Hey.
Hey, sugar baby.
My baby is sleepy?
Oh.
Hey, Mom.
Did y'all enjoy breakfast?
I mean, I know I'm not, you know, Chef Thomas or nothing,
but you know.
It's the last day in Destin, Florida.
So, hopefully, the kids had a good time.
So, Mama, how long before you pulling out?
Oh, probably a couple of hours.
You know, you're going to take Malani with you
so that you can watch her?
Because this is my week with the kids, of course,
so are you going to try sitting with that first or no?
No, probably spend some time with the kids
before I take off.
You have a good time?
I had a wonderful time.
Did you have a good time, Mariah?
I did.
What was your favorite part about this trip?
- The boat. - The boat?
Definitely.
OK.
You want to do that again?
OK.
We can do that again one day.
Breakfast was very good.
It was good.
Look at y'all's books sitting over there.
[LAUGHS] That was a lot of fun hearing them read the books.
"Plane Ride to Canada."
I am sure my younger brother, Martell, the second,
also known as Tank, was across the hall,
wide awake and ready to go.
And I told Martell, you know, that his book
is very well written.
Yeah.
Martell mentioned to me that he's doing, like,
a book signing with the kids.
He got a booth or something.
Yeah, he told me yesterday.
So he wants to take the oldest three with him for that.
So I told him this is my week, of course,
but I told him that was fine.
And that's my thing--
I don't even mind compromising in situations
like that when my boundaries are being respected.
You know what I'm saying?
And when I'm being respected, and don't be at war with me
and think that I'm going to be still giving you
what you ask for because I ain't going to do that ever.
I think you guys are going to be great at co-parenting
because the one thing all of us have in common
is four amazing babies.
Yep.
That we all love.
Mm-hmm.
And just being here, all of us being here together again,
I think it was good for all of us, not just for the kids
to sort of have some kind of closure and healing.
For sure.
Now, last night I was a little surprised that Martell
had gotten us a table--
duo table.
I was surprised that you were all separated.
Me too.
I was like, now, wait a minute.
Now, what is this?
He said he has something he wanted to talk to you about.
Yeah.
I mean, he was just talking, apologizing, and--
Oh, OK.
--you know, talking.
But I will say what I learned from that conversation is
in order for us to be at a decent place
where we're able to be cordial, it's better for us
not to discuss things from the past because that kind of--
Because that just ignites things.
Yeah, it kind of-- yeah, it doesn't work.
He just he kind of kept saying I wish I knew.
I wish I knew what I wasn't doing
or what I wasn't, you know-- or what
I was doing to make you feel a certain way when
we were together.
So that brought up--
so if you're asking, I'll start engaging with you to get
to the-- so I'll answer it.
And that kind of didn't go too well.
And, you know, I don't really like to be in places
where things aren't going well.
So it was, like, OK.
So I think just, going forward, let's not even worry about what
didn't happen, what should have happened, what could have
happened, what whatever because it doesn't
leave a good space between us.
Right.
He doesn't have to take accountability for anything,
just change the behavior moving forward.
Because, like you said, talking about what's
happened in the past, that's going to--
we talk about triggers.
Something that you talk about is going to trigger you.
And the fact is it really doesn't matter.
Yeah. You guys are divorced now.
We're divorced.
We're doing what we can when it comes to these babies.
It doesn't matter.
It's not like we're trying to get back together,
so it really doesn't matter. - Right.
I worked hard to get to the place where I am.
Where I'm at peace, and I wake up happy,
and I feel good about life, and, you know what I mean?
So I don't even want to really be in a compromising position
to where I can't be in that space
because I like that space best.
But, yeah, I think it's been a wonderful trip.
I've enjoyed.
I was a little hesitant at first
about everyone coming, you know?
Because I'm used to doing vacation with just me
and the kids or sometimes you come along, but definitely
the first time in a long time that I've
extended the invitation for their dad to come.
But I can tell that it made them there very happy.
And I can say the whole trip, he's been respectful.
Everybody had their own floors.
Wasn't nobody trying to sneak up in my room at night,
you know what I'm saying?
It was cool, you know what I'm saying?
It worked out well.
God is good!
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