- If you've ever asked the question,
where can I meet a great man?
Or what can I do to meet a great man in my life?
In this video, I'm gonna share with you three secret actions
that you can take to meet an amazing man in your life,
and I guarantee you, they are not what you think.
Keep watching.
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Hey there, my name is Mat Boggs,
and I'm the founder of the Love and Relationships division
of the Brave Thinking Institute,
where our mission is empowering people
to create and live a life they love,
and that includes your love life.
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Often when women ask the question,
what can I do to meet a great man?
She's looking for tactics, she's looking for actions,
like, where she can go, what you can say,
what she might wear,
and while those things have their place,
they're surface level tactics,
and they're actually less effective than the three actions
that I'm about to share with you right now.
Because, consider this, everything is energy, right?
The device that you're watching this video on right now,
it looks solid, it feels solid,
and yet, it's 99.9% space.
And while you probably know this,
we're not really walking around,
being fully aware of this dynamic all the time.
That when you go down into the molecular level
and even into the quantum level,
that device, 99% space is pure energy.
What you'll find is dancing strings or filaments of light
that are vibrating at a particular frequency,
and that particular frequency then
makes up the atoms, that make up the molecules,
that make up the phone that feels solid.
Well you and I are made of the same stuff.
You and I are 99.9% energy,
and you're vibrating all the time, in fact,
you're sending that vibrational signal out all the time.
With everyone you meet, every place that you go,
and we don't, most of us aren't consciously aware of this.
And so, this signal that you're sending out,
let me suggest to you the possibility
that this is also your love signal.
Now, the stronger the signal you are sending out
the faster you will meet your man, which begs the question.
Is there anything that can block, or prevent,
or restrict that love signal that you're sending out?
And the answer is yes.
And so today we're gonna look at three behaviors
that can turn up the dial on your love signal
to call in your man even faster.
Now, the first action is to release past relationships.
Imagine this, your signal is based on
the energy and the focus that you have
to meet this new partner in your life.
Well, if a portion of that energy
is still connected to a past relationship, either,
because you still are hung up on that past guy,
you still have a desire to be with him, or you're resentful,
and you're feeling hurt from that past relationship,
both of those are like taking a cord from your heart
and tying it to the past,
and it prevents you from moving forward
and it reduces the power of the signal
that you have to call in somebody new.
And so, what's required is that
you cut those energetic cords.
That you either, move forward and release the desire
to be back with that past, that ex that you have,
or you do the forgiveness work to set yourself free.
There is a client of mine that this was
the exact scenario for her, her name was Rachel.
And Rachel was really hurt from past relationships,
from men who had rejected her, a man who had betrayed her,
and so there was this resentment
built up with his past relationship.
And so she went through a process
where she released that resentment,
and she said, after going through that exercise,
she said, it was amazing.
She felt this whole rush of energy restore back to her.
And here's what happened.
That when you're connected through an energetic cord
to a past relationship, you're draining the energy
all the time out of you, energy you could use
to call in something new.
So she released that past relationship,
she felt this rush of energy,
within two days, she got online, she met an amazing guy.
But two things actually happened that next week,
she met an amazing guy and her ex contacted her.
Now, if you've watched me speak on this
on any other videos, you know not to be surprised
when your ex contacts you, because subconsciously,
that person feels the disconnection
or loss of energy you were feeding to them,
and they're contacting you to re-establish it.
It doesn't always mean,
oh, this is a sign you should get back together,
quite often, it just means you shouldn't
and that you've caused your energy to move forward,
and that's a really good sign.
And so, that's what happened for Rachel.
She knew that her ex might contact her,
she made her laugh when he did,
she had a good conversation with him,
which helped release even more,
and she was already on her path with her new man
that she attracted that week.
Now, if you think there might be energetic cords
connecting you to the past,
I'm gonna post a resource for you in the description below.
It's a link to a program called Break Free,
which is a proven system for how to release
those energetic ties, so that you can move forward.
If that speaks to you, go ahead and click that link,
'cause you're gonna love that course.
Number two, is resolve energy drains.
Now, what our energy drains?
Energy drains, we've talked about past relationships,
energy drains in your present circumstance
are any unresolved loose ends.
Things that just psychically
drain your energy when you see them.
It might be a project that's been left undone.
It might be a drawer that every time you open it,
it just feels, you cringe,
because it's jam packed with junk and stuff.
It might be a conversation that you said
you were gonna have, that you never had,
something that you need to return to somebody.
If you look in your present environment,
your present circumstances, what are the loose ends
that are unresolved, that you could close?
Because here's what's great, any loose end,
no matter how big it is, when you resolve it,
when you close it, it gives you energy,
because the energy that was hung up in that loose end
is being drained out of you every time you think about it,
or every time you experience it.
And so, here's the challenge.
This week I invite you to make a list
of the loose ends that you thought of
at least three or more times.
It's like a closet that needs to get cleaned out,
or something, just make a list and circle one thing
that you're gonna do on that list.
And when you complete that, notice how good it feels,
and the rush of energy that you receive.
I recently did this.
There was something that I thought of
that I've been wanting to do, wanting to do,
and it was to put up, we have this little
playroom for our kids, a little toy room,
and I wanted to, it was just blank,
since we'd moved in here, there were no pictures,
no fun stuff in there, and I was like,
every time I walked by and I was like,
man, I wanna make that more fun for the kids.
And so, I finally, one night I said,
I'm gonna close this loose end.
I got on Amazon, I ordered some Disney decals
of princesses and Disney characters
and Mickey Mouse and whatnot, and one afternoon,
it took me like, 30 minutes.
That's all it took to close this loose end,
but I put them all up, and now, every time I see that room,
I get this rush of energy.
And that rush of energy supports me
in being a better father, a better husband,
better at work, everything that I'm doing.
So I challenge you to take on the same activity
and see how it works for you.
And number three, is to respect your own boundaries.
And here's why this matters.
Here's why this is so important.
When you think about, when you go on a date with a man,
or you're meeting a man, what men are most attracted to
when it comes to relationships is fun.
That's what they associate with relationships.
They associate fun, they associate excitement,
they associate adventure, they associate a best friend.
Someone with whom they can be passionate with,
make love with, and so when you are,
when you're respecting your boundary,
what sabotages fun, is when you tense.
When we get into fear, we clinch up and we get tense.
When you feel like someone might cross your boundaries,
or where you don't feel safe, or you're in fear,
that sucks the fun, the joy,
the aliveness in the excitement,
right out of the interaction.
On the other hand, when you're someone who
you respect your boundaries,
you know how to stand up for yourself,
you know how to put safe boundaries around yourself.
Then, when you're in an interaction with your man,
you go on a first date with him,
you can relax, you can enjoy yourself,
you can be fully present, you know where
the boundaries are and you feel safe
inside that set of boundaries that you've set for yourself.
Boundaries would be things like,
when is it okay for him to snuggle you and hug you?
When is it okay for him to kiss you?
When is it okay for him to spend the night?
When is it okay for two of you to sleep together?
You are your highest authority.
You get to set your own boundaries, but,
having the courage and know-how to set those boundaries
will create this feeling of safety in you,
where you're able to express more of yourself.
Recently, a client of mine named Maya
was going through this exact scenario.
She started talking with this guy online,
who lives a few hours away
and he wanted to come visit for the weekend,
and she started to get real tense, she started to get real,
kind of, closed off, and he was like,
"Hey, what's going on? You know, is everything okay?"
And she started to pull back.
And her question to me was, "Why am I pulling back?"
And as we peeled back this layer,
it was because she hasn't set proper boundaries.
She didn't know where he would be staying,
when he would come to visit,
she was worried he would wanna stay with her,
then she was worried he would wanna sleep in her bed,
then she was worried he was going to wanna
have sex with her, all of which she was not okay with
this early in their interaction.
And so I showed Maya and easy formula
for how to have this conversation with her,
to set her boundary, and you could literally
see the physical change in Maya.
Like, she relaxed, she opened up,
she smiled, and she was like, "Oh, I can totally"
"have this conversation, oh."
"Well, this weekend is gonna be great. Yeah."
"I would love for him to stay"
"in a hotel, we're gonna go on a date."
And she started to show this aliveness,
and that aliveness directly relates to that attractiveness.
So here's, what's cool, when you release past relationships,
when you resolve energy drains in the present,
and when you respect your boundaries, you create,
it's like turning up the volume on your love signal
that you're sending out to attract your great man.
So now, my question for you, if you've already
attracted your great man, what actions did you take
that really supported that result happening in your life?
And know this, if you have the desire
for an amazing man in your life,
I know that that possibility could be made real for you.
I believe in you. I've got your back.
I look forward to seeing you soon.
Thanks so much for watching.
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