It's Tripp from TrippAdvice.com.
It is cold out.
Do I have your attention?
I hope I do.
Today, I'm going to be teaching you how to keep a girl's attention.
I know you're probably like, what do I say to girls?
How am I supposed to have a conversation with them?
How do I continue a conversation?
The best way to do that is through story.
Yes, you have stories, but you need to learn how to tell your stories.
Through this video, and it's a little bit longer than some other ones, but bear with
me and go through this whole video.
I'm going to be teaching you my story formula.
There is a formula to be able to tell a story and it's super simple.
It's a three step process.
Once you learn this, you're gonna be able to tell any story of yours, make it sound
amazing and capture her attention.
Check it out.
Storytelling is inevitably going to be coming up in all of your interactions.
It comes up not only when you meet with women, but when you're networking, when you're talking
to friends, when you're talking to family, when you're talking to strangers, anyone you're
talking to, you're going to be telling them your story.
Or maybe telling them something that happened, telling them about something in your life
that you've done or that you want to do.
These are the things that come up in the meat of conversation, the stories, the stories
of our lives, the stories that we tell ourselves.
This week I'm going to be teaching you how to tell a story.
The first thing is the attention grabber.
This is something that is going to grab their attention.
This is something that's going to get them being like whoa, this guy is about to say
something interesting.
Attention grabber might be like, you would never believe what happened to me the other
day.
Something as simple as that.
That's a good attention grabber because the way I'm saying it to you, the words, it's like,
whoa, he's got something interesting to say.
That's one example of an attention grabber.
Another example of an attention grabber might be asking them a question that's rhetorical,
meaning you're asking them a question that's not meant for them to answer.
Instead, you are going to be the one answering the question.
An example of that might be, what is the weirdest place that you've ever traveled to?
If you are talking, you can say, what's the weirdest place you've ever traveled to?
Then you're going to answer the question.
What's cool is you'll tell the story, and you'll let her answer the question as well.
It's like a two way street there.
That's another way of grabbing her attention.
If you have a crazy story, what you can do is ask this question that pertains to your
story that gets her interested.
She's thinking about it herself, he has an answer to this.
He's got a story.
She listens.
The next part that you need to learn is about details.
Whatever story it is that you have in your life, I'll go over in a little bit of what
stories are interesting to tell in general, but for now bear with me, whatever stories
that you're going to tell, this is part of the formula, you got to make sure that everything
has very specific detail.
This is gonna be something you'll have to practice a little bit.
What you want to make sure you're doing is telling every story in great detail as possible.
What's going to happen is, you might stay away from that.
A lot of guys, they end up staying away from doing that.
They think that they're rambling on too much.
They think it's overkill, but not a lot of people had trained themselves to speak in
details and speak specifically.
That is the key to telling a great story.
What are you talking about specifically?
What are the details of the story?
I want you to paint the person a picture of what's going on.
When you know the story yourself, whatever it is.
I'll just make up on right now.
Let's say you went swimming with sharks.
That was a story.
That's one crazy thing that you've done before.
When you know what it's like, you went there, you felt it, you saw it.
You know what it's all like.
To you it's a little bit more of a crazier story.
When you tell it, you might be telling it in a way that's not as detailed because you've
already filled in the details.
You got to remember that the girl that you're talking to, the person that you're talking
to, anyone have not as much detail.
All they have is to go off on what you're saying.
For example, I could tell you a story about a shark, going in front of the sharks, which
I've never done before, by the way, so I'm just making this up on the spot.
You can say, I was in the Caribbean.
There was this option to go and swim with sharks, it was crazy.
I went on this boat in the middle of the ocean.
All of a sudden we dive in and I saw a bunch of sharks.
That story is not really right, but what would be better?
Here's a little bit better version of that with better details.
You could say, I was in the Caribbean.
The reason why I was there is because I was on vacation with my family, we go every single
year.
What happened was when we were there, we saw these guys selling some cool experience, walking
on the street and selling to swim with the sharks.
I was like, this sounds awesome.
They take us and we go on this drive, on this crazy bumpy rocky road.
I had no idea where we were going.
It was totally in the middle of nowhere, but we ended up at this little lagoon that was
bluer than the sky.
I'm telling you it was the most gorgeous sky I ever saw.
It was the perfect weather to me.
It is 80 degrees outside and this big blue lagoon was sparkling.
I couldn't wait to hop in and see these crazy sharks.
We ended up going on this boat and went a little bit into the lagoon so we didn't have
to swim that far.
Once we get out there, I put on this diving clothes and flip flops, and we get into the
water.
I'm just sitting there waiting and I didn't see any sharks yet.
I saw these orange tropical fish swim by, and all of a sudden, out of nowhere, this
big shark comes darting past me.
That was me giving you an example of how you can tell a story in more detail, even that
you could probably do better but bear with me.
That is an example for now.
You see the difference between that one and the first one, way more detail.
People envisioning what's going on.
That's why stories that are written long ago are like some of the best stories ever written
in them.
Even today, they're painting the picture for you because it's not a movie.
You're reading something.
In this case, you're just hearing someone speak.
Paint the picture for them in any story that you tell.
The next one is emotions.
That's another element of storytelling that you need to put in.
A lot of people don't put any emotions.
For example, I don't know if you notice this, but the second version of the shark story
I told, I made sure not to put any emotion in it.
Just so you can see what it's like to hear a story with emotions and without emotions.
You want to make sure that you have put in this story how you're feeling and maybe how
people are feeling around you.
The way you feel is going to be crucial to the story.
When you're telling a story of people empathize with you, they feel your feelings, they relate
to you.
They hear that you felt an emotion, they're going to be able to relate, be able to understand
the story better, and picture themselves in the story like they're watching a movie.
It also grabs their attention more because emotions are what make a story interesting
and captivating.
Make them keep flowing and make you want to listen more and more.
That's why some of the best movies of all time are all about relationships, emotions,
fear, excitement, danger and all that stuff.
That's the kind of movie you want to watch.
Those are the stories that are some of the best.
I'm going to give you a little example here like the shark story.
Let's tell it again.
I'm probably gonna tell it a little bit differently than I did the last time in terms of the details.
I'm going to add in this element of emotion.
That's what I'm going to do right now.
My family goes on this vacation every year, and I get so excited to go because it's like
this one time of the year that I get to do crazy stuff with my family.
We go somewhere all over the world.
This year, we went to the Caribbean and I was pumped up so we get there.
I'll be honest with you, a lot of the things that we could do there, they didn't seem interesting.
I've been scuba diving and I've been snorkeling before.
What really caught my eye were these guys selling on the street.
They were walking through the streets of the town, and these guys were selling swimming
with the sharks.
I'll be honest with you, this actually totally freaked me out at first.
I’m not super freaked out of sharks, but I'm thinking, is this safe?
This is going to be crazy.
Even though I was a bit freaked out, I was like, fuck it.
Let's do it.
So me, my family, we signed up for it.
We're with these guys who are driving us along on this whatever this car that we're driving
on this crazy road, and I'm starting a little freaked out like, where are these guys taking
us?
Should we have signed up for this?
What's going on?
Are we really going to be swimming with the sharks?
Are they going to take us, murder us and rob us somewhere?
What the heck did we just do?
We're going along, then all of a sudden, they tell us to get out of the car and we walk
through like a forest for a second.
All of a sudden, we land in this beautiful blue lagoon.
I gasped, wow! this was absolutely beautiful.
When you see a site like that, there's something about it that totally mesmerises you.
At this point, I was so excited.
All the fear completely washed away from me.
We get in this boat and go into the lagoon a little bit offshore.
All of a sudden, the guys are like, alright, put on your stuff.
We're going in there.
I'm like, no prep?
No talk?
Are these sharks going to eat us?
What the hell is gonna happen?
We put on our stuff and jump in the water, and it goes silent.
If you’ve been underwater, you can't hear anything.
All I hear is a little bubbles coming from my mouth.
Then, out of nowhere, this big shark zooms right past me.
I felt this rush all throughout my body.
I was like, holy shit!
This is crazy!
There you go.
That's a quick example of how to add emotion into a story.
Maybe I went a little bit overkill with the details and the emotion might seem too fabricated.
I wanted to overdo it a little bit so you can get a good idea of what I mean by adding
emotions and details.
That's pretty much the story formula.
With attention grabber, lots of details and adding in emotions, I told you it wasn't going
to be that hard.
If you use those three things when telling your story, you're going to be much more captivating
and much more interesting.
Those are the elements that get people sucked in to what you have to say.
You might be thinking, what stories do I tell?
What am I going to be talking about?
Here's the cool thing.
You don't need these crazy stories of your lifetime.
Maybe you haven't been swimming with the sharks, maybe you haven't done much traveling, maybe
there's not a lot that seems to you like a big story, but you'd be surprised that taking
any kind of experience you've ever had, even if it's not crazy, just adding in those elements
of details, emotions and starting off with that attention grabber, that sometimes is
enough to bring the smallest story to life.
It doesn't matter if you tell a story of you getting a good grade when you were in high
school, maybe you passed the crazy test exam, and you stayed up all night for it.
That's probably a boring story, but if you give the details of why it was important,
or why you feel the way you did, it's going to make the story much more interesting.
I want you to think about what are some of the stories of your life.
What are some of the things that have happened to you?
Even if it's a little bit interesting to you, go back and think about your life.
You can use the formula to make it super interesting to the person that you're talking to.
It can be a big change, a big move, getting a new job, having an epiphany, maybe it's
some crazy sport and you broke your arm, any kind of story like that, anything that's going
on in your life.
There's more to storytelling in terms of when you're talking to a girl and you're in conversation,
You're not going to just be telling stories the whole time.
I'm very aware of that.
You're not going to be just sitting there telling stories over and over, like the one
this one time and this one on another time.
You might do it once or twice when you're talking to a girl.
However, you will be talking about other things.
You might be talking about what you do for a living, you might be talking about stuff
that you're interested in, you might be talking about things that have to do with you that
don't necessarily pertain to telling a story with an attention grabber.
Anything that you're saying, you can use this story formula that I was talking about.
Anything you're talking about, whatever it is, even something like she asks you what
you're up to, or what you've been doing today, or what's been going on.
As long as you use the details, being very specific in terms of what you're doing, you're
using emotions, how you're feeling, if you add those two things in, anything you talk
about is going to be more interesting than if you told it in a very normal way.
Here's what I want you to do.
Write down below in the comments one of your stories.
I want everyone to be able to help each other out here.
You don't have to go into detail and write a whole long story.
Just think of maybe a sentence or two of a story that you have so people can read those
and get an idea of the stories that they can tell.
Go ahead and write that below right now.
Go ahead and like the video.
I see you on the next one.
Hopefully, it’ll be a little warmer here.