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- Hi guys, so today I wanted to do a video
on my birth stories.
This video will be basically telling you
both birth stories for both of my sons
'cause Caleb's, who is my second child
was so quick and so like, he just flew out.
I might as well include his story in this story.
I don't know what it is about birth stories
but whenever I find a new mommy vlogger
and they have a birth story video
I just tend to watch it.
I love watching One Born Every Minute
and I just, I don't know, I just love hearing about
other people's experiences.
It's such a big thing in your life.
So start off with my son Fraser,
he is actually four and a half now.
I was due to give birth on the first of December
and when the doctor told I was gonna give birth
on the first of December, I remember thinking,
oh I think he'll be born on the seventh of December
'cause the seventh of December is actually my dad's birthday
and he's dead.
He, sorry I said that really like.
Really like, he's dead.
It's a long story.
When I was 17 he kind of, well he took his own life.
He committed suicide when I was 17
and yeah, I just knew when she said
that he was due on the first of December,
I remember thinking, I think he'll be born
on my dad's birthday and in a way I thought
that if he was born on my dad's birthday
it would almost make it like, a happy day again,
but obviously my due date passed and on
the sixth of December, I started to have pains in the night
and I kind of got up and got out of the room
and into the living room 'cause I didn't wanna wake
my husband 'cause I thought if this is it,
I really want him to have as much sleep
as is possible 'cause he's gonna need
his energy as well.
So I went into the living room
and I kind of sat on my birthing ball.
I did hypno-birthing, and I'll link a video down below
about my whole hypno-birthing experience
but I put my headphones on.
I'm just doing that, just hanging out you know,
in the middle of the night and I managed to get
a bit more sleep and I remember thinking,
these contractions aren't bad at all.
Like what does everyone moan about?
Little did I know that it was gonna get a lot worse
and woke up at about eight o'clock in the morning,
got up, went into the bathroom to brush my teeth
and I had my bathrobe on,
I was just brushing my teeth and my waters just broke
like fully you know, like in the movies.
It was just a big gush on the bathroom floor.
I didn't know at the time but now I know
that that's actually quite rare,
that that only happens like one in 10 women.
Most people, like their waters break
during labor or don't break at all
or have to be broken so it was really like textbook
and then we called the hospital
and being our first baby we really didn't know or think
to like hang on and hang around the house
and we just went straight to hospital.
Got there and I had my hypno on the whole time,
I got examined and they were like,
oh you know you're only two centimeters
and you're able to breathe and talk
through your contractions so it can't be that bad.
So they sent me home.
They were like, have a bath, have some beans on toast
and I was like, are you crazy?
I'm actually in quite a bit of pain now
but anyway, we drove all the way home
and our hospital was actually 40 minutes away
from our house.
We drove all the way home and by the time we got home
it was getting a bit more intense.
Waited a bit longer and then I was like oh no,
I think it is getting like a bit stronger.
So we drove back to the hospital and they examined me
and they were like, oh you know,
you're only four centimeters
and we won't keep you here until you're five centimeters.
So we really suggest you go home.
I do strongly think that I was quite calm
because of the hypnosis.
So anyway, they looked at me and they thought
you know, you're not really struggling that much,
you're making much of a fuss, like go home.
Anyway, by the time we got home the second time,
they were really strong contractions
and I was bleeding a lot
and as I got out of the car I remember oops,
I just dropped my notebook.
I remember not being able to walk to the flat,
like really struggling and so when we got into the flat
I remember I sat on the toilet and my mom took
one look at all the blood everywhere
and she just, she got quite worried
and she was like, alright we need to call an ambulance,
we need to call a paramedic.
So my husband called the paramedics and a paramedic man
came in a car and he came into our flat.
We had a little one bedroom flat at the time and he said,
I'm gonna have to examine you.
So I had to lay on our bed
and be examined by this like random dude
and I'll never forget my husband said, always the joker,
he said, I never thought I'd see you
on our bed with your legs spread for another man before
or something like that and it really did like,
it did like lighten the whole mood
'cause I was quite worried at that stage
and he was like, you know, you're five centimeters now
so you could go back to the hospital and stay,
they'll let you stay there.
I think maybe he was quite worried about the level of blood.
He called an ambulance to get me an ambulance
but the nearest ambulance was quite far away
and he said, even if you blue lighted it,
it might be quicker if we just drove to the hospital.
Got back in the car again and I was in so much pain
at this point, you know when every bump in the car
was like oh my God and it was 40 minutes away.
So we drove all the way back to the hospital
and they obviously let us stay
but at that point because of the level of blood
they were like, you're high risk and we want to
put you on the high risk ward and monitor your baby.
So we went on the high risk ward and I remember,
I had all these like wires on me
which was really not part of my hypnosis plan.
I still had my hypnosis on and I was being calm.
I remember the midwife talking to me
and trying to be like you know,
have you got any names for your baby?
You know, blah blah blah.
Is it a boy, is it a girl?
And I remember thinking, are you crazy?
Like I can't answer these questions,
while I'm in so much pain.
So I had a bit of gas and air
and then after a little while they were happy
that I was actually low risk again
so they sent me to a low risk room.
We were put in this room that had like
loads of different apparatus and mats and balls
and like swings and they must've thought
that it was all going well
and wasn't too serious 'cause they just left me
with a student nurse and I remember
they only called in like a proper midwife
when it was time to push.
I spent a lot of time sitting on the toilet, TMI,
because for me, the feeling of a contraction
felt very similar to the need to go to the toilet.
I remember the midwife coming in and saying to me,
alright at one o'clock, she points at the clock, she went
at one o'clock we're gonna start pushing
and I looked at the clock and I thought,
exactly midnight, so it is the seventh.
It's the seventh of December, like it's my dad's birthday.
He's gonna be born like today.
Pushing for an hour and then I remember
towards the end of the hour the midwife said to me,
"Baby's getting a bit distressed,
"if nothing happens in the next few contractions,
"we're gonna have to get the doctor in here."
And that kind of made me, spurred me on and was like no.
I'm gonna get this baby out and it kind of,
I don't know if they just said it to help me or what
but it really helped me get him out
and then I remember on one contraction
they put my hand on his head so that I could feel his hair
and everything and it kind of made it all real
and made me really have this like you know,
I'm getting him out kind of thing.
As I pushed him out, they sort of held him up.
He did this big poo everywhere.
I always remember it landing on me.
But he was really lucky that it was like literally
as he came out he did it.
So he nearly did it in the womb
which would've been horrendous 'cause
then he would've needed his stomach pumped
and he would've had it in his eyes and issues
and all that kind of stuff.
So, it was just really fortunate
that I just about managed to get him out.
It was all really straightforward.
All I had was like a graze, TMI.
But I didn't have any tears, I just had
like quite a graze which was sore.
He was born, he was perfect, he was eight one.
And yeah, it went really well.
I do think my hypnosis really did help me
stay just really calm and relaxed.
You know one thing afterwards
that I did really struggle with
was because I gave birth to Fraser on my back,
as he was born my coccyx actually cracked, it broke
and I had an x-ray on it and it was confirmed
that it was broken from childbirth
but there was nothing they could do about it
and from the time he was born
to the time Caleb was born, I really suffered with pain.
But when it came to Caleb, I actually had him
on all fours and it didn't break again
and I think it actually corrected it.
So then Caleb, he was due to be born
on the 21st of October.
And he was exactly six days late like his brother.
He was born on the 27th of October
which I kind of thought in my mind that would happen
'cause I thought, well Fraser was born
on the seventh, so Caleb will be born six days late as well
and I don't know, if anyone believes in The Secret
I kind of think I did that with my mind.
I don't wanna sound like a happy but the point is
labor with Caleb, Fraser was like two,
two years old and 10 months and I managed to like,
I was having some pains but I managed
to get Fraser bathed and to bed.
And then after he was in bed and I was happy
and safe knowing that he was asleep,
I sat on my birthing ball and I was really getting
like some contractions and some pains
but it didn't hurt too much and again,
I did my hypnosis, I had my wireless headphones
on this time and we called Matt's mom
to come to the house 'cause we were like,
I think I'm in labor, just come so you
can look after Fraser.
And the night that Caleb was born it was storm Jude.
I don't know if anyone remembers that
from about 18 months ago but it was storm Jude.
So I called the hospital and they were like,
you know your first was pretty quick,
he was seven hours from start to finish.
And it's storm Jude tonight so just come in as a precaution.
And we got there and the midwife was really like,
she must not have thought that I was in that much pain.
Again, I was hypnotized and she was kind of like,
oh you know, get settled and I'll come and see you
in 20 minutes and my husband and I remember him warning her
that our first was quite quick, I was under hypnosis
and this was our second and blah blah blah
but she was like oh yeah yeah yeah,
she came back 20 minutes later
and when she's examined me you could tell
she started to panic 'cause I was seven centimeters
and it was like seven centimeters,
and then it was like eight and she started to panic
and you could kind of see her
go around the room and get things ready
because I was ready to push and in my second labor
I said to my husband your one job
is to make sure that I do not have him on my back
because the pain was so bad the first time.
She examined me and then she was sort of like,
oh just stay there for a minute, just stay
for the minute but I had that urge to push
so Matt helped me up and I actually ended up having
him on all fours and it was literally like two pushes bam.
He was there, when he was born
he was seven pounds seven.
He was absolutely perfect.
And yeah, I was surprised that he was seven pounds seven,
'cause everyone says that the second is heavier
but he was actually less and I think it's because
when I was pregnant with him
I was running around after Fraser so much.
So I didn't really put on as much weight
or have enough time to like relax and stuff.
So yeah, so that is my birth stories.
I have waffled on so long, I'm really sorry
if that was too much information.
So I am so lucky with my labors and they were both
really straightforward, no tearing,
no with Caleb and Fraser I had a bit of gas
and air with Fraser and with Caleb I just,
there wasn't even time for a paracetamol.
I really think the hypnosis helped so again,
I will link my video about that down below.
But yeah, thank you so much for watching
and I will see you all soon.