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hi everybody and welcome back to our channel where Eamon and Bec and we've
been traveling for over six years together most recently we've been living
in this self converted Sprinter van travelling across North America and one
of our most frequently asked questions we get it all the time is how do you
travel and live and work and be with your partner 24/7 so I'm just very
patient I got oh my gosh that's what you think home buddy ya know it's something
we've been getting a lot recently but also even when we're backpacking just
like traveling how do you do it how do you you know spend so much time with
your partner we've been together for six years so it feels like oh we just we
just work we're a great team yeah and we are and I think that that's
probably the tip number one is like picking a great partner that definitely
you want to make sacrifices and compromises for this video is a little
different than what we normally do but hopefully we can add some value if
you're thinking about going traveling with your partner or moving into a band
or a tiny house let's jump into it let's do it
the number one most important thing especially for a man and I is not to let
hangar happen hangri is a bad look on the two of us
even like mild hunger is like right away granola bar hmm you know that will solve
a lot of issues if you guys have been following us for a while you see that we
are constantly eating and we're actually asked a lot what percentage of your day
is made up of cooking eating and cleaning and it's a huge part of our
lives a because we love it and we love cooking and experimenting in the kitchen
but also otherwise we'd go crazy yeah so super important that you know like with
our own relationship we're starting to TIF we can tell it right away it's like
hmm how long ago was it before we ate so super important to have snacks on you
especially if you're backpacking and you might been a long bus mmm-hmm just being
prepared ahead of time with food so you're not ripping each other's face off
I think the only time you and I actually even TIFF I wouldn't say we fight but
when we're kind of bickering it's always related to food and the
funniest part is we'll be like I think you're hungry and then the other one is
not hungry but you are always hungry so just stay well-fed we always have snacks
in every backpack you always make fun of me because my backpack is never clean
like a half-eaten Clif Bar and in there somewhere just because I know the
importance of staying well-fed number two some things just aren't romantic or
at least the way the word romance is used in storybooks and movies and all
that kind of jazz pooping and having travels travelers diarrhea and the other
ones throwing up and you're using the toilet it's not romantic to a lot of
people but to us that's romance isn't it buddy
holding your hair I think it's romantic it is kind of really the moment it's not
like you're not thinking about that while you're doing it first shirt is so
romantic it's beautiful no no but you look back on it it's like
wow that was like really early on in our relationship I'm bonding in a way you
know you have each other's backs you know you can be comfortable with one
another and it's just about getting rid of this
idea of this super romantic getaway and I think that we've talked about it
before but of course on Instagram if you look into tiny houses or van life you
you're gonna see the best snippets of someone's life and we do that of course
because it's a visual highlight of your day but you have to remember between all
of that there's the stress of trying to find where to park the stress of where
you're gonna go to the toilet in the morning it was just knowing that you
know it's not all butterflies and roses well I think that leads us really nicely
into point number three which is managing your expectations yeah so a lot
of us aren't j.lo and these super billionaire type people who are going on
vacation just came to my head who would you say Kardashians sure they're
Kardashians they've got porters or whatever you want
to call them taking their suitcases around for them that's not everyday
travel that's not tiny living with a partner and I think it's about managing
those expectations and understanding what we got the reality of it all is
going to be and I think that's what you and I
I tried to do a lot with our vlogs on this channel is show you guys what it's
like when you're sick in the van and it really sucks just know that you know
there's gonna be downs and when you are down ride it out you realize that this
is gonna be a crappy moment and and get through an hour really key point about
managing expectations that's really helped me and then in turn our
relationship is the expectation of going to a place and thinking it's gonna look
exactly like that Instagram photo I saw so early on in our relationship I would
we'd be in Thailand and I would see a photo somewhere and think oh my gosh
that is so beautiful I want to go there and it looks pristine and the water is
aqua blue and there's nobody there and then you arrive and there's people
everywhere it's so so hot you can't actually get in the water or you can't
just a ripe photo because you don't have the right and D filter or they had like
a light setup you never know right you're seeing a photo and you're
thinking oh man I want to recreate that moment yes it's never gonna be the same
exactly and so now what I do is I go into the moment completely expectation
list and I'm open to exploring different places without having any idea or
itinerary of what that means so the tip number four that we have for you is fine
and travel with your tribe so basically what that means is it's okay to go and
expand the crew and I think I would encourage it because yeah obviously you
want to spend time with your partner but by increasing the squad you're allowing
more people and more personalities into the dynamic yeah
which creates a you know a stronger bond between you and your partner but also
might take a little pressure off of entertaining each other so being open to
inviting new people over or hanging out with new people is a really positive
thing it helps you really appreciate your partner when you are just back the
two of you if you never hang out with anyone else and it's just the two of you
all the time the little things will start building up but if you have a
tribe for a weekend then you spend a week together it's so awesome when it's
just the two of you as change routes you really appreciate each other
dividing your responsibilities and respecting the rules that come with
those responsibilities and not nagging on the other one
when they're doing that role if aimin is clicking there really isn't a space for
me to necessarily be in the kitchen helping him at all times if there is
room for it and I'll pop down this table I'll totally help him cook but at the
same time it's like I totally respect that you're in the kitchen right now you
need the space to do that so then I will then do the dishes verse six is super
important money money can be a very difficult conversation but it's super
important to keep track of it but be fair what we recommend is if you are
going to travel with your partner you're gonna split the cost fifty-fifty there's
really no other way we see it working when we started trapped
traveling just as friends obviously we would you know buy each other little
things here and there but when our relationship started developing a little
bit further it was too difficult to say hey babe I bought you dinner last night
you buy me dinner and don't penny pinch that's when you're gonna get into a lot
of serious issues money makes people weird so what we recommend is putting
money into one account and then just paying for everything from that count
like each putting in the same amount so say it's $100 you put in 100 pounds
Twitter bucks yeah and then you spend your money you buy your coffee you do
your thing and you know you then you replenish the account number seven is to
let it go let it go guys let it go inhale what what do you go go anything
and everything to be honest if you guys have had a little bit of a tiff say hey
I didn't like that you did that the other person says I understand and I'm
sorry and then don't bring it up again at the end of the day this little thing
is not gonna affect our lives what our relationship is much bigger than this
yeah so what's the point of dwelling on it yeah yeah talk about it you know
don't just like sit there quietly driving down the road I'm gonna attack
talk about it get it all out yell at each other if you need to and then let
it go number eight this is a big one compromise
so basically pretty obvious but when you're traveling everybody has their own
interests obviously you've common interest that's why you're in a
relationship but outside of that if you've got you know one Saturday left
with in your travels choose an activity you're gonna like in the morning and
then choose an activity that she might like in the afternoon and understand it
that's okay so for me if I want to rent a motorcycle and drive around an island
that's cool but maybe we will go and get a pedicure for back on the route that's
a great way to push yourself outside of your comfort level so for example like
Beck would never have driven a motorcycle but now she kind of likes it
I actually end up having so much fun and I think that's such a good point is
you've pushed me outside of my comfort level and I do things that I wouldn't
normally do but I end up enjoying them so much and the things with me I'm
addicted to pedicures number nine is to communicate and always be honest with
one another and that sounds of course like a no-brainer but I think it's
something that you and I have really been growing and learning as we continue
our relationship last one which we kind of touched on but take time to yourself
it's super important that you're not with each other 100% of the day or 100%
of the week or a hundred percent of the month regardless of how strong your
relationship is it will crumble and take time to go for walk by yourself or I
don't go for haircuts but you know go for a haircut whatever it is it's weird
that you said that is gonna crumble because I actually think that you and I
spend twenty three point five seven together yeah but I mean I'll still go
for a boosted ride yeah I'm like that's enough for me we got 10 minutes riding
around the city yeah and I'll come back like hey baby I'm at this random dude
blah blah yeah you'll have more to talk about yeah and it just I think it does
make your relationship stronger yeah and and whether that's a hobby or something
you do I feel like this a whole list applies to like more than just travel
absolutely it does but I think everything is amplified when you travel
hopefully these tips helped you in some way and just prepare and communicate
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linked in the description and that's it that's all she wrote happy travels guys
yes remember overall traveling with your
partner will strengthen your relationship totally so we encourage you
to try it maybe if you've never done it go for a weekend you know go to a
neighboring town and get an air B&B or whatever it is start swearing to
campervan yeah start small but at the end of the day it will bring you closer
yes peace out safe travels the harder you work daughter you play so get
working