button towards Caesar,
and we face our belly button toward people we like,
admire, and trust.
We call it the belly button rule,
so you've very much given him your attention.
So Jasmine you do something very interesting too,
when you talk, you do what's called
a basketball steeple, right?
So everybody do this.
This is a power, this is a power move called a steeple.
It's power, authority, and control.
But it's terrible for building rapport.
So we wanna stay open.
You do the best of both worlds.
You're, you do this basketball steeple.
President Obama does this, Tim Cook,
Apple will do this, right?
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And so you do this a lot when you talk.
So it's power, authority, and control but with compassion.
Not only do you talk about it,
but we see it in your body language.
- That's great.
- Cool. - Thank you.
- Thanks.
- You're welcome. - Good to meet you.
- Thank you, so grateful to meet you guys.
- Thank you.
- I just learned a lot about myself.
- Yeah (laughs).
- Yeah whenever you're like super passionate about something
you always talk with your hands like this.
You really always do that.
- Yeah but I didn't realize I did that.
- Yeah.
- I didn't know that I just, you know I do it,
and she sits the way she sits or whatever, but I mean.
- Yeah that was kind of cool.
- But it makes sense.
- I know this about myself that I tend to cover my neck.
- Yeah, I do that.
- And I have no idea that it was, I was covering my power.
- It never hurts to ask like if somebody's
like really okay.
- Yeah.
- Or if they're like, feeling something else
other than what they're showing.
- I'm like, flabbergasted, but it's really cool.
- Yeah.
- So the next time we get in a fight,
I can use those things (laughs).
- It's good to be here with you,
and let's do it again sometime.
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