Heya playa, did you ever want to ask someone out on a date only to hold
yourself back because you felt like it might just end up being too expensive?
Maybe you wanted to go watch a movie with them or go out for a nice romantic dinner
but then you looked in your wallet and realized you're broke as hell.
Don't worry, I'm going to share a few secret tips that's going to allow you to
confidently ask them out while also creating a magical date night experience for free.
Typically when we think of the average date they usually fall into one of three categories:
food, entertainment, or some type of activity.
And that plays out as maybe going to a restaurant, taking them to the movies,
or doing something fun like bowling or rock climbing.
And each of these things while great date ideas can be kind of expensive so what you really want
to start doing is thinking of free activities that exist around you that you can build up hype for.
Building up hype is going to be the key piece here because just simply mentioning something
and then kind of letting it be isn't really going to get them all too excited.
You want them to be in the state of mind that this
free activity is something that they're really going to enjoy.
"Hey, any ideas for our date on Friday night?"
"Definitely since it's our first date though I really want to see how we get along so I have
a really really fun idea. I want to take you to this festival that I've gone to in the past years,
trust me they have the best greasy food ever and the music is so bad we
can just sit there and make fun of it all day. What do you say greasy food?
"I'm down for that. Is this going to be like a bunch of old men
up on stage reliving their youth and playing a bunch of classic songs
really really badly because if it is this is going to be so much fun."
The hype you build around an experience is what's going to make it really stand out for them.
If they see that you're super excited about it, that's going to rub off on them.
They're going to start to be curious as to what's going to be so much fun about it.
And this is where you need to start to get a bit creative,
look for local things around you that are free.
Maybe it's a festival in your area or something's happening in the park
or there's a sports game playing you can go watch with them.
Think of all the different things that are just
happening out in public and really build that hype.
If you really want to take them out to eat though and you got nothing in your wallet,
stop thinking about restaurants and fast food places as ways to impress them.
Start thinking about taking food from home and having yourself a little picnic in the park.
This may sound a bit cheap but trust me it's going to come off as way more thoughtful and romantic.
Taking time to prepare food for the two of you to eat, bringing specific things that they may like,
getting sandwiches ready, bringing drinks, and bringing all together in a little cooler
is going to show them that you're really really thoughtful when it comes to your time with them.
When you're broke you do what you can, plus it's way too basic to walk into a
restaurant and sit down and eat or to go up to a counter at a fast food place and say
"uhh we're gonna get a number 4"
Your home groceries are always going to end up costing you less in the long run than going
out to eat every single time with them so get creative with what you can pull from your fridge.
Grab some fruits and slice them up, grab some snacks and put them in little Ziploc bags,
wrap up your sandwiches in aluminum foil and just go out on that picnic date.
Plus there's something nice about finding a shady spot under a tree, folding out your
blanket on the tall grass, and just sitting, talking, and eating with that person.
You don't have to sit there nervously and anxiously waiting for the waiter to bring you
the check so you can sit there open up your wallet and go how am I gonna pay for this.
And I have to say this because it's perhaps the most important
piece of advice I'm gonna give you here.
Be honest about what you're dealing with.
Now I don't recommend walking up to them and saying I'm broke, I ain't got no money,
but you might want to let them know that you're in budget mode.
That you really want to get to know them better you want to see where things can progress
but you really can't go on expensive dates right now.
This is going to help save you time and heartbreak
because if you pretend like you have money to do these things.
If you're struggling and bending over backward just to impress this person
that's the standard you're setting for them so if you dip below that standard
they're gonna be all like shocked Pikachu face and not really know how to respond.
Also, you avoid investing in someone that may be a
little bit more high maintenance than what you can actually offer.
Instead, you're going to attract people that are more down-to-earth.
That understand where you're coming from and are willing to work with you at that level.
"Those bands at the festival last week were horrible. I had such a
good time. What do you want to do next week?"
"I could not agree with you more. I had such a good time with you and I definitely want
to go out again but right now I'm in a spot where I'm trying to save up a bit of money.
But I had a really awesome idea. So, I pack the best picnic basket ever the question really is,
do you like peanut butter and jelly sandwiches?"
"Oh okay well thanks for being honest with me and the answer is yes.
As long as you cut the crust off."
"Do I cut the crust off? Of course, I do... Mental note, cut the crust off."
Now if the person you're talking to has a totally different concept
of how dates should work out, that's okay too.
Everyone has different preferences and perspectives on what dates should look like.
Here's an example, my friend asked this girl out on Tinder on a super casual date. A walk
in the park, time to get to know each other and just talk but she flat out told him,
yeah, I wear heels on dates and I'm not going to walk on grass in heels
so if you want to go on a date with me ask me out to a restaurant and we can do that.
Now look, it might have come off kind of strong but she was being forward about what she wants.
Both of them have different perspectives of how a first state should go and that's okay.
Ultimately the best thing you can do is to try to find someone that accepts you for you.
So if you're in a place where you don't really have a lot of money, that's okay.
You could still provide an amazing date experience that doesn't cost anything.
Actually, I found a dollar.
I'm rich, I'm rich.
Okay, anyway on that note guys, I'll catch you next time.
As always, love and peace.