- What is a high value man?
How to recognize a high value man, and how to attract one?
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12 characteristics of a high value man,
and will answer your questions
on how to spot one and how to attract one,
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So without further ado, let's continue with
what is that high value man?
And ladies, just before I will start, I'm going to give you
10 characteristics of a high value man,
and then I will answer how to spot him
and how to attract him and so on.
Ladies, keep it in mind that of course, no one is perfect.
We are not idols, we are not gods;
therefore nobody's perfect.
We are only imperfect human beings.
However, if you are dating a guy
and you will spot at least 70% of the characteristics
of a high value man that I will give you,
I think you got a good deal
and you should perhaps stick with it.
So ladies, without further ado,
the characteristic number one: values and morals.
High value means having high values and good morals
and sticking to them.
Ladies, it really makes me laugh
when players or pickup artists
call themselves high value men.
How can you call yourself high value
by doing immoral things?
Can you please explain it to me in the comments below?
By lying and manipulating women into bed,
how can you possibly call yourself a high value man?
By looking at women as replaceable toys
and using them at any chance that you get;
by being immoral, lying, cheating;
having sex with a different woman every single night
is not high value!
It's immoral, therefore it's low value.
Let's just get the first thing straight.
People are not meant to be used like toys,
because we are not toys.
Now, since we got this clear, characteristic number two:
a high value man supports his woman and lifts her up.
He adds to her life; he adds to her value.
When she is with him, she feels good,
as he makes her feel good by lifting her up.
He encourages her goals.
He supports her dreams and ambitions
same as she encourages his.
Ladies, if instead of appreciating a man that lifts you up,
you get all arrogant and submit to a man
that puts you down and makes you feel unworthy,
well hon, you have issues, psychological traumas
that you need to work on, as let me tell you this:
if you will choose a man that puts you down
instead of a man that lifts you up,
you will live your life in toxicity for-ev-er.
Number three characteristic of a high value man:
he is generous.
He takes care of his woman and he is proud to do it.
You don't need to question it.
Will he split the bill this time?
Or perhaps when will you give me the money back
that I lent to him?
A high value man is generous.
If he doesn't have the money to take you out,
he goes to work, works extra hours
so he can take you out, feel masculine and good about it.
Not hide in the corner when the bill comes or worse,
splitting it and arguing with you
that this is the right thing to do.
Ladies, if you want to know, do 50-50 relationships work,
check out my video right here.
But let me tell you quickly that it does not,
simply because we are not the same.
And this world is not just men or it's not just women.
We are men and women, and we are meant
to complement each other, not to be exactly the same.
That's why 50-50 just purely does not work
because it's not supposed to work.
Number four, a high value man is confident and fearless.
Being confident and fearless
is becoming so rare in a man these days
that we even start to call those men the 1%
or the "alpha men."
Ladies, this is totally ridiculous,
as majority of men should aim to be confident and fearless
and should aim to be alpha men anyway!
If you insecure and weak as a guy,
staying in your comfort zone
and giving yourself excuses why you are insecure and weak
is not an excuse.
Work on it.
Sort your issues out and take step-by-step action
towards being a strong, confident male.
Women don't look for weak, insecure men
because she might as well just date another woman.
She looks for a strong, confident man.
In the past, we had wars.
My grandparents went to war; my dad lived in a war.
All of these men could have been giving themselves excuses
right now that we are all damaged, we all have issues,
therefore we are weak and insecure.
No, those generations were full
of fearless and confident men.
Therefore, what is your excuse as a man
that you live too comfortably?
Number five, a high value man treats a women gentle.
He knows this is a woman and she needs
to be treated differently from a man.
He watches his language with her.
He watches his tone of voice with her.
He doesn't curse with her same as perhaps
he curses with his blokes.
He doesn't say vulgar jokes to her
same as he shares them with his mates.
A high value man has manners with his lady,
because he knows this is a woman
and she needs to be treated differently from a man.
Therefore, he gets out of the car when he picks her up;
he opens the car doors for her.
He pays the bill.
He lets her through the doors first,
offers her a lift home,
asks her that she got home safe, et cetera.
Number six, a high value man respects a woman
as he respects himself,
This is what makes me really laugh, ladies.
Pickup artists constantly say to men to have self-respect.
Have self respect and value yourself,
but neg at a woman and lower her value.
How does this even make sense?
As you cannot respect yourself and disrespect others,
and then claim that you are a respectable person.
Let me give you an example.
Let's say you're married and you as a woman,
let's not even say a man, let's say you as a woman.
Let's say you as a woman, you go to your female friends
and you gossip about your husband.
This is exactly what happens: you're disrespecting him,
but you're not only disrespecting him,
you're disrespecting yourself.
Why, because you are a part of him.
When you get married, two becomes one.
So when you disrespect your husband,
you are married to this guy; you chose him, you picked him.
This is your husband.
When you gossip about him or when you put him down,
you are disrespecting yourself also.
So ladies, when guys say respect yourself,
but neg a woman or put her down, doesn't even make sense.
Because when you disrespect a woman that you're with,
you are disrespecting yourself,
because you chose this woman.
Number seven, a high value man has boundaries.
So as we all know, people-pleasers get taken for granted.
People that always agree with you
in order to be liked by you
are usually taken for granted.
A high value man has fair boundaries
and he does not let people walk all over him.
Same as a high value woman has boundaries
and she does not let people walk all over her.
When you are in a relationship with the high value man,
and you are, let's say, even if you are a high value woman
or perhaps you're a low value woman,
and you're trying to take advantage of him
or you're trying to test him,
because women test men and men test woman,
and let's say, you're trying to test the guy.
Can he stand firm?
Can he protect you?
Does he have self-value and worth?
Or will you just walk all over him?
You know, he will show his boundaries.
He will be like, "Look, hon, you're being rude.
I won't jump when you click your fingers,"
as that's disrespectful.
And he will set in boundaries with you
so you don't walk all over him.
And he'll set in boundaries, with others.
And it's nice and fair as you respect him more.
And when you respect a man,
you are naturally more attracted to him.
So it's nice and fair, right?
Now however, let me take you to number eight.
When you as a high value woman
will set boundaries with a high value man,
because as I said, people are people; nobody's perfect.
There is no man that will be 100% high value,
and there is no woman that will be perfectly high value,
as we are just humans.
We are not perfect.
So when this guy tries to test you
or tries to tease you or does something else off
that's not acceptable,
you will set in boundaries with him, showing that
you won't walk all over me as it's disrespectful.
Now, if a man is high value,
he will respect your boundaries,
and you will start to look at you as more attractive.
Same as you would look at a man
who respects and values himself
and sets boundaries with you
for acting all silly or arrogant or immature.
More attractive, same with a man.
Then you will set in boundaries with a guy
who tries to walk all over you
or who's being disrespectful towards you,
he will start seeing you as more attractive.
When you will set a boundary with a man,
probably he'll take some time,
then he'll come back to you, apologize, sort things out,
and you have a boundary with a guy.
However, when it comes to insecure men or player-type men
who are pretending to be high-value,
when you sit in boundaries with this type of guy,
a lot of these guys are recommended by pickup artist
not to kind of pull away and think about it
or to come to you and apologize to you,
they are basically recommended by pickup artist
to rotate and have their "Plan B,"
as in "Oh, this girl is setting boundaries with me,
even though I disrespected her,
I still want her to chase me.
Therefore, I will just ignore her.
I look at my phone book and choose
a Plan B or C or D or whatever."
Ladies, if you find yourself with a man like that,
he has been disrespectful towards you
and you set in a boundary, and instead of coming to you,
it sometimes takes a while for them to come to you.
First, they kind of have to sulk, it's kind of natural.
But if instead of coming to you,
he gets all insecure, he has a tantrum.
And on top he starts to threaten you
that he's gone to date someone else,
ladies, do yourself a favor and let this guy go.
And how to set in healthy boundaries with a guy,
check out my video right here.
And then by the way, once you let this type of guy go,
you behave as a child.
Usually we don't go anywhere and instead
they just literally get addicted to you.
Number nine, a high value man is driven, ambitious,
focuses on goals and not chaos or drama.
Chaos and drama is for immature teenagers
or early 20 years old; it's literally for the "kids."
You'll get drunk on Saturday, then you sleep through Sunday,
then you gossip the whole next day,
what she did, what he did, et cetera.
Drama and chaos is a waste of time
and it's very, very immature.
If a guy is over 30 and all he's getting involved
is chaos, drama, and gossip,
this is a big fat red flag
that you just started to date a low value man.
Number 10, ladies, have you noticed
that I didn't even mention money or good looks?
A lot of you put a man on a pedestal
who looks good and is wealthy,
but this has nothing to do with high value.
That exactly same guy could be
the most low value man in a room
if his moral system is not in place.
So ladies, let me answer your question,
how to know if you're dating a higher value man?
Well, date him for a long time.
Observe his actions, listen when he speaks.
Does he focus on chasing skirts,
partying and getting drunk?
Does he gossip a lot?
Would he rather gossip or talk about his dreams and goals?
What are his interests?
Does he watch "Love Island" or maybe
he listens to Jordan Peterson instead?
Ladies, date a guy for a long period of time.
Get to know the real him.
Get to know what he's all about.
And then you'll clearly see
is he a high value man or not?
Number 12, so how do you attract him?
First of all, you let the man find you.
You don't go searching for a guy,
as it's not your job to do that.
Second, we like people that we have things in common with,
as it's easier to relate to them, to be on the same page.
So a high value man will be attracted
to a high value woman naturally.
Men want more from women nowadays than before.
High value men want women to be on the same page as well.
We want to build things together.
We want to be understood.
High value men are mature, wise men
that understand right from wrong
and will choose to do the right thing.
So if you are a woman that gossips a lot,
loves drama, chaos; loves to live "in the moment";
is immature, arrogant, but looks good;
you will attract not a high value man,
but a pickup artist, "high value man" wannabe,
or a player wannabe, in other words.
Guys tend to say to me a lot as well,
"But Greta, women don't like good men.
They want bad boys."
Well, the truth is, immature, young girls want bad boys
because they are immature.
They live in a fantasy.
They get excited about drama and chaos.
They don't have any life experience.
The outcome for these women usually is that men use them
and they literally replace them daily, like socks.
Or stay with them, manipulate them,
take them for granted, and cheat on them behind their back.
Mature self-respecting women want
mature self-respecting men.
It's exactly the same as a self-respecting man
will not date a low value woman.
What is a woman of low value?
Check out my video right here.
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