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- [Instructor] Hey, Psych2Goers
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Do people describe you as kind and compassionate?
Near the top of every list describing what everyone wants
as a part of their personality
is to be someone who has a good heart.
That's because the most amicable people have a kind
and compassionate heart,
that radiates joy to those around them.
Nobody can resist someone who is consistently gentle,
(indistinct) and accepting,
but sometimes it could be possible that you're not aware
you're a kindhearted person.
After all, it's a difficult thing to assess.
So if you're unsure, here are 10 signs,
you are genuinely kindhearted.
Number one, you value life more than material things.
Are you more excited at the prospect of having
new experiences rather than gaining new things?
Oftentimes people tend to hoard expensive things
because they believe that the more expensive the item,
the more happiness that will bring them,
but this means that they based their worth
on external items, kind hearted people on the other hand,
know that your happiness comes from within
and from the simple pleasures that make life rich,
like friends, family, and a sense of purpose in life,
for you, the importance of others is not measured
by how much cash they have in their wallets,
but by how much experience they have in their hearts.
Number two, you don't pick sides.
Do you find yourself getting sucked
into other people's drama?
Kindhearted individuals always wanna help everyone out
because of this,
you believe that there are always two sides to a story
and will refuse to pick a side
without knowing fully what happened.
Toxic people will often try to use
your kindness against you.
So, it's important that you are careful
to avoid participating in hateful conversations.
Number three, you're kind to everyone.
Can you see people for who they truly are
and treat them with equal kindness?
A major sign that you're kindhearted
is if you can show your respect and kindness
to everyone and anyone,
this may mean respecting the desires and views
of other people, taking a sincere interest in their lives
or supporting them when they're feeling down.
This isn't a way for you to show off or to look better.
It's a habit of wanting to treat others the way
you would wanna be treated yourself
with kindness and respect.
Number four, you go that extra mile.
Are you always helping others out?
Whether it's staying to clean up after an event,
spending time to make sure things are properly done
or helping someone in need.
You will go the extra mile for other people.
For many individuals in our fast paced world,
time is the most valuable commodity.
So it speaks volumes,
when you're willing to spend a weekend helping a friend
or doing yard work for an elderly neighbor.
Number five, you always want to understand others.
You try to learn about the world as much as possible,
whether it's listening to the stories of your elders,
traveling or exploring different cultures.
You're always trying to learn something new
to better yourself, kind and wise people
are never too smart to learn.
This love of learning may be what's pushing you to read,
study, or find experiences that enable you to develop
and extend your understanding of the life around you.
Number six, you don't pass judgment.
Are you able to see things from different points of view?
Another sign that you're kindhearted
is if you have an open mind,
you'll keep all your thoughts and opinions aside
and listen to people attentively with no judgments.
This doesn't require you to believe or condone what they do,
it simply implies that you avoid passing judgment
long enough to appreciate who they are.
Keeping an open mind, also allows you to learn about
new and different ideas, and to see the world removed
from preconceived ideas and judgments.
Number seven, you treat others with respect.
Do you treat everyone around you with equal respect
and decency?
Whether they're a stranger, someone you know,
young or old, you treat everyone with respect.
A kind person will be courteous
and thoughtful to their family, friends, and even strangers
after all it takes true kindness
and generosity to encourage others,
even in the worst of situations
to retain a sense of dignity.
Number eight, you value yourself.
Have you set boundaries for your relationships
while you do care and value other people,
you know, not to do it at the cost of yourself.
One of the clear signs that you are a kind individual
is that you don't allow others to walk all over you.
A good heart comes from a strong heart.
So while you're willing to struggle financially
with someone for the greater good,
you're also going to insist
on being part of the (indistinct) they help create.
Number nine, you compliment others when deserved,
complementing is not only a good way
to brighten someone's mood, but also a sign
that you can be excited about other people's triumphs.
Kindhearted individuals see the good in other people
and will often offer the spark that may just help someone
achieve their true potential.
This means you're willing to show sincere appreciation
for hard work and extra effort.
You give compliments when it's deserved.
And after constructive criticism, when it's warranted.
And number 10, you are trustworthy.
Do your do or say things that are sincere?
Another sign that you are genuinely kindhearted
is when you're reliable and trustworthy.
Even if it may be difficult to say or do,
other people can depend on you for your honesty
and level headedness in every situation.
You are firmly grounded in reality,
and are truly present at every moment
because you aren't trying to work out a personal agenda
or thinking about personal gain or profit.
Do you know someone who is genuinely kindhearted?
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