Heya playa, divorce is a difficult subject to talk about because it might stir up feelings
that you don't want to think about but, I think it's important for us to address it.
To talk about this major change happening in your life and how to prepare yourself.
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And when it comes to dealing with your parents getting divorced it's not an easy feeling
to kind of really look at.
You might feel sad or hurt or angry or even to some extent relieved your parents are getting
divorced.
It can stir up a lot of different feelings in a lot of different people.
So I want you to think about the feelings that you're experiencing.
You might sometimes feel like if only you had done more you could have kept your parents
from getting divorced.
If you had sat and talked with them, if you had helped them work through their problems
you personally could have kept them together which is not true.
Divorce rarely comes from an overnight decision, it's usually compounded on top of events and
things that happened or didn't happen throughout the course of the relationship.
Sometimes it can be difficult to look at our parents as two people involved in a relationship
trying to make it work.
We might just look at them as our parents and they have everything figured out but they're
people too.
They can feel insecure, they can have trouble communicating with each other and they can
have the desire to want to be recognized and feel loved by the other partner but in this
instance, part of the reason why they're getting divorced is because some type of feelings
are not being met.
And that's something that you don't have control over.
As partners, they have to figure it out on their own.
And one of the major concerns about the fallout of a divorce is what's gonna happen to our
family?
Are things going to be like they used to or are the gonna be totally different now?
And that all depends on how your parents really want to work things out.
Some parents want to remain as co-parents and both be involved in your life, sometimes
one parent feels like they need to go off on their own and do their own thing, and then
in other instances, both parents are both actively in your life.
Sometimes still living together while being divorced.
There's not exactly a right way to handle divorce but you being the child of both of
your parents, the best thing you can do is to communicate with them how you feel and
what you hope and expect from each of them.
I think a divorce within a family really forces everyone to really evaluate and accept the
fact that everyone really has their own thoughts and feelings here and everyone should be listened
to.
And while parents might not always explain all of the details to you while it's happening,
one thing that's important to remember is that it's not your fault for them getting
divorced.
They're not doing it because they're angry with you and want to ruin your life in some
way, alot of times parents are very concerned with how their children are gonna take it
but being the fact that they're people too, they don't always know how to express that.
So what do you do?
How do you make sense of it all and manage these feelings that just keep weighing you
down?
Well the most important thing for you to do is to talk to each and every single member
of your family.
Explain to them how you're feeling and learn how they're feeling as well.
On top of that, you may also want to speak to your school counselor.
They can provide lots of different resources and advice to help you navigate the situation
in real time there with you.
I know sometimes it may feel like you're the only person going through this major change
in your life but I want to assure you that you're not alone.
There are plenty of other people that have dealt with divorces in their families, and
despite that they stil grow up to be happy, healthy and loveable as people.
And now I want to know, what are your thoughts on divorce?
Are your parents currently going through it?
Did they already go through a divorce?
Do you know someone that has been through it?
Any information and insight that you have from your own experience share it in the comments
section below and we'll talk about it.
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On that note, I'll catch you tomorrow.
As always, love and peace.