how do you know when you have an unconscious limiting belief that is
holding you back keep watching this is life mastery gym I'm Damon Cart and I
teach people just like you cutting edge NLP processes and techniques so that you
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videos on a regular basis I've done a lot of videos on how to transform
limiting beliefs into positive uplifting beliefs that help you get what you want
but I get questions like well how do I know if I have a limiting belief how do
I identify that so that I can make that transformation so by the end of this
video you'll know exactly how to do that because I'm going to explain exactly how
to do that and I've worked with hundreds of people
on this and I've worked with my own limiting beliefs so I've done a ton of
work on getting clear about these things getting clear about what's holding you
back but before we get into this if you think you might have a limiting belief
but you're not sure tell me about it in the comments below I will respond to you
and if I can help you gain clarity about it I'll definitely do that it's actually
quite simple to identify when you have a limiting belief and the more you do this
the more you will be able to identify the deeper more unconscious limiting
beliefs so get in the habit of doing what I explained in this video and it
will become very very natural to you you'll just start doing it without even
thinking about it it'll just be your normal processing
you'll feel it oh something's getting in my way oh I know what that is now and
now I can do something about it and they're really the problem the biggest
problem with limiting beliefs is that you don't know that you have them most
of the time and so they're holding you back and you just don't know why you
didn't you might just think well that's just how it is or that's just how I am
and it's really not true you have so much untapped potential or most people
have so much untapped potential and only thing really holding them back is
basically some assumptions about themselves or about the world or about
how things work that just are unchecked so that is really what a limiting belief
is people give it this sort of mystical qualities about it but it's actually
it's actually very very simple and again it's just basically an unchecked
assumption so how do we get clear about this well it first starts with gaining
some clarity about what it is that you want so when you start thinking about
what it is that you want and by the way before I get into that don't go on a
witch hunt and trying to go inside and get rid of all of your limiting beliefs
I've tried that it doesn't work very well I know people who have tried that
it doesn't work very well and here's why it doesn't work very well because you're
putting so much focus and you're gaining so much clarity about what you're trying
to get rid of rather than putting your attention on what it is that you want
and moving toward it and the truth is is you could put in a lot of work on
transforming these limiting beliefs when they don't really affect your life that
much yes you have so many limiting beliefs but if they're not really
getting in the way of what you want let them be and if ever they do if ever they
do start to get in your way well that's the time to transform them it's you
don't want to go in and try to get rid of all of your limiting beliefs it's
just it'll you could spend the rest of your life doing that and it probably
wouldn't get you that much further ahead it's going to get you ahead is by
getting clearer about what it is that you want start moving in that direction
of getting what you want in if you notice a limitation comes up that's when
you deal with it don't do it the other way you just won't get ahead because
it's like trying to try to get ahead by looking back so look forward to what it
is that you want and that's just it that's the first step to identifying a
limiting belief as you're moving toward what it is that you want or you're
thinking about what it is that you want do you feel any resistance to that so
it's going to come up it might come up in two different ways just thinking
about what I want might not bring up resistance but it might some for some
people that might be what brings up the resistance just I start thinking about
what I want I go no I can't I can't do that
but or if the word butt comes up a lot I would like to do that
but I could do that but and then it's all these other words like if will come
up a lot of times when I start you know when you start to think about what it is
you want those are good indications if and buts are good indications that
there's resistance here and then for some of you it might not come up when
you just think about what you want but when you think about what you would have
to do then to get what you want or who you would have to become in order to get
what you want then the resistance might come up come up so for example for a
long time I wanted to be wealthy but at the same time I thought I didn't want to
become a greedy person or a person who had wealth would mean or being a person
who had wealth would mean that I would have to be greedy and so I was
struggling with this for a long time it was a very unconscious belief because
consciously I thought well yeah I would want to be wealthy who doesn't but
unconsciously I feared the person I would have to become in order to be
wealthy and of course that's an unchecked belief I went in there and
started looking at it was like no I know plenty of people who are wealthy who are
not greedy so that doesn't mean I have to become greedy just to be wealthy so
that very good example right there of just an unchecked limiting belief that
held me back but for a long time it was unconscious so I didn't know it so when
you think about what it is you want or you think about what it is that you
would have to do or be in order to get what you want do you feel any resistance
to that and it usually starts as a feeling because if the belief is
unconscious would come what becomes conscious as the feeling and this is
where we go oh well that's just how it is or that's just the way that I am
because I have because I feel it but no that's not sure what's triggering the
feeling there's always something that triggers feelings feelings don't just
arise out of nothing something brings up a feeling there is something whether
it's conscious or not that will trigger your feelings so in this case it's
probably a limiting belief if I feel any resistance to getting what I want or
doing the things that I would have to do or being the person I would have to be
in order to get what I want so I feel that feeling of resistance and then ask
yourself what stops so I I'm clear about what I want I'm
clear about what I need to do and who I need to be in order to get that but what
stops me I also want to emphasize the B there's a lot of people think about in
terms of what do I have to do to get what I want of course you have to have a
strategy of course you have to take action but if you really want to take it
to the next level think about who do you have to become
and not only is that more powerful in getting what it is that you want it's
really powerful and smoking out any limiting beliefs because that's where
those are much stronger than just the activity identity beliefs limiting or
otherwise are the most powerful beliefs you have so if you think well I'm not
that person I'm not the type of person who can do that I'm not the person who
would have that or any of those identity level thoughts or beliefs or especially
limiting beliefs those are gonna hold you back more than anything
so ask that question what stops you is it because you just don't want to do the
things that you got to do to get there or you don't want to become the person
who would have those things what is it what's really stopping you so that would
be the first question and I'm a huge believer in journaling I think writing
helps out so much it accelerates this process a lot of people will just sit
here and try to answer these questions in their head I you can make it work
that way but it's going to work so much more powerfully if you write this down
so what stops me ask yourself that question and then write down the answer
and it might be a long answer it might take you a while to get very clear about
that but keep working at it until you're clear about what is stopping you what is
it that you believe about yourself or about the world or about anything that
is stopping you from having what it is that you want question number two ask
yourself what would it be like if it were possible and then what will
probably start to happen when you ask that question you'll probably think well
it is possible there are people who have what I want there are people who are
doing what I want to do so obviously it is possible and then that's when you
turn the question on yourself what would it be like if it were possible for me
because people will do this they'll say well
yeah it's possible for that person because that person is talented and that
person was born with money that person is just naturally intelligent I'm not so
it's very very important to know that it's possible and it most likely in most
any case whatever it is that you want or whoever it is you want to become there's
someone who's already achieved it or has become it so it is possible so first
identify that it's possible and then ask yourself how what would make it possible
for me what would it make what would make it possible for me to do that to be
that to have that now by this time after you've answered both of these questions
you should have come up against this resistance this especially when you
start really thinking in terms of making this possible for you to do be or have
that's usually when the resistance has really shown itself and welcomed the
resistance don't try to push it away that's another big mistake people make
so welcome that resistance and just ask it what is it trying to tell you what is
what is the resistance about and just get very honest with yourself again you
want to really welcome this I've done videos on I just did a recent video on
parts integration conflict integration and so I go into a more detailed
discussion about how to elicit this how do I listed the positive intent because
even your neg even if even your limiting beliefs have positive intent behind them
okay so it could be things like you know you're trying to protect yourself you
don't wanna you don't want to be disappointed so a lot of the lot of the
things will come up that you fear because fear is what causes all limiting
beliefs so for example I go into myself and I say okay what is it that that
stops me what you know what's holding me back is it and then I know if it's
possible or not I know if it's possible or not for me it's like yeah it's
possible for me but I'm afraid I fear something I I'm trying to protect myself
and so that's what really all limiting beliefs are rooted in some sort of fear
of something happening that I don't want to happen so I'm clear about what I want
and this thing is holding me back I have some limiting
belief about it and you know until this video I'm not conscious of it but now
that I'm conscious of it I go oh yeah you know I'm afraid of all these things
and then I then you want to ask yourself the question okay that's what I'm afraid
of then what do I want instead and it's
like taking the light and shining it across and in the direction of what it
is that you want this is super super powerful so I don't want that and that's
why I'm afraid of it that's why I fear it and that's and I have a belief around
that that's holding me back but now I know what it what I want instead and so
then you can ask yourself okay well how do I then bring this understanding of
what I want based on what I don't want into my outcome or my vision of whatever
it is I want to create or whatever it is that I want to have or whoever it is
that I want to become so here's here's an example I want to start a new
business and I have all my reasons of why I want to start a new business and I
like that but then I feel the resistance I'm holding myself back and then I
started asking those questions well what's what's stopping me here what's
really getting in the way is it possible well yeah lots of people start new
businesses is it possible for me and maybe I wrestle with that a little bit
and I go and I finally come to the conclusion well I know plenty of people
who I'm just a smartass and I have just as many resources and they've started
their businesses and it's working so yeah it is possible for me okay well
great so but I'm afraid I'm afraid that I'm gonna I'm gonna fail I'm gonna lose
all my money and people are going to laugh at me I'm gonna look bad so that's
what I don't want and that's what I'm afraid of and that's really the essence
of the limiting belief I'm holding myself back because I'm not sure if I
could do this I'm not sure if I can be that person I'm not sure if I have the
ability to succeed at this okay so that's what I'm afraid of what do I want
instead okay well what I want instead is actually I want some level of safety I
want some level of protection here I need some level of security nothing is a
hundred percent secure nothing's a hundred percent safe like Jim Morrison
said no one here gets out alive so there's no way to completely
make yourself immune to any problems or anything that goes wrong or mistakes or
failure so we have to at some point at some level take a chance but then I can
ask myself well what level of how much security do I need in order to take
these chances and when you ask that question you naturally will integrate
this the security into your overall plan your overall vision of who you want to
be or what you want to have what is it whatever it is that you want to achieve
so that's how you make a limiting belief you're your ally you find out what is it
about what is it what is positively intended with that limiting belief and
yes all limiting beliefs are positively intended and I take that value and I
just add it to what it is that I want I add it to whatever it is I'm trying to
accomplish I'll give you another example I'm learning Romanian my girlfriend's
Romanian and I've always wanted to learn a language and when I started thinking
about learning a language and when I start thinking about learning Romanian a
lot of resistance came up for me and I'd so I stopped and I said okay what is
this resistance about well I have tried to learn languages in the past I tried
to learn Spanish and I tried to learn French and I failed at both okay so
what's happening here I had a limiting belief about my ability to learn a
language I also was built into that limiting belief is I don't want to be
disappointed again I don't want to quit I want to follow through I want to I
want to really learn the language so I started thinking about this it's been
quite a while since I attempted to learn a language and in that time especially
through NLP I developed a lot of strategies for achieving what it is that
I want and I follow through and I make it happen and it's happening and I'm
right now living my best life so now is the time to work on this because I've
always wanted this in fact I want to learn multiple languages so I thought to
myself am i intelligent enough yes I know plenty of people who are same level
of intelligence and speak multiple languages so it is possible it's
possible for me I know this I don't question it so what do I need I need a
really good strategy well I can go and study and learn what the
polyglots are using for their strategy and that's what I did and so it became
more and more possible for me and then so as far as the disappointment goes
that's what I you know if you're a disappointment I figured failing at this
and what do I want instead of that disappointment what do I want instead of
failing at this well I want to succeed I want to feel good about it I want to
feel like I'm making progress boom what soon as I realized that it
would that's that's the the light bulb so I put in there well progress I need
to see that I'm progressing it can't just be I'm thinking of yeah I'm getting
better at this I need a way to measure this to know that I'm making progress at
it so I devised a way to know that I'm making progress at it it takes 480 hours
of study and practice with a language to become mildly fluent at it well if I
logged my hours and I know that I'm getting closer and closer and chipping
away at that 480 that's progress and as soon as I thought about that I was like
this is the missing piece I put that in my vision I put that in my my goal and
now I'm doing it and it's that simple overcame identified a limiting belief
and overcame it as I mentioned earlier the most powerful beliefs whether
they're limiting beliefs or empowering beliefs or beliefs that you have about
yourself beliefs that you have about your identity your identity itself is a
belief so if you would like to know more about this if you'd like to know more
about what makes a strong sense of self what creates an empowering belief about
who you are then you will want the elements of a healthy self concept which
you can get for free it's a PDF that I offer all you have to do is go to the
description down here or the in comment at the top of the comments there's a
link there just click that link and you can get immediate access to that PDF the
elements of a healthy self-concept this is so important the more you can
understand yourself empower yourself strengthen yourself strengthen the
beliefs about yourself the more you're going to accomplish the happier your
going to be your reality is built upon the beliefs you have about yourself so
make sure you get access to this free PDF as I mentioned it really as well put
in the comments below what it is you're dealing with what's holding you back and
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