This is Tripp Kramer from www.trippadvice.com. How do you talk to girls with ease and
with confidence? On today's video I'm gonna be teaching you how to do that.
Giving you a little bit more theory and of course some great practical tips that
you can use so the next time that you're talking to a girl, next time you meet a
girl, you're not freaking out so much. Let's get into it.
First things first. I made another video that I want you to watch after this one.
I'm gonna put in the description below. It talks about shyness. I know that
guys who have trouble with talking girls with confidence, with ease, it's because
they're very shy. I'll give you a little mini summary of that video, but
check out that video after this to get more details on what to do. Basically in
that video, I talk about the idea of lots of practice. There's nothing I
can say to you right now that's gonna magically just boom make you instantly
confident to go over and talk to a girl without freaking out on the inside.
That's just the reality. What you need to do is you need to be going and
talking to people and girls and strangers as much as you can. This is
what's gonna make you feel confident being able to talk to the girls and also
just feel more calm. The things that you're confident in, you're naturally more
calm. I want you to think about the fact that you need to be pushing
yourself to talk to as many people as possible. That's where the ease comes in.
Let's talk about some more things here. When it comes to feeling more
comfortable with women, I think that you need to really be outcome independent.
This is some new trending language that people are talking about especially
in the personal development world. It's that you need to make sure that when
you're going to talk to girls, that you're not outcome-focused. The reason
why guys are so scared is because all they are is focused on
whether or not the girl is gonna reject them or whether the girl is going to
eventually go home with them or give them their number or they're gonna see
the girl again. So immediately all they're thinking about
is what's gonna happen after me and her have this initial interaction? That's
where their heads at. I can guarantee if I were to magically just snap my fingers
and say you will not be thinking about what's gonna happen after the
interaction, the fear and anxiety would go away because you'd be ultimately
present and just focused on what's happening in the interaction. I want
you to be doing that. I want you to be doing that. I want you to make sure
that when you're in an interaction with a girl, don't worry too much on what's
gonna happen focus more on hey listen I'm here right now.
I'm talking to a girl. I'm making things happen. I'm pushing myself. I'm taking
action. Focus on the action aspect of it and less on where is this action gonna
bring me? I like to say trust the process. That's the biggest thing here.
That's the biggest thing I can tell anyone who's trying to learn the skill
of meeting women. Trust the process. Meaning, if you build it, it will come if
you put action into focusing on the actual interaction with the girl and not
what's gonna happen, eventually you talk to enough girls, you do this enough you
will get results. You will bring girls home, you will get
numbers, you will find a girl that's amazing, attractive and get into a
relationship if that's what you're looking for. That stuff will come. But you
need to put in the work first. This goes with anything. It's like if I were to
give you a guitar and sit you down with a guitar right now and say listen you're
not gonna play a full song right now. You're learning how to put your fingers
on the actual bridge of the guitar so of course that's not gonna happen.
So trust the process, learn the chords, put your fingers to the strings,
practice over and over, the song will come. I'm gonna give you another
technique to implement. Let's pretend that you are talking to a friend right
now. Imagine yourself talking to your friend or maybe a sibling or maybe
a parent. I'm trying to pick someone that you talked to already that you're not
thinking about the outcome. Unless you have extreme social anxiety but
that's on a very far end of the spectrum. I'd recommend seeing a psychologist
for that. But generally speaking, you don't have a lot of trouble talking to a
friend. You're just in friend mode. You're just talking to them and
conversation naturally occurs and you're not thinking about what's gonna happen
you're so in the moment focusing on what you guys are talking about there
and then. I want you to bring that energy back to you when you're talking to a
girl. It's the same exact vibe. Think about talking to her like a friend. What
is your body language like when you're talking to a friend?
What's your tone like when you're talking to a friend? Now of course
the way you talk to your friend, you're not being flirty and maybe giving
her really good eye contact, you're not
focused on having really good body language and standing up tall.
But that's okay. Let's take it one step at a time. Forget all those little details.
I'd say it's gonna be more powerful for you to be talking to a girl and being
more relaxed and at ease and just talking to her like you're talking to a
buddy. Saying the same things you would talk to a buddy about. Really draw
that energy in. What's it like. Here's what I want you to do; the next
time you're talking to a friend or sibling whoever someone that you don't
care about the outcome of the conversation ,be more present and be
aware of what's going on right now? What's my body language like? What am I
thinking? What are the things that I'm saying to this person? What's the
overall vibe I'm feeling right now? I want you to harness this vibe. I want you
to take this. I want you to remember what this is like and I want you to transport
that back to you when you are talking to a girl. Listen I get it. This is like kind
of advanced. A little bit easier said than done but I really think this is
important. Whenever I'm talking to a girl and I just want to feel at ease.
I'm kind of just trying to treat her like a friend. Like she's someone where
I don't care what happens. Like it doesn't matter what happens after
this conversation. Hey cool I end up seeing her again great.
I get her number. I never see her again. It doesn't work out, whatever. She's got a
boyfriend whatever. It doesn't matter. It doesn't matter. It truly doesn't if you
have what I call abundance mentality, being able to draw in the concept of
there's so many women out there that it doesn't matter what happens with this
one. All this being said and done, I want
you to take some of this and try to implement it. This is gonna be you
going out talking to a lot of women. Practicing this idea of you know what,
it doesn't matter what happens with her. Let's forget about the outcome, let's
just enjoy as much as you can the process. Trusting the process and at the
same time just talking to her as casually as you can like she's a friend and drawing
in that type of vibe and that type of energy when you're with her.
I have a blog post that goes even deeper into this. You're gonna want to check
that out. I'm gonna put a link down in the description below. That blog post
goes in-depth about the 7 massive keys to confidence in life so if you
want to learn more about this topic, go check that out. Link in the description.
Try some of this out. Leave a comment down below. Let me know which one of
these tips is the most helpful for you and I'll see you on the next video.