Hey girls, it's Mark here from Make Him Yours. Today, I'm going to help you handle that really
tricky dating situation. What to do when a guy says he needs space. There's a simple
answer. I'm going to give you a five step process. Stick around. I'll see you very soon.
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Alright girls, so you're guy has told you he needs space. What do you do in this situation?
What does it mean for you, for your relationship? I'm going to explain from the mind of a guy
what it means when we say we need space and give you a five step process to allow you
to deal with it so you know exactly what to do and exactly how to handle that situation.
Number one, don't hassle or pester him. When a guy has said he needs space, when we as
guys need our space, it means we need our space. I mean you can check in and just go,
is everything okay? But even if it's something external to the relationship, you can't know.
It could be relationship based, it could be money, work, other stuff could be stressing
him out. If he says he needs space, it means he doesn't want your help dealing with it.
Men sometimes need to recoil to do their own thing, to feel sufficient themselves, and
then they're going to come back to you. But if you chase him, he's just going to keep
backing off and backing off. So by all means, ask if he's okay, but the more you hustle
and the more he pesters, the more it's gonna make him want to push back. Number two, reduce
your investment in him. Now, this sounds bad or manipulative, but the fact is you invest
in someone who invests in you and you don't invest in someone who doesn't invest in you.
That's the definition of self-esteem. So you want to dial back your investment in him a
little bit, which leads to step number three. Remember the girl you were before you started
dating? So forget the latest drama. Forget whatever's going on and how it's been lately,
where it got to the point where he said he needed space.
Remember the girl you were at, the start of the relationship, how fun and flirty you were,
how attractive you were in your own world, how much you believed in yourself. You want
to take this time where you're giving each other a bit of space to become that girl again.
And that's step number four, become the way, do the things be who you were when you first
started dating. You want to focus on yourself and that's going to allow you to build yourself
back up and remember that you have value too and you're amazing to date and any guy would
be lucky to have you and that if he doesn't want that back, if he wants to keep his space
and he wants to keep walking away, that is his loss. You don't have to, you don't have
to worry about that. It allows you time to focus on yourself and what that does, it rebuilds
you and your self esteem to remember that you have value too.
You have value outside of this relationship. You have value to guys that would want to
date you. You are a great person, and if a guy doesn't want to invest in you, then you're
not going to invest back in him because you have more self esteem than that. Ultimately
it might sound like that's going to ruin your relationship, but it's not. What it's gonna
do, it's gonna give the guy space and it's going to lean into step five, which is let
him come back to you. When you're just focusing on yourself, when you're being yourself, he's
going to deal his shit and then he's going to come back to you and he's going to feel
safe and he's not going to feel chased by you and you know what? If he doesn't come
back, it's his loss. Most of the time he is going to come back, but if he doesn't, it's
his loss.
There was something wrong fundamentally with the relationship you're going to move on.
I'll track a video on how to handle rejection at the end of this for you. Honestly, most
of the time if you give a guy his space and you just focus on yourself, sooner or later,
he's going to deal with it and he's going to come back to you. The worst thing you can
do is hustle. Girls, I hope that gives you an idea on how to handle it. When your guy
says he needs space, it sounds like a real kind of disastrous thing for a guy to say
but honestly, it's not. He'll usually come back to you the vast majority of the time,
but you have to give him that space. Thanks ladies. Did this work for you? Did it not?
Let me know in the comments. I love to hear how you handled the situation and what your
experiences have been.
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to handle it. Hey guys, it's Mark here from making yours today. I'm going to, at this.