[MUSIC PLAYING]
Do you want your yogurt, yes or no?
Uh, ah, this.
You need to sit in your chair if you want it.
[SCREAMS] [CRIES]
Hey, look at me.
Look, look, look.
Look at me.
Rio, you need to sit in your seat if you want yogurt.
OK? Let's sit.
No!
[MUSIC PLAYING]
Rio has learned how to have mock
tantrums to get her own way, which is
the full-blown crocodile tears.
A lot of children succeed with this behavior
because parents give in.
This, for me, is something that needs to be resolved.
[CRIES]
Here, look.
Uh, [INAUDIBLE] over there, and carry on with the baby
'cause this is a mock tantrum.
[MUSIC PLAYING] - [CRIES]
And if she carries on crying--
right?
Then take the yogurt away from her and take her off her seat
and carry on feeding the babies.
[INAUDIBLE]
Get her up.
[CRIES]
Now she's just fussy.
[MUSIC PLAYING]
[SCREAMING AND CRYING]
No, no, listen.
Listen, listen.
Hey!
Timeout.
Everybody's crying, but recognize--
[MUSIC PLAYING]
--it's communication.
[CRIES]
Rio-- she wants--
she wanted to sit there, but we're
teaching her food happens here.
If you want it, these are the rules.
You've got to have it here, right?
Yeah.
Simple as that.
So this is just a mock tantrum which, by the looks of it,
is gonna roll into bedtime as she's showing [INAUDIBLE] now.
Yeah, she's [INAUDIBLE].
When you're ready and she needs to go to sleep,
you're running a bit early, aren't you?
Yeah, we did lunch a little bit early
'cause she was pretty ready.
So then-- so then you're--
push it up slightly early, right?
- Yeah. - The routine is flexi.
Yeah.
[MUSIC PLAYING]
Routines are cornerstones for families,
but we have to be flexible.
It's not just about following a schedule,
but actually learning to become more in tune
with your children.
Remember, don't try and control the crying.
Mhm.
But know why the crying is happening or the noise.
[CRIES]
In a scenario where Justin wasn't here--
Mhm.
--and that was happening, you see how there's no reasoning?
Yeah.
You will never ever--
Yeah.
You may try and distract her, but
that's not happening with Rio.
Yeah, no.
So at that moment, you come out
and you put her to bed because you know--
Yes, she's so tired, yeah.
--that your routine's gone up lightly, and you put her down.
As if Dad's at work--
Let's go. [MUSIC PLAYING]
--and you're doing lunchtime.
OK.
All right?
All right, yeah.
Listen to me.
OK.
Remember we're high energy when they're all crying.
You got this.
All right, let's do it.
OK.
OK, you ready?
[CRIES]
You're gonna take big boy bites.
I want the routine to simplify the day for this mum
because she's gonna be with all of 'em, and she needs to feel
good in herself that she can actually handle
it and do what's necessary.
[MUSIC PLAYING]
[LAUGHS]
Sass.
Mum.
Chicken down.
Now, we need two more veggies.
Whoa.
Atta boy!
That's it.
You take a bite and show me your empty mouth.
Amy's really great at giving that positive praise when Jet
is doing as he's told, but Rio is showing real defiance,
and that's where Amy needs to get a lot firmer.
Rio, look at Mommy.
Rio.
Yeah, you need the eye contact.
Look at me. Look at me.
You're not done with dinner yet.
So, Mum, tone.
As long as you're still, like, soft with her--
Mhm.
--this one will run you amok.
I need you to take another bite.
OK?
[MUSIC PLAYING]
Rio, it's not a game.
You-- your plate stays here.
Don't hold onto that plate.
OK.
It literally-- it's here.
You put her hands down.
OK.
Rio, look at me.
Stop it.
[CRIES]
It stays there.
You see that tone?
Mhm, mhm.
I'm not messing around.
Yeah.
Amy got into this place because she lets the kids lead,
and she lacks confidence in her parenting.
She has to be able to use a tone that shows very firmly
that she sets the agenda.
[CRIES]
[MUSIC PLAYING]
She can't get away with everything
for the rest of her life-- - Mhm.
--because of--
Mhm.
--an accident.
All right?
So it's look at Mummy.
Plate stays here.
Hey, look at me.
The plate stays here.
You don't touch it.
You want your spoon?
OK.
Unless you're gonna use your spoon to eat,
then you don't touch it.
OK.
Then leave it.
Ignore her, carry on.
[MUSIC PLAYING]
Take a bite.
Ah, num, num, num, num.
All right, she's eating.
All right, good.
Yes, yes, yes, good girl!
[LAUGHS]
[MUSIC PLAYING]
You took a bite, good girl.
All right, that's what Mummy wants to see.
Good job, sissy.
Here come the airplane.
[LAUGHS] Here comes the airplane.
[GASP]
Does that mean we're done?
Yeah!
I think we're done.
Amy, you did amazing.
You did--
[LAUGHS]
--amazing!
I really did.
[LAUGHS]
This is what feeding four kids under the age of four looks
like.