Hey guys it's Hillary! Welcome back to my channel Enneagram and Coaching I'm your certified
Enneagram Life Coach that loves to teach you guys an easy way to understand the enneagram and today
I'm going to be teaching you guys the subtypes of the type 5 "The Observer" but before we get started
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it let's go ahead and get started into what this video is about today. Okay so what is a subtype?
So say you're a type 5 um you have your type all then you have your wings and then you have
your three subtypes which means each type has three instincts does that make sense and one
of those instincts is dominant so you might have heard the term before sp so and sx, that's what
that means those are your instincts and i'm going to describe those in even more detail so okay are
you following me take notes because this is a lot of information that's going to be coming your way
but let's start with you have the three instincts and these are based off the three
primary instincts that motivate a person's behavior so each person has three primary
instincts that motivate them and so you have the sp which is called self-preservation instinct
and you have the so and then it's called social instinct and you have the sx and that is called
sexual instinct but you also might have heard that one called one -to-one instinct. Is this making
sense so far? And you might have heard before you know I'm a five but I'm a social five or I'm a
five and i'm a self preservation five or sexual five that is why they're saying that it's those
instincts that is what that means and so each of the type fives are going to have a different set
of concerns based on their dominant instinct and of those three subtypes are three instincts one is
going to be dominant and this is the one that you learned in childhood to mostly rely on the second
one is used but not as much so you haven't had to rely on that instinct as much throughout your life
and then the third instinct is usually a blind spot you might not have used it at all or you're
blind to using it so that's what we say you have a dominant instinct one that that one that you
you mostly have used throughout your life and then the second instinct you use
you know if the first one you don't need then the second one kind of comes in and then the third
one's usually blind but not always some people can use all three so does that make sense so far
you have three instincts one you've used a lot throughout your life the second one you haven't
had to use as much but you've definitely used it so it's developed and the third one might
not need to be developed throughout your life and it's a blind spot okay so let's move on to what
are the instincts what are those i want to break the instincts down before we go into what are the
subtypes of the five the first instinct is called self-preservation and that one would be labeled sp
and what that means their main priority is having and maintaining physical safety and comfort and
this this is an instinct right and a lot of people this is a common instinct it's you know concerns
with food money clothing housing your health you know stuff like that that's kind of a concern
that's an instinct in us when healthy this this dominant instinct will look like they are able
to take care of themselves and their their basic life necessities so they're able to do all of that
it's an instinct in them right and not everybody has this instinct and if it's a blind spot so it's
an instinct you really haven't needed in life or you haven't used it all this means that the that
that the basics to you don't come naturally it might not necessarily occur to the person that
they need to eat and sleep now they're going to but it's not their first instinct they might
go and go and go and be stay busy and do all this stuff and stay up late and you know getting things
done but they forget they're like oh my gosh it's two in the morning i haven't even went to sleep
or you know or i haven't even eaten all day that's an instinct in us that tells us um
you know that's an instinct in us that gets developed and and so if you know it's not
your first instinct that doesn't mean it's like bad it just might not be your first instinct so
let's move on to what the second instinct is and that is a social instinct and this social instinct
is labeled SO this instinct helps us be aware of other people and they'll usually have a desire to
be liked they'll want approval of people you know they'll feel safe with other people social types
are gonna want to have a positive impact on other people and if this instinct hasn't been developed
and it's more of your blind spot it'll look like you might have little interaction with others you
might feel like you don't need people people don't need you maybe this is just an instinct that you
haven't that hasn't been developed yet and then moving on to the last instinct which is called
sexual instinct or labeled SX or also called one-to-one this one's super aware of the
chemistry between them and another person so that's the instinct so the first one you're
aware of like your surroundings right the second instinct you're aware of all the people around you
and then this third instinct is you're aware of the other person you have that one-to-one intimate
chemistry you're more aware of that especially if this is your dominant instinct this instinct seeks
intense contact this might look like jumping out of a plane or doing something crazy or watching a
i don't even know an intense movie or um reading a book that's really amazing but it's it's very
intense or or just exciting this instinct just loves intensity in their life and they gravitate
towards people they feel chemistry with and if this one if this instinct is the least developed
and like i said on the other two maybe it's your blind spot what that would look like is you might
have a harder time getting excited or enthusiastic about other things in your life okay to sum it up
all three instincts they're good instincts you know one is no better than the other you need
all three to survive in life but just like I've said I feel like I'm kind of a broken record one
is dominant it's used mostly in your life the second one is used a little bit in your life and
the third one maybe not at all or a blind spot so let's move into what are sub types so if you have
the five the subtype of the five would be s p s o or s x that's why it's a subtype let's go ahead
and dig into the self preservation five so this subtype most looks like the type five this is like
when you think of a type 5 it's usually you're thinking of a self-preservation 5. this subtype
is very aware of their own boundaries they want the most space they're not going to be shy about
asking for it they need to have a place of safety that they can retreat to i've heard
that the self-preservation five um is the loner of the enneagram out of all the types this one
is the needs the most solitude because why people can easily overwhelm them and drain them of energy
they have peace the most when they have limited obligations and can be on their own schedule and
stay home their home is their castle and what this means to them is it is their safe place the place
that they can tune out the world and not have to depend on anyone for their survival now they do
enjoy the company of a few people usually people that are like-minded or people that have earned
their trust they are just more warm and friendly with these people all right so that's a little bit
about the self-preservation five let's move on to the social five what does that look like so
this one is the most intellectual five the search for knowledge for them is power that's why they're
searching for knowledge because of the power behind it this one is looking for the ultimate
meaning in life they're always searching for the meaning of life i would say out of the three
subtypes of the five this is the most extroverted and social five that there is but usually with
people that share their interest so they're extroverted and social but a lot of times it's
with people who share common interests so we know that five's basic weakness is avarice which means
they keep their knowledge to themselves they will hold on to their resources because they are afraid
in the end of catastrophic depletion but the social five will actually share their knowledge
values and ideals but not their space time and resources does that make sense they are they are
way more willing to share um their knowledge but maybe not share everything and social fives can
be fun and engaging they definitely do seek recognition and prestige so that's a little
bit about the social five let's move on to the last one the sexual five or the one to one five
and the letters for that one is s x this five is more intense and romantic and emotionally
sensitive they're going to be searching for a more idolized version of a relationship
and love and this can be a source of meaning in their life they are going to want to love and
trust an ideal partner but are still going to want that relationship to be private because in the end
the type 5s they are private people so this the one to one five or the sexual five they're very
one-to-one oriented and this can actually be with a relationship a friend or even a task so
like and what this looks like so if they're in a relationship they're gonna share their the deepest
parts of them with them they're way more of that one-to-one connection and with their friendships
they're going to have amazing deep conversations they're going to go there they they really want
to go to those deeper places and then with like skills and tasks they're going to put everything
they have in it they're going to get lost in it this this can go on for hours and hours and hours
that one-on-one with the skill or the task or the researching or figuring out stuff you know that's
that that's where that intensity comes from and they can do it for long periods of time and so
that is the three subtypes of the type five which each subtype is an instinct does it i hope that
makes sense by the end of this um i hope that this was easy to digest and that you understood
um but yeah where do you guys find yourself if you're a type 5 did this help you figure
out your subtype if if it did leave it in the comments below i'd love to know what your subtype
is and if you'd add anything to it you know if you're like i'm an sp i'm a self-preservation
five but that looks a little bit more like this in my life let me know in the comments below let
us learn from each other but that's all i have for today guys thank you so much for watching i really
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