We all know how much it sucks to be bailed on by a guy, especially if he’s someone
who you are interested in romantically.
Unfortunately this kind of thing happens more often than I’d like to admit, which is why
knowing what to say to a man when it does flake on you will make all the difference
in the world!
Hey ladies, my name is Amy North, I’m a relationship coach from Vancouver, Canada
and author of The Devotion System — a program designed to help women find and lock down
love.
Today I want to share with you a line that will get you far when it comes to getting
a man to spend more time with you, especially in situations when he casually changes his
plans.
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So, now that that’s out of the way, let’s talk about how to pull him back in when he
tries to stray.
To set the scene here, let’s pretend that you have dinner plans with a man.
For the sake of this scenario we’ll call that man Dave.
And let’s say that just hours before you’re meant to meet up Dave he shoots you a message
or calls saying that something came up and he can’t make it.
Now, how I see it you have two options here.
The first is to get pissed off or upset and to tell Dave that you think he’s a selfish
prick who has no consideration for anyone but himself...
Okay, maybe that’s a bit extreme, but what I mean here is letting him know that you’re
clearly annoyed by his flakiness.
For instance, maybe you give him attitude or make it known that you’re not impressed
by being short with him, sulking or speaking in a dry, flat tone.
You know what I’m talking about!
On the other hand, and this is most definitely the better option of the two, you can play
it cool and let Dave know that it’s totally fine and you’ll catch him another time.
Of course this is easier said than done, especially if you were really looking forward to spending
time with him and are genuinely disappointed that he’s bailing, but letting him see that
negative side of you will do you no favours in the long run.
Instead, you want him to think feel as though he is he one missing out by bailing on you.
So, if the guy you’re into bails on you then your absolute best bet is to sweetly
say or text this to him:
“It’s okay, I understand you’re busy.
I have a lot going on in the next few days, but perhaps we can reschedule for later this
week.
Have a great day!”
The reason why this works so well is because even if he assumes you won’t be upset about
him cancelling on you, he still knows that there’s a possibility you won’t handle
the situation well.
However, by coming across as calm, cool and collected, it’ll make him WANT to spend
time with you.
After all, it’s not everyday that he encounters someone who radiates positivity, even in unfavourable
situations.
Now, I want to explain why each of those sentences is so important, I mean, why not just reply
with “It’s okay” or “It’s cool?”
So let’s start with the first part of that sentence, the “It’s okay, I understand
you’re busy.”
Telling him that it’s okay shows him your compassionate side and it’s your way of
letting him know that you’re not mad or upset, which is particularly important if
you are hoping to see him again.
Adding in the “I know you’re busy” shows that you’re considerate of his schedule.
This is worth noting because again, it shows him that you don’t expect him to drop everything
he’s doing to see you.
Also, that extra bit about him being busy makes the “it’s okay” sound more sincere,
after all, those two small words can pack quite the punch, and they don’t always come
across in a positive way.
That’s why using both of these together is so imperative.
Of course, there will be times when him bailing ISN’T okay!
In fact, you may even want to pull your hair out in frustration of his flakiness.
But again, if you’re looking to win this guy over then it’s important that you make
him think that he’s missing out by not spending time with you.
Getting angry or reacting negatively to him won’t make him want to see you, in fact,
he may even go out of his way to avoid you if he feels like he’s in the dog house.
Now of course this is different if the guy who is bailing on you is your long term boyfriend
— in that case you’d be having a different conversation about the situation — but for
scenarios where you’re just getting to know him and hoping to develop a relationship,
this is what you’ll want to do.
Now, moving on to the next part of what you should say when he bails on you, let’s go
over why saying “I have a lot going on in the next few days, but perhaps we can reschedule
for later this week” works wonders.
Since men want to be with women who are independent and outgoing, by telling him that you’re
busy for the next few days it shows him that you’re not sitting around waiting for him
to come calling.
So even if you have nothing planned for the week, say this because it’ll make him want
to see you more.
It’s a known fact that men love the thrill of the chase, so making him think that he
has to work for your time, or needs to give you notice to fit into your schedule will
bring that chase to life.
A good rule of thumb to follow is to need at least three days notice.
Of course it can be tempting to drop what you’re doing to see a man you’re into,
but believe me, making him wait that extra little bit will keep him interested.
Also, suggesting that you reschedule lets him know that you’re still willing and wanting
to see him, so not all hope is lost!
He has the green light to contact you again.
Now lastly, wishing him well, or telling him to have a good day leaves things on a positive
note, and again, tells him that you’re not upset that he’s bailing, because why would
you be, you’re life is full and exciting as is!
Again, this little extra bit will put a smile on his face and you can bet that he’ll be
thinking about you even long after you’ve wished him well.
If you can put a positive spin on an otherwise crappy situation then your guy will not only
be much more likely to come calling, but it’ll make him look forward to seeing you.
Think about it from his perspective for a moment.
If you had to, or even choose to cancel plans on a man, would you be more inclined to want
to see him again if he was a downer about the situation, or if he brushed it off like
it was no big deal because he understood you were busy?....
Exactly.
If you’re interested in learning more tips for flawless dates and awkward encounters
with men then visit my site, www.coachnorth.com and watch the free video presentation.
In it I talk about my Devotion Sequence, which is a specific set of words that are guaranteed
to make any man wild with desire for you… so check it out, you’ll be glad you did!
Well, now it’s your turn to weigh in.
Have you ever tried this approach with a man?
Did it work?
Do you have your own responses you like to use in these situations?
If so, I’d love to hear them so please share in the comments below!
Also, if you have any questions about what I’ve covered in this video, feedback or
suggestions for me then please post those, too!
I always do my best to respond to each of you and appreciate any input you have to share!
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