- This is what you do, this is safe sex.
We're demonstrating.
(laughing)
This slipped off.
(upbeat music)
Hi everybody, welcome to In The Closet??
I'm Jen, that's Niki.
We are here today to talk a little bit about safe sex.
What does that mean?
- I don't know?? - What does it mean?
- We don't know. - We're gonna find out.
- We're also speaking from personal experience, so...
I'm a lesbian, Niki's a lesbian, and we have a friend
coming to chat, her name is, the young, Kelsey.
Kelsey, do you want to come in?
- [Kelsy] Yeah!
- Just come in on through this side door right now.
Yeah, it's a tight squeeze.
- That's what she said.
(laughs)
- Hi. - It's irrelevant??
Hey buddy, how are you?
Welcome to In The Closet.
(speaking foreign language)
Also my ex-wife and friend, Kelsey.
- Ex-Wife, friend. - Yeah.
- I'm Kelsey.
I'm bi-sexual and I use she-her.
You smell nice.
- Thank you.
- You smell like laundry.
Fresh-ass laundry.
- Really?
- Yeah.
- Oh, cool.
This shirt's like three days old.
So, today we are going to talk a little bit about--
- Sex! - Yeah! (laughs)
- My favorite.
- We've all been with women.
- Oh, yeah.
- Did you ever get any idea what safe sex between women
- would look like? - No.
- No, never.
I mean in sex ed you picture in the movies
where it's a teacher with a banana
and they're sliding the condom on.
(Niki making sliding sound)
You're never taught what safe sex between women look like.
- I know what that could do is make you think
that because you're not having sex with a penis
that their are no precautions you have to take.
- [Kelsey] Totally.
- Which isn't true.
- Free-range vagina everywhere.
- Right, when you started having sex with women
did you guys think there was like any risk for STDs?
- No. - No.
- No one ever had dental dams in their side drawer
the way that people have condoms in their side drawer.
- Have you guys ever been with someone
and then just sorta pretend it's like a second mouth
and just like talk through it?
Like, it's funny. (laughter)
No, I think it's so funny every time I do it.
- Yo, I learned to have sex however the way they want
as long as it's safe.
- [Niki] Yeah, that's true.
- We keep saying dental dam, but like--
- What is that?
- I've never actually seen one.
- Right like--
- So, I've used it once. - Okay.
- She brought it up and I was like, "Sure?
"I guess I'm open to it?"
I just didn't know how it worked.
Just was all sorts of confused.
- You guys feel comfortable having the conversation
where you're like,
"Hey, when was the last time you were tested?"
- No, never.
- I've never once been able to work it in smoothly.
It's always just been like,
"All right, just one second, okay?"
- When's the last time you've been tested?
(laughter)
- Oh, maybe you can be like,
"Hey, let me just tell you,
"this is the last time that I got tested"
- Yeah, that's great!
- Cause then it puts it on you?
- Yeah, and then it's a little less...
- That is smart. - Yep.
- Moral of the story is,
it's hard to ask questions about sexual safety
and sexual health.
- But that doesn't mean you should avoid doing it.
What is a dental dam?
- So, a dental dam is simular to a latex condom.
They're for, like, if you have a vagina,
you can place this over your vulva,
and when someone goes down on you
it creates a barrier between your mouth and the vulva.
(laughs)
So like, that.
(sucking sound)
And that really is (laughs)--
- This tastes far better than a condom.
- So, if this is my vag - Then--
- And that's my bunghole.
- You can, you know--
- Reduces the risk of catching STDs
such as syphilis, gonorrhea, clymidia, herpes, and AIDS.
- Wow! - Wow.
- Why wouldn't you use that?
Why wouldn't you do that?
- Exactly.
It's doesn't eliminate the risk for it,
but it reduces the risk.
- Most importantly, I think you should just ask your doctor.
Gynecologists should have these readily available,
like take home baskets.
Like little treats.
- Kelsey, Niki, and I are going to make dental dams.
- Ah, I regret opening this.
This is so lubey.
- I know, yeah.
- Are they all like this?
- It gets all up in your cooter, too.
- It's kinda powdery.
For example, if you want to make a dental dam for oral sex,
you can--
- Use a latex glove--
- Yeah, and cut that in half.
Or, you could take a condom and cut it in half
and then pull it taut and you have--
- Taut. - [Kelsey] A good word.
- A dental dam.
- Don't use zip lock or Saran Wrap--
- Oh, yeah, no, no.
- Because they have little tiny cross sections
where diseases can get through.
So, make sure you use something that's used
for actual protection.
- Also, if you're trying to make something into a dental dam
maybe Google it first.
- We've added some links in the bio here about safe sex
which you can peruse at your leisure.
- Well, I think it's only fair
that if I have condoms in my bedside drawer,
that I should also carry some dental dams.
- Oh, yeah.
No matter what your genitalia is,
there are options that can cover you up,
make it safer,
create a barrier and--
- There's no excuses why you shouldn't be having safe sex.
- Be safe.
Take care of yourself.
Be honest.
And have fun.
- Yeah.
- Should be leave the closet, Kelsey?
- I'm gonna get the fuck out of here.
- Alright, bye!
- I'm taking these with me though.
- No, please do.
- Okay.
- I've got enough condoms, I'm taking these now.
(laughter)
- Woohoo, we did it!