Abraham: A New Paradigm
Hi I'm so happy to be here.
So um -
my thing is kids with disabilities
and the mom who talked about
her son with autism is so
in my heart
because that's what I do
is I work with families
that have kids with autism
and other disabilities
and I think we're on the
edge of a new paradigm
for how we can work with kids
and I'm so excited about this.
So a mom wrote me this letter last week
and said you taught me how to
see and feel and know
what my kid was communicating
when I couldn't hear him
and it - it was it.
Isn't that nice to know?
In other words the child -
It's amazing.
And so what has happened here?
What happened?
Who taught who?
This child said I'll come forth
and I wont use words
and I'll teach you to become
a vibrational interpreter.
And she got it
How about that?
and we got it
and now I want to like
do it and talk about it
and still keep my job.
OK.
What would be so -
So tell us - tell us -
tell us your dilemma.
So what is it
that we know and you know
that you don't think they know
that you're afraid to tell them?
Who's they?
Those who have the power to fire you.
What - what is it that you know
that we know that -
that they don't know
that you're afraid that
when you tell them -
What is it?
OK.
OK so here's the - here's my deal.
So I've spent like twenty-some years
becoming a credible academic -
What is it that you know and we know
that they don't know
that you're afraid to tell them?
It's like - it's this vibration thing.
And it's about the language of -
OK so -
What is it that you know
that we know
that they don't know
that you're afraid to tell them?
That they're just wrong.
Well they know that it's not working.
They know that it's not working.
They haven't found the answer
so they don't have
anything to crow about.
Their plan isn't working -
But it's like such a -
It's like a paradigm shift.
It's like a core paradigm shift.
And I so -
So now you're like our friend earlier
you're worried about the -
all of those that aren't getting it.
That's a pretty big burden to carry
isn't it?
But when you bring it into your world
and you think about
one mother with one child
who heard what you said
and got fabulous results.
Doesn't that give you a feeling
of wanting to tell another one?
Absolutely.
I'm fine with the parents.
I'm totally cool with the parents.
I'm totally cool with the kids.
I'm less cool
with my fellow faculty members.
And that's why the kids
were born with autism.
But if that language
sends people over the edge
and they go she's a flake
she's gone into woo woo land
she's hanging out with those
Abraham people again -
They'd never say that.
But you know what I'm saying.
We do. We do know
because this body of work
is revolutionizing this planet
and Oprah is afraid to have Abraham
on her program because
we're so weird.
So we get what you're talking about.
In other words we're teasing you
and torturing you a little bit -
But it's good because -
And a teacher is only as effective
as his understanding of
where the student is.
And so what you're saying is
I want to find a way
that I can express it
and they can hear it.
Yes.
I don't want to
express it in a way that is so far out
that doors begin slamming shut before
they've even heard what's going on
and that's why we're saying
your interaction with one
and then another and then another
will give you a sort of
basis of confidence
but here's the thing
that we really want to say
about this specific subject
to give you sort of an end run
in other words
to give you a way of
approaching it with effectiveness
without freaking everybody out about it.
So consider this.
As I've been interacting
with so many of these children
I can feel -
I personally can feel
the power of who they are.
Now nobody's going to argue with that.
That's not going to freak anybody out.
I can feel clarity from them
that I don't always see.
There's a -
a deliciousness about them
that is intoxicating to me.
In other words
speak about how you feel drawn to them
to their power and clarity.
And then say
I began thinking about -
now you can get a little
religious if you want to
more of them would be comfortable
with that than this.
So then you can say
and I began asking myself
why would a loving god
send pure blessed beings forth
as flawed and inferior?
And I had to think
I don't believe that a loving god would.
We must be misunderstanding.
So here they are
and if a loving god
would not send them forth as flawed
that took me to the thought
maybe they aren't flawed.
Maybe they're different but not flawed.
And then I thought about
the basis of human interaction
and how important communication is
and I thought what if this loving god
has sent forth these children
who are different
to communicate in an evolved
and expanded way?
Yes.
What if
they have the ability
to move beyond word?
And then say
I always thought that
human was the most advanced of all
and my dog who often knows
exactly what I'm thinking
very rarely says it right out loud
in a way that anyone else can understand
and nobody ever wants to believe
that the dog is more advanced than me
and that tripped me up
because when the children couldn't talk
I thought they must be less advanced
like the dog
not more advanced in some way
and I think that's
where I got off in my thinking.
And once I crossed that milestone
once I realized that it is possible
for this loving god to have sent forth
these magnificent children
and that they may very well be advanced -
once I started -
once the idea occurred to me
that they are advanced not less than
now I wanted to begin to explore
the possibility of that
and I began watching them.
And I thought
what is it that all of us want?
Whether it is a pile of money
or a relationship or an experience
or any circumstance of event -
Why do we want the things we want?
And I thought
we want them because we think
we'll be happier in having them.
And then I looked at these children
and I've got to tell you
that aside from the frustration
that is fostered in them
from trying to get them to do things
that they can not easily do
they are mostly happy children.
And I thought they are
they are advanced.
They have come forth understanding
something that many of us
want to understand.
They have a bead on happiness.
And then you can leave it there
at first.
You can say
so now my quest -
I can feel that my mission -
the goal that I have set for myself -
I'm going to explore these children
from the premise that they are advanced
not flawed.
I'm going to explore these children
from the premise
that they have something to teach us
not that they are inferior
and need teaching from us.
That's the stance I'm taking
and then begin to tell this story
and this story and this story
of this little one and this little one
and his relationship with his mother
and what it was like before
and now what it's like
and how they are communicating
and what a wonderful world it is
and it is our promise to you
that once they get the vibration
square between them
the words will come.
Yes.
But the words are not going to come
until the vibration
is lined up you see.
When you demand words
without vibration being lined up
you're not going to get it.
You'll have the success
that you're looking for
and they will not shun you.
They will put you on a pedestal
and they will say
you figured it out.
It's mind boggling.
It changes our whole notion
of what is intelligence
and what is learning.
It is at the fundamental understanding
of what is human.
Those are perfect words.
It changes your
fundamental understanding of
communication as well.
Because you think you're
communicating through words
but you are not.
You are communicating
through attitude.
You can't be mad at someone
and use flowery smiley words
and communicate anything other
than that you are mad at them
because your vibration
is much much bigger
than your words.
And you live in a society
and most of those people that you know
and all of those teachers
they are hypocritical
they are phonies.
This is what is
sending the children crazy.
Mothers say
don't you know I love you?
When there is no love
in her vibration whatsoever
you see.
Good time for
segment of refreshment.
Thank you.