If I asked you the question, "What does Meghan Markle have in common with Amber Heard"?
I'm sure that the word 'narcissism' will pop up more than a couple times.
And I was talking in another video about the types of narcissism and someone suggested
that I make one about this classification.
But then, I had a better idea.
I'm going to describe the 3 most common types of narcissism, and then YOU are going to say
which one of these women fit, so to speak, with each description.
And I already mentioned Amber Heard and Meghan Markle, but...
I'm adding a third, secret person that I will be revealing later.
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The most important thing to know about narcissism is that we're talking about a spectrum.
A long line that goes from being a regular asshole, all the way to batshit DICtator.
So... even if we like to classify and fit people in certain categories, it will always
be a fluid tag, so keep that in mind.
Now, many specialists have their own classifications of this scale, but I'm going to break it down
to three so it's easier for all of us.
And the first one is going to be the passive narcissist.
The passive narcissist doesn't really want to rule the world, doesn't want followers...
and most probably is not interested in fame or recognition.
Now, there's one thing they want above all things: and that is attention from a very
limited circle of people.
The perfect example can be a narcissistic mother that is constantly making her sons
and daughters to feel guilt and uses passive aggressive manipulation.
She could say "When you talk to me like that, my chest begins to hurt... you know that my
heart is weak", and things like that.
It can be confusing because you might believe that a narcissist demands attention from anyone
in society.
But this kind of passive narcissists can be absolute hermits, not interested in any kind
of public recognition but they do want to have all the attention of their "loved" ones.
If this kind of narcissists ever demand attention from the public, is just to embarrass you.
I recall the anecdote of Michael Landon's mother, that she used to embarrass him by
putting the bed sheets that he peed at night, she put them to dry in front of the house
for everyone to see.
And when he got out of school, he had to run back home to take the sheets off so his friends
did not see them.
Speaking of friends, you might have one of those friends that you suggest to go watch
a movie and... it has to be the movie they want, or else they are not going, and... hey,
you know what? you have to pick them up, and maybe buy some popcorn for them because they
forgot their wallet, and so on.
And don't get me started on passive aggressive coworkers that just make your life miserable.
But moving on, we get to the second type that is one that you might know very well:
The Grandiose Narcissist.
I also call them 'classic narcissists' because they have the well known delusions of being
special, they love the praise, they love the recognition, they simply cannot stand any
kind of criticism, they have a really bad ego problem and they are not satisfied with
anything.
While the passive narcissist usually focuses on their immediate circle, the Grandiose Narcissist
is always going to look for new targets.
And they will milk those targets until they no longer serve any purpose.
In this regard, there are pros and cons to dealing with them.
If they can't get much value from you, they will discard you rather quickly.
And that's good, because the more time you spend in any kind of relationship with them,
the worse it is for your mental health.
The problem is when they set their sights on a target that has a huge value potential
for them.
Maybe it's money, or power, or much much better: status.
They love being with someone that gives them status.
Maybe even a title, if you know what I mean, and in those cases they will prolong the relationship
as much as they can to keep the perks of being with that target.
You don't want to be that kind of target.
Your life would be absolutely destroyed.
And it helps a lot to learn to detect intentions, so I suggest you download my 100+ body language
tips, right in the description of this video.
But if you're not in that category, if you're not a high value target for a Grandiose narcissist,
you really don't have much to fear because they only crave for attention and acceptance.
It's not like they are going to proactively put people in danger to achieve what they
want.
And that's when we arrive at the third kind of narcissist in this scale.
The malignant narcissist.
This is the highest tier, and the ones that yes, will openly put people in danger, in
the most reckless way that you can imagine, to get what they want.
This kind of narcissists most probably are psychopaths, as oppossed to sociopaths.
Remember that Sociopaths are created by nurturing, psychopaths are just born that way.
And that's why they become the most dangerous breed because there is no empathy or remorse,
or anything towards other human beings.
These are the ones that not only want to be praised; that's not enough for them.
At the same time they want others to suffer.
And the more they escalate that sadistic game, the more rush they get from it.
Yeah, we are talking about "Gone Girl" level narcisssism.
But I had mentioned Amber Heard and Meghan Markle at the start of this video.
Given all these three classifications, where do you think they could 'fit'?
It would be great if you pause the video now, comment and then resume for my answer.
Well, let's go first with Amber.
In my opinion, and this is absolutely no diagnosis, It's just a plain, personal opinion based
on what we've seen in her case with Johhny Depp, I think she's a blend between a passive
and a grandiose narcissist.
Because, I'm sure her career was boosted when she married Johnny, but I don't see like that
was her main goal.
It looks like she was more interested in controlling Johnny.
I mean, there's this man that everyone loves, well... guess what?
I want to control him.
I want to have him under my thumb.
I want his time, his attention, his energy.
Drain him emotionally.
That's what passive narcissists do.
Now, when it's Meghan's turn, there are so many signals that she's a classic grandiose
narcissist.
Specially about that "NON interest in titles", trying to sell the narrative that she's a
woman that raised herself, and demanding attention and flair to her quest for privacy and a 'normal
life'.
If that can possibly make sense.
But there's a silver lining.
And it's that, besides Harry... who sometimes looks like he's confined in an Al Qaeda bunker,
she hasn't actually harmed anyone in her quest.
And that's what leads us to today's secret guest: Elizabeth Holmes.
Most probably, you already know about the Theranos fiasco, in which she used her VERY
SUSPICIOUS DEEP VOICE and her Steve Jobs turtlenecks to mesmerize slimy old investors looking for
the next Facebook.
And in that fraud, she went as far as to pushing bogus blood testing inside pharmacies, effectively
putting thousands of lives at risk.
The closest that Meghan has been to that level of VIllainy is forcing children to read The
Bench.
My intention with this kind of videos is try to Illustrate that there are many types of
narcissists, and your best bet is not becoming a target.
Because if you do, it's going to take a lot of energy to get off those toxic relationships,
and THAT is, if you understand the gravity of your situation in the first place.
I think it's always important to remind you that this kind of people will make sure you
feel guilty for any decision that might lead to dissolving your links with them.
So, if constant arguments leave you feeling guilty, confused and emotionally spent, that's
a very dangerous red flag that you should address as soon as possible.
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