You want to know
by the end of this video. You're going to have four ways to turn the tables on them,
the way they normally do to you.
Hi, I'm Rebecca Zung, I'm an attorney,
I'm an author.
I am a narcissistic negotiations expert.
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lose their minds,
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All right, so let's talk about what's going on when you're dealing with narcissists.
Most of the time
they are making you lose your mind,
right? I mean they love it.
They thrive on it. It gives them
narcissistic supply,
which is their lifeblood, their food.
their oxygen
what they live on
they live for that
they literally get off on
trying to make you lose your mind
so how can you possibly
turn it around against them?
Well, one of the things you need to remember is that you have to think about
who it is that you're dealing with over here.
This is a person who
has no inner sense of value,
they suck all of their value
from the external world.
and most of the time, that value is going to come from either adulation
or complements or doing things for them,
or they're going to turn around
and get it from you
in the form of devaluing you,
putting you down, making you feel bad,
trying to control you, all of those kinds of things,
they get supply from that as well.
So it's going to be one or the other.
But the only reason why you're in their space,
that they even give you the time of day is because
you are giving them some source of supply.
That's why they want to keep you around.
So knowing that,
remember that you hold all the cards,
you're the one who is
giving them that supply source,
it's like the oxygen that we need to breathe
really has all the leverage over us because we need it to breathe and so,
we kind of forget it sometimes
That you are actually that oxygen
to the narcissist
so it's pretty easy to make them go crazy
and drive them absolutely nuts.
If you think about it,
in terms of what supply is it that
you are giving to them.
So the object of this whole game here is
for you, to figure out a way to no longer be a good host,
a good source of supply.
a source of nutrition for them
because they're going to have to then
go slither on down the road
and go look for it somewhere else.
Remember that they want to feel
powerful, so they're doing whatever they can to make sure that you see them
as being powerful.
So one of the ways that you can
completely make them go crazy,
is to stop giving them adulation
stop giving them
“Oh, you're so wonderful”
“you're so great”
that sort of thing.
Now, I will tell you
one of the ways that I do tell you to
get what you want from a narcissist is to
sparingly use this adulation
sparingly use their need for being complimented
to get them to do some things that you want
them to do
and I call that bartering.
So you can use it to ethically manipulate
the manipulator sometimes
but number one is to just stop giving them
that adulation. They will absolutely go crazy.
If you do that.
number two is to
So if you are in business with a narcissist,
for example, I've talked to people who are business partners with narcissists
and they end up doing all of the work, they end up basically doing like 95%,
of everything and then the narcissist sits around and tries to take all the credit and,
you know, you're making them look good,
right? So if you take away that and you stop doing those things for them,
that'll make them go bananas
and another thing that you can do
is to stop being at their beck and call
stop being that supply source for them.
So that's number two, which is
to stop doing any of the
things that are giving them narcissistic supply
if you want to know more about
what supply is specifically.
I do have a video that just explains
all about narcissistic supply.
So I definitely recommend that you check that out.
Okay, so there are a million other
ways that you can torture them,
but let's just go through, at least two more,
one of them is
you don't want to have to do that,
but if you point out their little flaws
and you just, kind of give them a little bit of a taste of their own medicine
they cannot stand it
any perceived slight
they absolutely go crazy
and if they think that you're even talking
to them with some kind of a tone,
I always say they hear tones like dogs hear whistles
They cannot stand it.
They don't want a taste of their own medicine,
they like to dish it out,
but they definitely cannot take it.
So, that's definitely number three
pointing out any kind of flaw,
or insecurity or issue
that there may be with them and,
if you are ready to torture them
and give them a taste of their own medicine,
give me a “torture them” in the comments below
alright, so next and last
for this video is definitely one of the easiest and best ways for you to mess with them,
but it's, in the long run,
so much better for you. Is to
basically, you're not in this game anymore.
You're not playing,
they can play by themselves from now on
or go find somebody else
to play this game with,
but you're not in it anymore
and it will definitely drive them absolutely crazy if they didn't see it coming,
but I do recommend
if you are in a romantic type of relationship
with a narcissist, to make sure you have a plan,
don't let them know ahead of time.
Definitely have a plan.
Know where you're going to be
know how you're going to get there.
Know how much money
you're going to need when you're there
if you have children together,
make sure that you
have some kind of a parenting plan in place.
Make sure that it's in writing
all of those kinds of things.
and until you get to that point when you're ready to pull the trigger on making that happen,
you will want to do everything you can to make them believe that everything is so pathetic.
It's business as usual. Don't let on what's going on.
Don't give them a heads up.
Don't try to talk to them about it
because they’ve seen this loss of supply that's going to be walking out the door
and they're going to do whatever they can
to shut that down and make sure
that you aren't able to get out.
So don't give them a heads up on it.
Just do what you need to do
and then when you walk out,
do not look back
and if it's a business relationship,
do the same thing. I've had to do it myself.
I've had to wipe people from the CPU of my life
so that it's like they didn't even exist
that is the best way to be free.
there's always going to be toxic people
coming in and out of your life
you just have to learn
how to be okay with that and let them go.
Don't look for revenge, by the way,
I had a conversation with somebody recently, where they just wanted to look for revenge,
and they really believed that
that was what was going to help them
get over their trauma
was getting revenge on this person
and I told her that the only way
she's really going to get revenge is to
take that supply source away
from the narcissist
put it aside, let it go
move on, break free.
Don't worry about hurting the narcissist
that'll get taken care of in some way
one way or another
but you don't need to worry about that yourself,
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I'm Rebecca Zung.
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Remember today is a great day
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and I will see you in the next video.