- When you think about a woman who's irresistible,
what images come to your mind?
You know, a woman that's radiant,
a woman of course is beautiful and sexy.
Well, today I'm gonna share with you five habits
that make highly successful women irresistible to men.
Check it out.
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Hey there, my name is Mat Boggs
and I'm the Founder of the Love and Relationships Division,
here at the Brave Thinking Institute.
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And today we're talking
about habits that make highly successful women irresistible.
You know, I've been coaching women over the past decade,
since 2009 and often highly successful women
will come through my coaching programs
and they feel like they've gotta dial down their success
in order to be more attractive to men.
There is a myth out there
and the myth is that they're going to intimidate a man.
And I would say that the myth
is that they're going to intimidate the right man.
Yes, they're going to intimidate the wrong man,
but remember you've got to scare away the wrong man
in order to attract the right man.
And so today I'm gonna share with you five habits,
ways of being that the right man,
the high quality man for you as a successful woman
that he's gonna find absolutely irresistible.
Number one is bring humor to the moment.
Many don't realize that you can actually create joy
and laughter and fun.
You can infuse moments with that.
You might have a friend,
where you hang out with this particular friend
and there's nothing amazingly funny going on
but you just find things to laugh about.
Like you're cooking together and something funny happens,
you laugh with one another
or you're talking about a topic and you're laughing.
And why is that?
Because your friend is helping bring humor to the moment.
We have some friends that'll often say,
"You know what?
"I really love that guy.
"He is just ready to laugh."
Or, "I love her.
"She is ready to laugh."
She is soaking up the joy of the moment
and she's letting it come through her in laughter.
That is an irresistible quality.
Because spirit loves joy.
Spirit loves laughter and you can infuse
the moments with your joy and laughter.
It's real easy especially when you really like somebody
or you're attracted to somebody to just get tense
and tight and serious and be like,
"I hope I don't make a mistake."
But in the desire to not make an error
we actually blow up the moment because we're too tense,
it's too heavy and it's no fun to be around.
So let your light shine, bring your laughter to the moment.
In one of my early dates with my wife, Irene,
I thought, you know what?
I'm gonna test her level.
I'm gonna see how much fun she really is.
And so the date was we were gonna take care
of my niece and my nephews,
and there were ages like three to seven.
And so in taking care of them, we're babysitting them.
We decided to play a game called angels and monsters.
And the game was that when my girlfriend at the time,
Irene's hair was up, she was the angel,
and she was the base and the kids could stay safe
next to her 'cause I was the monster.
There were other bases around the house as well.
But if she dropped her hair she became a monster
and they had to run away from her.
And I remember sitting there,
you know, as the monster I was waiting to get the kids
and seeing her be the angel and they're clinging onto her.
And they're like, "Ah."
And then she slowly dropped hair and went, "Raaaa!"
and got really silly and funny and goofy with the kids
and they would scream and ran to the base.
And I remember thinking this woman is awesome.
I love her.
I could see myself with her.
Someone who was having this much fun
in a babysitting moment, now that was irresistible.
The second habit is a woman who owns her success.
Meaning she doesn't deflect, she doesn't dismiss,
she doesn't minimize her success.
I have many clients that'll say
should I not tell him that I own three businesses
or should I not tell him
that I'm a professor at this university.
And they'll think that they shouldn't say the great joy
and success that they've created
for themselves because they're gonna intimidate the guy.
And I say, "Yeah, I intimidate the wrong guy."
If he's intimidated by that scare him away,
own your success.
This is who you are.
You've earned this.
You have the right to be proud
of what you've created in your life.
And in fact, I did a interview,
where I interviewed all these different guys
in this conference for what they found irresistible
about specific types of women
and it was very surprising.
The one quality that came out above everything else was...
And I didn't even phrase
this as what do you find irresistible
about successful women?
It was just, what do you find irresistible
and highly attractive about women in general?
And all of them said the number one quality
that came outta the that survey was women
who were passionate about what they were doing in the world.
That they were going after something that they loved.
So if you're highly successful and you're passionate
about what you do, shine that life, talk about it,
be proud of it,
because your man is gonna find
that really attractive about you.
Number three is women who have a habit
of cultivating fun in their life.
You see, while it's attractive
that you're passionate about work,
if work takes up 90% of your life or 95% of your life
then you're very one dimensional.
But women who cultivate fun, remember spirit loves fun.
Women who have hobbies,
they go mountain bike riding or they go jogging
or they take a dance class or a singing class or painting.
If you have other things in your life
that you love doing that creates a more holistic viewpoint
for your man because here is what happens,
your man starts to see those things in places
he can fit into your life.
If all you're doing is talking about your job,
talking about your career,
it's very difficult for a man to see how he fits into that.
So make sure that you have hobbies and habits that are fun.
The company Zoosk reached out to me
and hired me to do some coaching for them.
And they provided me with all kinds of data
on their online dating site.
And what I found really interesting
is the women's profiles
that got reached out to more than anyone else,
the one common thing
they had is that they all talked about fun as a priority.
They demonstrated how they to have fun
because men when they're reaching out to a woman
for a relationship that's what they want most.
They want a relationship that's gonna enhance
the fun in their life.
And so that's what they look for first.
So when you demonstrate to your man
that you're woman not only is passionate
and successful but that you love to have a good time,
you love to have fun
and these are your favorite things to do,
that's really attractive to him.
And habit number four is a woman who creates space
for her man before her man is in her life.
What this means is that you don't let work
dominate your entire life but before he is even in your life
you create a beautiful social life for yourself.
I talked in the last habit about creating fun.
Well, this is where you you're creating space for that fun.
So you create space to hang out with your girlfriends,
create time on the weekends to do something you love,
whether it's a hike or you're gonna go snowboarding
or skiing or swimming or surfing
whatever that you want to do,
you create space for that now,
and it's in that space that your man
begins to see himself partnering with you in your life.
And if you're doing something fun,
that you're passionate about, that's not work,
he's like, "Oh, that's how I can fit in first."
And he starts seeing himself inside your life,
seeing you in his life,
and that's where the two of you bond.
And if it looks like a good life to him
he is gonna find that irresistible.
And number five, and I would say of all these habits
this is the most important one.
This is the biggest one.
And that is as a successful woman
you allow yourself to be supported in the relationship
because you can take care of yourself financially,
you can take care of yourself mentally,
emotionally, spiritually, you have it all together.
And the man that's coming into your life,
if he is a masculine man
he wants to see how he can serve you, where he can fit.
Men have a need to be needed.
We talk about in relationships, we want our needs to be met.
Well, one of his needs is to be needed.
So what space can you create to receive support for him?
Whether it's emotional support after a hard day
and you can cry on his shoulder or receive support from him
or whether it's you're gonna let him pick up dinner
or let him cook dinner for you or let him make the plans
then take you out,
but for you to take your foot
off the gas as a highly successful woman,
as the leader, as the business owner,
and actually receive in that moment, let him be needed,
let him support you,
that is incredibly attractive, highly irresistible.
When a woman is highly successful
and she is allowing herself to be supported, why?
Because he knows you're a badass.
And if you are trusting him to support
you that just shows the respect that you have in him
and his ability to be your man.
Ooh, it's really, really powerful.
So my question for you is what are the habits
that you have found that make men irresistible to you?
Well, how do they show up that you absolutely love?
Go and post that in the comment section below.
I appreciate you, I believe in.
Thanks for watching and I'll see you soon.
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