Many questions, I don't think one can answer with “yes” or “no”.
we have to weigh each situation and see under what situation….
But if you make such a strong decision as far as marriage is concerned, go with your own feelings.
Meaning of freedom, and should other persons be involved in making choices for us: the only freedom we have,
according to my guruji, is the freedom to do what is right.
That is the only freedom we have.
Even God cannot give you the freedom to do wrong things﹘though He is God﹘and God
cannot prevent you from doing what is right.
All these questions come to our mind because of the conflicts we have
the differences of opinions we have with the
people whom we are consulting for making the decision.
If you are asking a question or you are consulting someone in a bus or a train, their opinion may not matter much.
But when you ask your mother, when you ask your father, then their opinions matter a lot
because then you want to make them happy as well.
You love someone, for example, and your father or mother finds out that he belongs or she
belongs to a different caste, or that person doesn't have the same social status as yours.
Many problems can arise.
But for you, you love that person.
In your heart of hearts, you have decided to marry this person.
Now, these are the difficult situations: whom to make happy?
Some families go to the extent of, “Beta, if you do this, please do not return home.
Consider us, your parents, as dead.” They blackmail you like that as well.
So, many questions, I don't think one can answer with “yes” or “no”.
We have to weigh each situation and see under what situation.
But if you make such a strong decision as far as marriage is concerned, go with your own
feelings of your heart that, “Yes, I have to marry this person.” And you marry that person.
If you don't, then imagine the consequences - you will not be happy.
The person who marries you also will not, you will not be able to make the other person happy.
Person who did not marry you, could not marry you, also is unhappy.
And whosoever that person marries is also unhappy.
So, there is a huge chain reaction of unhappiness.
It is better that two persons remain unhappy – your parents.
They have decided already that whatsoever you choose will be wrong.
But they may be right also.
We don't know.
As I was saying, each situation is different.
They understand your idiosyncrasies so well.
They have changed your diapers.
They have changed you from the moment you were born – every single day.
They know your laughter.
They know your smiles.
They know everything that you need.
So, listen to them also very carefully and then make a decision.