[music playing]
Give me easy.
Don't give me right.
I didn't know then, because we were too young.
- Shadow men. - Uh-oh.
Here's trouble. - Oh, boy.
What's up? - What's up, man?
How you doing, Bob? - Good.
Good to see you, man.
How's it going [inaudible]?
Jephte.
What's up, man?
What's going on, guys?
Oh, you know, just pondering our future daughters.
Seriously? So it's a girl.
Yeah, it's a girl.
Wow.
So everybody's having daughters, man.
Well, I mean, had a daughter.
I mean, she's here.
- We all got girls. - Oh, man.
Your baby's beautiful.
Thank you.
How is it, man, being a dad? JEPHTE: It's cool.
I just can't wait until, like, she's-- like,
you know, she starts moving around,
she can start hugging me back.
I don't think I've ever loved anything
or been this happy in my life. So--
PASTOR CAL: Seriously?
No, never. I teach.
So you have all these little kids that you love.
But they're not truly yours.
I have all my brothers that I love,
but they're not truly mine.
Now, I have a child that's really just for me.
And it's amazing.
I'm actually really happy-- probably the happiest
I've ever been.
Let me ask you guys a question.
Do you think there's any difference in how
you're a husband with a child as opposed to a husband
without a child?
BOBBY: I think so.
As a husband, I'm still going to have to be the good listener
and the support system.
But once the baby comes out, I will need
to be kind of an extra body.
Because she's going to be so tired
and she's going to want and need help.
Little things that you won't think--
that she won't even think she'll need help with,
she'll need help with.
Shawniece wouldn't even tell me, but she
couldn't shower when she wanted to, just
because if I'm not home-- - True.
JEPHTE: --nobody's there to watch the baby,
just for the shower.
That's why I wish I took the extra week,
just so we could actually figure out those things.
Everything's magnified when the baby comes.
If you're having issues before the baby comes,
the baby, for a short time, will kind of hide those issues,
because, you know, you're feeling good about the baby.
But then, after a while, boom.
It's all magnified.
Yeah, but have you experienced any of that?
JEPHTE: Yeah.
We did have problems before.
And we knew that we'd have to address them eventually.
Because we put a lot of things on hold while she was pregnant.
And we talked about co-parenting before.
But we got in our little blow-out.
And like, what scared me the most
was that, after watching a whole month of seeing what
Shawniece was doing, how utterly unprepared
I was to be a single father.
It scared me to the point where, like, I'm pushing
myself now to do those things.
I think it'll help me just be a better person
and a better husband, too.
One of my biggest fears is having to co-parent.
And I understand that's a reality for some people.
But I don't want to do that.
I know I'm going to be a great father.
And I do think I can be a great husband.
I'm just trying to make sure that I'm doing everything
for the right reasons.
Here's a question for you guys.
When your wife is pregnant, her body changes.
Right?
Yeah.
How do you deal with the changes in her body?
I grow my own bump.
[laughter]
Does that affect your attraction any, you think?
When she was pregnant, I thought she was real beautiful.
Really? JEPHTE: Yeah.
Early on in her pregnancy, we still slept with each other.
But then when it got-- when her belly really got big,
I just couldn't bring myself--
just knowing there was a little baby in there moving--
Dude. JEPHTE: --I just can't!
I feel like I can't be the only one.
Where she's, like, eight months, y'all going
to keep going at it?
[laughter]
Are you going to go at it when she's-- when
the baby's kicking?
Tell it to him, Bobby.
I can tell you, probably not.
I mean, I don't--
even now, she's never feeling like it or wanting to.
So I don't see it progressing.
But I mean, you guys are still OK in that area right now.
Yeah, I mean. It-- yeah.
I guess.
I mean, it's not-- it's not very frequent.
I love my life right now.
Right.
[laughs]
Well, we've only been married for six months,
and Danielle's been pregnant for three of those months.
And since Danielle's been pregnant,
it has affected our intimacy.
I thought, when you get pregnant,
the intimacy gets cut down pretty good.
But talking to the guys now makes me
think that this is, you know--
it's not normal.
She got pregnant, and then it pretty much just--
you know, just kind of cut off and--
Yeah.
Is she-- she's still nauseous.
Yeah, she's still nauseous.
And so I imagine it's not going to get any better.
When the sickness subsides, then--
Then she'll be [inaudible].
Then the fullness is going to come,
and she's going to be like, I still don't feel like it, man.
And I'll just be like--
No, just be optimistic.
You know, you'd be surprised.
But here's the thing, though.
Even if she may not feel like it,
if you don't at least make an attempt,
she's not going to feel sexy.