[How to meet women | Conversation starters] Starting a conversation with a
beautiful woman can be very frustrating and even terrifying for a lot of guys.
So they often overthink it and they resort to oftentimes terrible
tactics in a vain effort to get the girl.
But it's actually a whole lot easier than you think.
If you keep the following three things in mind and with the bar set
so low, you can stroll on and approach any girl.
And when,
when you start applying the following three techniques to all of your
interactions with women, and I guarantee your results.
Skyrocket.
Number one, approach within three seconds of seeing her.
Because when you see a woman that you want to go up and approach and talk to,
I want you to make sure to start approaching her within three seconds to short
circuit, the nerves in your well, not only mine, but body,
but from the time that you take your first step or actually from the time that
you see her and you take your first step,
there should be no more than three seconds that go by do this every single time,
no matter what,
because it sure circuits your brain's ability to come up with excuses.
And we both know that a lot of excuses can and do often come up and
it also just conditions you to take action.
It's like you see a beautiful woman and within three seconds,
you just take that first step towards her.
No thinking no over analyzing it and no talking herself out of it.
And this conveys confidence. When you walk up to her right away,
instead of her seeing you following her or seeing that
you're making eye contact a few times, and then 10 minutes later,
you finally work up the courage to go talk to her. And of course,
confidence is a huge attraction trigger for women.
And I'm sure you already know that. So anyways,
the next time you see a beautiful woman that you want to approach, count one,
two, three,
and then take the first step towards her. Then of course,
take another step then another.
And eventually you'll be right up in front of her or you'll bail. Now,
even if you bail before you get to her,
because maybe her boyfriend shows up or she jumped onto a bus,
or maybe you just chickened out, but either way,
that's fine because at least you took action.
It's still a success because you trained your mind and your body to take action.
You're conditioning yourself. So that every time you see a beautiful woman,
you just get moving. You walk in her direction.
If you do that 50 times or a hundred times,
eventually it's going to become a habit and you're going to see beautiful woman
and just automatically walk towards them.
And that's the habit that I want you to have you see,
and you go next. Number two is open, strong.
Starting off with a strong opening,
starts the interaction knock on the right foot.
I know a lot of people you say you're open or does it matter?
And that's kind of true because a lot of times the woman will.
I remember how you started the conversation anyway,
and it's just a way to start a conversation and just get your foot in the door.
But at the same, same time, first impressions do matter.
So it's of paramount importance that you open
strong and you start on the right foot now, fun,
flirty opening lines that get her laughing. Right. Absolutely great. However,
there's no, no problem with just keeping a simple,
especially if you don't know what to say or you're feeling a little bit tongue
tied, so I'm going to show you some really easy and great opening lines.
I personally like banter openers because they're fun and flirty ways to
start the interaction, especially in a nighttime environment,
like a bar or a club, or even a lounge,
or even maybe a concert or a house party. So this is what I really like.
I just walk up to her and I say, Hey,
have you noticed that you and I are like the hottest people in this entire
place? It's true. So I figured I had to, we had to,
we had to at least meet that's the key.
I almost said I had to at least meet you.
But when you say we creates a feeling of
togetherness, sure. Use the word. We as much as you can.
Another one I really liked it is, Hey,
are you shy or something because I've been in here for like 25 minutes and you
haven't come and said hi to me or bought me a drink or anything.
You must be shy. Now I really liked that one.
Cause it's kind of like role reversal, right?
It's usually the guy's job to approach and start the conversation
and buy her a drink.
At least that's kind of the traditional role or the stereotype.
So you're just reversing the frame, which makes it kind of fun and silly.
I remember people are there to have a good time.
So see if you can get the girls bantering back and forth and laughing and being
playful. And when you do that, that is awesome.
Now my favorite way to start a conversation during the daytime specifically
is to be a lot more direct because women are busy.
So using something indirect or beating around the Bush or acting yeah.
Asking them some off the wall question that you don't care about.
It's just wasting not only their time, but your time.
So get to the point is actually going to show a lot more
attractive qualities because beating around the Bush and being indirect doesn't
show any attractive qualities. It wastes a lot of time.
So I like to show my intent and my interest right away,
because that shows confidence.
It shows that I must believe that the girl is also attracted to me because why
would I go up to her and tell her I'm attracted to her? If I don't,
if I didn't believe she'd be attracted to me.
And of course it all depends on how you say it, how you deliver it,
but as long as you do it, right,
it can create a ton of sexual attention immediately.
So for example, I might say something like, Hey,
I just saw you over here. And I know this is a little crazy.
I might even say, I know most people in one of our city I'm in like,
and I know most people in Singapore would never do this,
but I had to come over here and risk embarrassment and at least say, hi,
can you feel that tension? But the point is, it's really simple. It's direct.
And it just straight, flat out works.
Another favorite opener of mine is the intro opener,
which is where you just walk up to her and you introduce your self. You say, hi,
I'm Matt or whatever your name is.
And it works really well at nighttime events like bars, parties,
and especially social gatherings like meetup groups,
or pretty much any type of event or social gathering.
Like I just said, and all you do is introduce yourself.
That shows a lot of confidence and it shows that you don't need a reason or
excuse to go up and talk to somebody. Now, I really like the,
I don't believe we've met yet because it presupposes that you must know a lot of
people and that you and her should meet.
Now make sure to say it with a very confident tonality with a,
with very strong eye contact and a warm, friendly smile. Now of course,
feel free to modify these openers based on the situation or the type of girl
that you're talking to that you're approaching.
And of course your individual mood or whatever the situation is.
But what's most important to keep in mind is that 93% of communication
is nonverbal. It's not the actual words you say,
your body language and how you actually deliver your opening statement is going
to matter a lot more than the actual words that you've say. And finally,
number three, do not get caught up on the opener.
Remember you actual words that you say when you first approach her really aren't
all that important.
It's the overall vibe that you're giving off that really counts how you're
feeling on the inside. If you're already more advanced, for example,
approaching,
then it can be really cool to come back and kind of practice different types of
openers, try different things.
Don't get stuck on one specific tactic or technique because it's really
about your body language. Like I said, just a second ago,
which is conveyed by what's going on on the inside.
How much of a good mood you're in for example,
or how nervous and scared you are, will have the opposite effect.
But if you're a little less practice than just keep it simple,
it's totally fine. Just to say, whatever's your mind,
or just have one simple line or phrase that you say in the beginning,
but eventually you want to get rid of that because you want it to be as
honest and genuine as an authentic, as it can,
especially if you're going direct and you're giving her a compliment,
it should be genuine. If it sounds canned or like you don't really mean it,
then it's not going to have the red effect. She's not going to, you know,
it's not going to sweep her off her feet,
but the key is to get in the habit of just going for it.
Instead of always second guessing yourself and developing that habit will get
you more women in any pickup line or tactic ever could not to
mention a ton of success in other areas of your life as well,
because confidence in this part of your life will transpire and overflow
into other parts of your life. Now, of course,
there are other ways to start conversations with women as well,
such as being indirect or using an observation or something in the
situation, or maybe something in the environment.
Once you've gotten your confidence up,
it can be really fun to play around with different types of openers.
But the problem with those kind of openers is it's hard to keep the conversation
going because she doesn't really know the real reason that you're talking to
her. And a lot of women are just not going to respond well to that,
particularly during the daytime, like I said before, people are busy.
So like I said, don't be afraid to show your interest right away.
A lot of guys are just afraid of that. For whatever reason,
they feel like they're giving their power away, but that's absolute bullshit.
In fact, it does the exact opposite. It shows your power,
that you're the type of man who goes for what he wants and he doesn't need to
apologize for it or hide it. And of course, it all depends on how you do it.
There's a very meaty way to do it, which is going to absolutely repel women.
And then there's a really badass, more attractive way to do it,
that completely sweets women off their feet.
And that's going to build a lot of central tension right away from the moment
you meet her. And of course that's going to work a lot better,
but what's key is that after you show interest in her,
you slightly take it away by being a challenge.
Because if you show too much interest too soon, it just seems needy.
And it completely sure a way it's like, I like you. I like you. I like you.
You have to change up that vibe. If you keep saying, I like you,
it's just too much too soon. You have to also be a challenge,
but I'm getting a little ahead of myself with that.
That's beyond the scope of this video. We'll talk about that in another video.
But if you want to dive deeper into becoming a challenge and not appearing
and getting the kind of relation that relationship that you trust,
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