Hey everybody, Casey Zander here. And in this video today, I'm going to be discussing the
top 10 things that men cannot do, okay, these 10 things, if you do them, they will strip
you of your masculinity, okay? It will make it harder for you to attract the type of woman
that you want. And ultimately, you're gonna get weak. Now, this channel is not for guys
who want some three secret simple, you know, copy, paste these game tactics to get the
girl. Okay, if you think any of that BS works, and you're not actually taking an overarching
look at your life and how you live and how you operate, you're in for a rude awakening
in the real world. Because in the real world, nothing is actually easy, okay, and these
10 things have taken me a decade to figure out, which means if it takes took me a decade
to figure out if I can share these stories in these experiences with you to actually
win. Take advantage of that. The very first thing that men cannot do, okay, that will
rob you of who you are, and will be soul crushing is if you focus on work that isn't progression
focused. Okay, what is progression? Focus progression focus work means that it has an
upwards sugar directory. Okay, so I'm gonna give you an example what I mean by that, let's
take a very easy, easy, easy, easy example. Okay? Let's say you have a company where you
shovel, okay, you do snow removal. Okay, and now let's look at cat owner one versus owner
two. Okay, owner one, okay, if he is focusing on work, that isn't progression focus, he
will shovel that person's driveway, okay, we're gonna take the Bobcats or whatever he
does, does the driveway, and then he looks at that as job completion. Okay, he's like,
Oh, the job's done. I clocked in for the day, I did the work, I clocked out, I get to go
home and sleep, I'm done. That's how he thinks 99% of men live this way. Day to day job,
exact same thing, no progression. Their work isn't progression, focus. Now let's look at
owner to Job expansion. The mindset that he's looking at life instead of job completion
is job expansion. What does that mean? Instead of being the one shoveling or getting the
driveway done, and then thinking is works over, he's constantly learning new skills,
because he's actually progression focus. That means he is focused on getting new leads,
okay, advertising, building brand recognition, getting new customers, these things compound,
okay, so because he's his work is progression focus, It now turns into a true mission, or
a never ending battle of success. This right here, if I can tell you one thing, the most
important thing on this whole whiteboard, the most important thing of actually getting
the type of women hooked that you want is live life like this. When people around you
see that your progression, focus, looking for the next step to unlock the next link
in the chain. This is how not only you become a man of respect and value, but you become
a competent individual who can strive in life, this is the most important. Okay, that's right,
just to two to three minutes to explain this one point alone. Don't look at your work in
life as job completion. Look at it as job expansion. Everyday when you wake up, it's
an opportunity to broaden your skills and grow because there is no such thing as time
and there is no such thing as a nine to five. It's just life, what you have is now and when
you build skills that come it compounds, that's so important. Okay, number two. The second
thing men can't do is invest a lot of downtime. Okay, with women. If you invest a lot of downtime
that you have with women, what this actually signals to yourself into the world is that
you don't respect your time of progressing. Instead, you're just kicking it because you
have nothing to do. So what do we know about guys who live life in pleasure? If you live
life in pleasure, you're going to be in for a rude awakening because the opposite of pleasure
is pain. And for every moment that you spend kicking it for every moment that you spend
wasting time, for every moment moment you spend in your 20s, early 30s Thinking that
this girl is gonna bring you happiness, you're in for a rude awakening, it is an empty battle.
It will not be one that way. Okay? Don't do this number 3k think that women and a big
abundant dating life will make you happy. Okay, if you think this right here, k, a new
girl is gonna bring you all the fulfillment in the world. You're in for a rude awakening.
Because this robs you of a few things. Number one, this robs you of your time can abundant
dating life. Number two, you're also leading life with pleasure, which always comes with
pain, and long term there's zero fulfillment in that I'm gonna share a little secret. Any
guy out there trying to tell you that a big abundant dating life or a big rotation and
having all these options and spending all your time kicking, it is worth anything. They're
either a lying to you. b they're disappointed that they spent the wrong time in life doing
things that didn't yield them a true ROI. Or number three, they're trying to sell you
something. Okay? These people will put effort into this because they know that anytime you
can show a man a big shiny object push button pleasures push button impulses, they know
straight up up, but that's going to be enticing. It is even to me, it is going to be to you
reject it. These are the things in the world that keep men stuck. If you can, right here,
live life with this mindset right here, you've probably saved yourself 510 20 years that
most guys spend living the wrong way, that's going to make you a hell of a lot more attractive
than any sort of seduction secrets out there. Like you're actually turning into a stud.
If you just live by these three alone. I'm a firm believer in that. Okay, number four,
you cannot keep low value vices anytime like it for every single time you're spending,
smoking, something you shouldn't be smoking, every time you're spending drinking something
you shouldn't be drinking, washing some dirty website, you shouldn't be washing, you are
becoming weak, and you're becoming weak because you're living in pleasure. If you live in
pleasure, it comes with pain, these vices, okay, if you and I'm speaking from this, from
example, because I know a lot of like seven figure entrepreneurs, eight figure entrepreneurs,
I've seen a lot of guys live. Most guys, here's what happens to most guys and even successful
men, okay, they need to wake up and they pound caffeine all morning to get their stuff going
to get their adrenals going, this right here, they're jacked up all morning. It's like they
can't even work your focus without that. But then this causes raising cortisol and a raise
and anxiety. Okay, so then middle of the day, they need to take a hit, or they need to know
smoke or smoke something that they shouldn't be smoking, get their hooked on that, then
what happens is work gets so chaotic and stressful, they're wound up, okay, and then they can't
sleep. So then all of a sudden, they're taking sleep Ed, or they're thinking other stuff,
they're getting drunk, whatever they have to do to take the edge off of life. So all
day, they are literally in an either upper state or a downer state. And then by the end
of it, they're wondering why they're mad, why they're sad, why they're angry, gay, these
vices can destroy you. If you don't see it. Like most people never live life in a true
state where they just their existence in their presence is and it's okay, if you can do this,
you have a total leg up compared to 99% of guys like you will look different. You will
talk different, you will sound different, your nuances and how you carry yourself as
different like you actually will turn into a solid individual. This is so important.
What's the fifth? Okay? The fifth thing a man can't do is allow complexity into his
life through knowing more people. Okay, there's a big, there's a big misconception out there
by gurus telling you that your network is your net worth can who you surround yourself
with matters. That is complete bullshit. Let this sink in. When you allow complexity into
your life through knowing more people, you now split your focus in your attention. So
now your time is split up, your attention is split up. And truthfully, most people have
no value. And I know that sounds harsh. I know that sounds rude. But most people don't
have a lot to offer to anybody other than just downtime and hot air by speaking. And
that's the cold hard truth. When you have a lot, like even even even the
aspect of like networking networking is oftentimes for most people, it's complete horseshit,
it's a complete waste of time. Networking is for people who want to meet with like minded
people to sit there and just connect because they have nothing to do. Or they think that
this is some power and knowing somebody and then that other person is going to unlock
something for you. Okay, nobody. And I mean, nobody can do the work and life for you. I
could I could like, even if you surround yourself by people like that, you might get motivation
or aspirations from them, they might inspire you to go to new levels, but they can't physically
sit down and do the work and life for you. And that's why what most people, they don't
need to learn how to network with more people, they need to learn how to sit down, or go
out and work for 10 to 12 hours a day without getting burnt out and just sit and go and
do it and grind through it. This is what you have to learn. So if you allow complexity
into your life through knowing more people, you're in for a rude awakening, when you see
that it's not actually the golden ticket to winning. That's number five, number six, to
one dimensional thinking. one dimensional thinking is going to ruin men, because they're
not mission centric. So how do you become mission centered? I have another arrow focus
to number one over here. And the reason being is because these two are connected, if you
live your life, if you like, I'm a firm believer, you have to live your life. Okay? And what
also times ties into your whole career as a man as a specific mission. And here's why.
If you work for eight hours a day, and you sleep for eight hours a day, and then let's
say you only have a few hours of free time before you got to unwind and do other stuff,
that eight to 12 hours a day that you're working on living, K building this progression focused
work. It might as well be your mission in life to do something big, which is why you
need to have big goals. It's the only thing to keep you motivated in life. People always
ask me all the time they say how do you know how do you not burn out? How don't you burn
out? It's because I'm mission centered. I I have a mission that I'm living for. If you
live this way, not only you're going to be much more fulfilled, it's easier to show up
every day and bring the best version of yourself. Okay? The seventh thing that men can't do
is lead with ego. And here's why. Look who sticks it out versus who doesn't. I'm gonna
explain what that means. People who lead with ego, let's say you get a guy and he wants
to start going to the gym, because he wants to look buffer he wants to get the girls,
okay? That right there is oftentimes with ego and insecurity in the beginning. And even
though a lot of people start there, they don't end there, if that's where you stay is what
the ego is identifying with insecurity and that you're not good enough, you will never
stick it out. Okay, instead of the guy who falls in love with working out, here's the
guy who's going to stick it out and actually become the byproduct of having a good physique,
those guys will never last. I'm gonna give you another example. Same thing I've seen
with business, people who live from materialism, you have to get the BMW, you have to get the
gold chain, you have to get the Rolls Royce, I don't care what it is, these people can't
stick it out. Because they're playing for the end goal. And they're playing for the
end goal, because their ego is what gets the best of them. If you do what you do in life,
for the love of it, because you're hooked on the game, like Tom Brady is hooked on football,
because you're hooked on it just because you love it. This is how you become the best,
and you become the best by removing the ego and understanding that day to day, it's your
job to be mission centric like that. So you can get ahead as a man. Number eight, keep
negative friends. If you keep negative friends, you're going to lose. Because you're not hearing
the right things in life. There's so many people who have commented on my videos over
the years and they say Casey just be like, even just the way you speak. It's not even
the words you say they say the way that you speak inspires me. And it's because it feels
if they built a connection through this cameras in some way, shape or form. If you keep negative
friends that will lower your energy that's going to lower your state which brings me
to point 10. Okay, this is huge for some of you do not a man cannot allow his family,
Kay to keep you in your old identity. Not everybody was born to have the best upbringing.
Okay, and I totally understand that. Here's what happens is your family wants to keep
you how you are. And your family has a common set of beliefs, they're going to have common
sets of beliefs or on work around how you should carry yourself around communication.
If if those beliefs that they hold fundamentally have led them into the state that they live
in that is undesirable, you are not going to want to live like that. Which is why you
cannot allow family to keep you in an older fixated identity. And number 10 is a rude
awakening for a lot of you have lots of unprotected s 3x. If you have a lot of unprotected x s
3x K, you're in for a rude awakening, because I'm gonna tell you this, do not hook up with
a lot of people. If you look at all of the repercussions that could come with it, whether
it be disease, okay, whether it be unwanted pregnancy, whether it be you know, being with
the wrong people, this brings a slew of issues, complicated issues, like tons of issues, just
because you can get this doesn't mean you should. And for the short 1015 2030 minutes
a pleasure, it is not worth the pain that can come with being with the wrong person
for a long period or extended period of time. If you can do these 10 things you have to
understand you've just up leveled your state to a higher level of individual, you have
to understand that this. Everybody wants to secret tactics, right? Everybody wants to
know, hey, what's what's the two to three things I have to do to go and get the girl?
How should I text her? How should I do this, you're missing the whole point. The point
is to work on yourself as the product, not the pitch. The pitch is the words or the pitch
is the thing that you could say it doesn't matter. What's the product that that woman
is signing up for? What's the product that she's buying, the product that she's buying
is you and you are the man, which means how you build yourself, dictates what type of
success you get, like everybody will, like, here's the thing, I'm gonna tell you this
to anybody who wants to try to simplify the process of dating for you into just two to
three components. And that's all you have to live by. They are typically lying to you.
Because if you look at the nuances for how a man has to live and operate to let's say,
get a girl or get a girlfriend, you have to know how to have social skills, you have to
know how to have social calibration, you have to escalate. Okay, you have to know how to
flirt. You have to know how to carry yourself in the date. You have to know how to bring
value, you have to do so many things. There's so many nuances that go into attraction, that
it's like you can't crystallize everything down into something so simple. And if they
do try to make it simple, it's because they're trying to hide something behind the curtain.
So these are the 10 things men can do. I hope that this video serves you I put a lot into
this and I thought as hard as I possibly could to bring you the most amount of value possible
in the short time with me today on this Saturday. Hit the like button. We'll see you in the
next one.